What are you physically attracted to?

[soflafun]

My first time posting a reply, thanks for your wise toughts TNT! I mean that with total respect. We're 37 & 40 and No, we're not looking for perfect bodies but we draw a line. We've been doing this for about 8 yrs. What I am trying to convey is, that, when you're in the lifestyles enviroment looks are very important.

[BradAndJanet]

I like how Mr. Spoomonkey puts it: "...I have a fairly generous strike zone." I guess I know what he means; I love women of all shapes and sizes.

It's attitude, really, that attracts me the most. I like a woman who is self-assured, can carry on a good conversation, is uninhibited sexually and knows how to enjoy herself, whether she's at the club or the library. Smiles turn me on.

Of course, it helps if she's interested in me, too.

-B

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by Alura

Are we just lucky or are there people who go directly from shoeing horses and branding cattle to the swing club, without a dip in the water trough?

Okay - this made me laugh out loud...

And when I laugh out loud, Mrs Spoomonkey says, "What?" so I end up reading the entire thread aloud... It's like a weird punishment and it is teaching me not to laugh.

We all have our standards and places where we will not go. But to describe the woman I am looking for - that is impossible. My dream woman is across the room checking her e-mail... I've got that... And when I found her, I didn't just "bag" her, I married her...

Okay - I did "bag" her, too.

But, in my defense I was planning on marrying her...

So, because of that, for me, personality is really the biggest part of what we look for. I mean, I think we are a relatively attractive couple (and by relatively, I mean freakin' smokin' hot!!!) but that's not all we are. She is incredibly personable and friendly, I can be sort of humorous when I get warmed into a situation.

It would be easier, I think to describe where I wouldn't go than where I would. But that would be quite dangerous. For example - let's say that I were to post "I don't like fat chicks". Fair enough... But - if you are married you know that nearly every woman in the world thinks you are talking about them. I prefer to go to the club and think to myself - "I don't like her." It is much safer that way...

Spoomonkey

[JustAskJulie]

I've never had a particular thing I've looked for. It's always come down to whether or not I hit it off with the people involved. There has to be a physical attraction, but quite often a physical attraction is amplified by a mental attraction.

I'm much pickier when it comes to women than to men. Of course there are a lot of people that I wouldn't turn down but far fewer that I'd go chasing after if that makes sense. Not every woman is an Amy (those who were at the SE meetup know what I'm talking about).

[Handyman69]

The attraction must be there..Of course We tend to stay away from very obese people. We look for open people. Conversation has to flow too..we are not into lets just have some sexual fun and get up and leave. Nice to chat a little too. We also look for people that are understanding about kids ( as I in my early 40s but have 7 yr old triplets at home)..we need to be able the plan ahead a little so babysitter can be arrange...and our family life is first (as we would expect that in you too).

We also like honesty at all times. Also we are no "Ken and Barbie" and don't expect it either but you got to care about yourself...

There is probably more that I'm forgetting..but it is Monday and I'm tired..LOL
but you get my points..

Rhonda
(yes it has been a long time since we posted..but we are back )

[woodyxyz]

This thread certainly proves Kensey's point that 90% of sex is between the ears!
My criteria is more simple - Image is nothing, enthusiasm is everything!

[C n' D 4playin]

personality........first and foremost for both of us.

C almost always falls for flashing playful eyes....no matter what body they are in.

D likes his women smart and assured....and playful. He almost always insists that they are able to laugh.....at life...at the current situation......hell... at him if he deserves it.........but they HAVE to have a sense of humor.
But back to the origional question..WHAT TO LOOK FOR........smart with rounded edges does it for him most days.

[Cr8tivecpl]

Okay...let's see. On one hand, I could say that "I don't look for a type" but upon reflection, I realize thast that isn't true. In my thirty plus years of adulthood, I realize several things that my mind takes for granted. From a physical p.o.v., I tend toward taller rather than shorter women (barring my "5-ft. stretched" ex-wife). I don't like women who are skinny/scrawny and i am not a big fan of "bigger" women. I prefer healthy/HWP bodies to model-thin or the svelte-zaftig type. A casual/down-to-earth look vs. the made-up high maintenance "look-at-me-I-look-good" approach gets me going every time. Of course there is more to this than meets the eye and it is the unforeseen that really is my major focus. INTELLIGENCE is number one...let's face it, sex starts between the ears - contrary to many beliefs. If my mind can't be excited, my crotch area is going to be very inactive...really!!! I'll take an Angela Bassett or a Madeleine Stowe type with brains, independence, sass, sarcasm, a good pair of jeans and boots to go with before any "media-sanctioned flava of the month-type" any day. Oh yeah and one other thing, crazy wild hair (for example (reference only): the lovely female half of GoodbiGirl).

So...combine that with good personality...the ability to discuss anything...a good bottle of wine...and you pretty much have it.

Thank you for your support...