size question

[SweetOne]

I know there are different people of different shapes and sizes in the lifestyle. I am wondering if people just go for a set type are open minded about all people all shapes and sizes??
My reason for asking this is I am a BBW and hubby and I have a wonderful time meeting a lot of great other couples with bbw's but there are been times i have seen women smaller then me and been attracted to them but am to self concious about myself to go up and talk to someone that is thin.. Now don't get me wrong i don't hate myself cause i love myself but i am also working on getting the weight off to be healthier for me and my family but i don't want to ever be skinny skinny i would love to stay a small bbw. But i am fully attracted to bbw's and thin women..

If your a bbw do you get scared going on talking to thinner men or women? And if you are a thin man or woman or couple are you turned off by bigger people or would you give them a chance if you click personality wise???
Anna

[biblonde]

Honestly...I am a very thin person but....I dont look down on those who are bigger than I am.Looks arent only about size. We do have a playmate that fits in the bbw catagory and we dont have a problem with it. She is very pretty and extreamly sweet. Although most of our playmates are smaller. What we look for is attraction...and personality. We both like the girly girl look, ya know doing the hair, makeup, clothes. Ones that try to look attractive.
I hope this helps some.. best of luck to you!!

[gsmusic]

Well, I am totally a newby, but am a little heavy (think Jack Black size), so I think I have something positive to add to this thread.

When I was younger I used to be very insecure, and have always been towards the heavier side.

At the same time, as I grew older and became more confident, I simply don't feel insecure at all. Objectively, I am still handsome, and have many other qualities, that women find attractive- my wit, my musical and artistic endeavors, my confidence, my ability to put people at ease, and my empathic nature.

Admittedly, I am sure it can "feel" more difficult for a woman, when society seems to place more expectations on appearance. Still, my advice is to focus on the things that make you feel good about yourself! Don't take rejection personally, because people are finicky. There are so many different types of people, with various interests, that it is a wonder that people can make a connection at all !

[JustAskJulie]

Swinging is just like any cross-section of people. Some like skinny people, some like heavier, some light skinned, some darker, some blonds, some brunettes and on and on. DIfferent people have different things that turn them on. There are many who will say no to you automatically if you are a BBW, but there are just as many who are looking for things beyond weight. So if you get turned down just move on and shrug it off. It's not you, it's them.

There's a section in the archive here on the issues of Weight and Age that has several threads regarding these questions. You might want to read through them.

[Greg & Sheryl]

Originally Posted by SweetOne

I am a BBW and hubby and I have a wonderful time meeting a lot of great other couples with bbw's but there are been times i have seen women smaller then me and been attracted to them but am to self concious about myself to go up and talk to someone that is thin.

You are not alone in your fear. Even though Sheryl does not quite qualify for BBW status, she is very nervous about approaching couples who she feels are “out of our league.” If the couple is too young, too thin or too attractive, she will avoid them. At this year’s Lifestyles Convention, she sat with several members of Lifestyles Lounge (a website favored by most of the “beautiful people” in this lifestyle) while Greg was competing in the “Best Buns” contest. She felt very out-of-place among this group, and was disappointed when one lady reacted with apparent disbelief that Greg was her husband.

[biblonde]

She felt very out-of-place among this group, and was disappointed when one lady reacted with apparent disbelief that Greg was her husband.

omg...how rude! I cant beleive the gull of some people. I am so sorry she had to deal with that. I can almost gaurantee that sherly has a lot better personality than any of the "barbie" types. and if that is a pic of you two...she is cute! My response to those ladies would have been "BITE ME" LOL LOL It is such a shame that some think they are all that and no one measures up to them. But just remember there are those with class out there!

[Greg & Sheryl]

Originally Posted by biblonde

...if that is a pic of you two...she is cute!

Yes, that is our pic. Thank you for the kind words!

[mokytag02]

In our opinion a being beatuful person doesn't have to do with size. It has to do with how they carry themselves and their attitude and personality. People who judge solely on size or looks are missing out on a lot of great people. A beautiful person is a beautiful person no matter what their size.

[hotblonde47]

Ok I'm really going to stir up the mud here .... I somewhat disagree. I would say that all of us are on this site because we'd like to have fun with other couples or even other singles. Making friendships along the way is a bonus but the whole issue is sex. That said, we are all attracted to very different physical aspects of people. And when you're looking online for someone that you might want to hook up with all you have to go on for the initial contact is whether or not they are physically attractive to you. However, in a club situation it is somewhat different, you can get close to someone across a table and pick up on their great personality before you are physically attracted, this happened to me and a male friend a little while ago. Had I seen him online I would not have contacted him, but in the CF bar in Myrtle Beach we had a ball playing pool and laughing and joking, such a great sense of humor and wonderful personality that his "build" kinda shrank into the background, we have played as couples since then. Depends I think where you are getting your contacts from.

[mrs good times]

Originally Posted by hotblonde47

Depends I think where you are getting your contacts from.

I agree with this statement and have had just the opposite situation in a club.

This very handsome couple came in and the man had a great smile (real turn on for me) but they appeared to be much younger than us so I didn't consider approaching them first. When they did approach us later in the evening I was quite intrigued however after talking to the male half for about ten minutes I was so turned off that we declined their offer. He kept interupting during the conversation and bragging about his musical career so he was obviously overly impressed with himself.

[jcbicouple]

We agree with hotblonde & Mrs. Good times. We've often met people at the club we attend that we weren't initially attracted to, but ended up playing with them later. While we aren't looking for friends, being polite, intelligent, and being able to hold a conversation goes a long way. These are things you don't always uncover about someone through on line contacts.

I'll jump in with the club vs. ad thing.

I agree with the others. We have been with people from the clubs we have been to that we would not have given a second look at from their profile.
Some of the people we have swung with at clubs are some of the funnest people to be around. Unfortunately you can't get that from a written profile on a computer screen. All you have on a computer is a visual. Which is important. But we have found that even if we were not all that phisicaly attracted to them in the beginning (people we meet in clubs) we become more physicaly attracted to them as we get to know them.

Personality does So Much!!