Looks-how important are they to you (then and now)

[zebrahead7557]

As for looks, we have to be physically attracted to people in order to have sex with them. Let's face it, everyone has their preference. What may not be attractive to some may be to others.

From the time we started until now, I still have a preference for tall guys(I'm a tall woman.) To be honest, I'm not too sure what my husband likes. I think he finds beauty in all women.

[NWARcouple]

Our likes and dislikes have changed a little with time, but that is probably because we are more aware of what to look for in other couples than we were in the beginning.

We tend to look at couples as a whole package, based on several factors (these are in no particular order)...

- Physical Attraction
- Personality
- Attitude
- Chemistry

Any one of these could be a deal breaker, but we are more willing to give a little on appearance than any of the others. Problems with Attitude, Personality, and Chemistry would be VERY difficult for us to overlook!

Both of us have our preferences for appearance, but as long as we are attracted to the couple, some of the physical specifics can be dismissed...

[lovebj]

yes i agree with everyone but i have learn that you can look at a picture of someone and say not bad looking . one time i saw a profile of a couple the girl was cute the guy was alright but we decide to meet them l. Let me tell you they were better looking in person then in the picture. the picture did them no justice. so i come to realize that some people look better in person then in pictures. so think about that before you say no.

[biblonde]

lovebj I agree with you. Pictures dont do alot of people justice. But I do look to see what they look like. There has to be some attraction or it doesnt go any further. I do give pics a benifit of the doubt....but there has to be some attraction. Then I look at the profile and how it was written. If i like both and we meet the most important thing is personality...that will be the final breaking point. We have meet total hotties and said NO WAY just because in person they were stuck up and full of themselves. Our taste really hasnt changed since we got into this.

[fun_pairTX]

There has to be some physical attraction for everything to click, but that by no means Ken and Barbie. I have never met a naturally ugly person, but I have encountered a few gorgeous ones that made themselves pretty hard to take.

[Pepper & Drew]

Both of us have changed our tastes since we've been playing. I think initially we both were looking for our "type" only. Now, after we've played with people who aren't our "types" and had an absolute awesome time, we've begun to see that it's not so much what you look like. It's about sex appeal. Of our play partners, the ones we have the most fun with aren't the ones that I said "wow, they are totally hot" in the beginning. Not that we didn't find them attractive, but that they didn't necessarily fit in the little box we'd made for ourselves. But now....they're scorching hot! So, swinging's made me less shallow. And they say there aren't redeeming values in the lifestyle.....

Pepper

[akamgaxoxo]

I think I have gotten worse as time has gone on about being picky.....I am trying not to sound shallow, but I really think looks and then personality have alot to do with whether I choose this person to play with or not. I chose our playmate....my hubby and I both chatted with him online before hand, and I liked what I heard, I wasn't thrilled with his picture, but I knew he had potential...when I spoke with him on the phone I melted.....and when I finally met him in person, well it was ON!
I have since talked with others and I love what I hear from them, but once I see the pic, I am truely disappointed...oh well......I guess I will keep searching!

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by exploringideas

either by their picture or profile

That one phrase is really the key. It's not just about looks even to you now. It's about looks and what else they present. I think this is why it can be so much easier for some to find play partners at clubs than via ads. At clubs you get their full personality, not just a picture and some words (usualy written by one half of the couple). And that full personality really plays into how someone looks and how attractive/ not they are.

I think that many couples when they first start out are really only looking at the pictures. They're hot let's contact them. But as time goes on I think they do start to realize that looks are comprised of much more than just what you see in a picture.

[midnight hour]

We are still looking..we are not shallow to the point of weight etc..however we do not want to be buried alive either...we are both a little heavy...but I can not get excited by a *huge* man...if that makes me shallow then so be it..I have a hard time with men that look...uhh...slimey...or like they spend all their time drinking..Mr. Midnight has some of the same concerns as me...and I would *love* to get far enough for the personality to kick in..but e-mails like 'Hi..8 inch cock here' leaves me without knowing. BTW they do NOT get answered back...We have met quite a few couples we clicked with personality wise..but there was no attraction there...for either of us..so to play would have been cheating everyone all the way around..I am 43 a little older perhaps to be new to the game...but I am not interested in 60 plus couples..nothing personal...I just am not...I also have a rule if I could have gave birth to you I can not get into that mindset either....so we end up with finding very nice single gentelmen. So far we of course like everyone else are searching for the single female..lol...I hear they do exist..they live in the same neighborhood as the Unicorn.
So in a way things do have to click for us. We are not looking for beauty queens or anything like that..but for us to do the couple thing it will have to be two people that turn both of us on..and so far we have not found them...

midnight hour

[Greg & Sheryl]

Originally Posted by xxoticangel

We are different from most people here but our "pickiness" has actually increased the longer we have been in the lifestyle.

Sheryl has also become pickier the longer she has been in the lifestyle (Greg has remained about the same). When she used to swing with her previous husband, he would constantly persuade her to "take one for the team." Once they split up, she vowed never to do that again (not that Greg would ask her to do so, anyway).

Originally Posted by xxoticangel

When "shopping" online we tend to look for more attractive people. When we are at the club our standards lower as our "hornyness" increases. Its a bad way to say if but in the heat of the moment we (read I) will play with someone that I would not consider playing with if I thought about it for a couple of days.

We are also guilty of this. In a club environment, we occasionally end up with a couple we would otherwise never consider. Sometimes we might "settle" for a couple that seems less than ideal. Other times, we might be in a group room and allow ourselves to be joined by a couple we never would have approached.