How Do You Swing?

LowPurrCpl · 12-23-2003, 12:50 AM

Some background info on the question: I have noticed that swinging encounters range from fun with long term friends to one night stands at on-premise clubs... with a whole lot in between.

My question is... What is your preference? For example...Do you like swinging at an on-premise club with others that you may or may not ever see again? Or is making a long term friendship a better alternative for you? What do you see as the advantages/disadvantages to your swinging style?

LowPurrCpl

Elusive BiFem · 12-23-2003, 02:04 AM

Most definitely long term relationships for me. No particular advantages or disadvantages other than that is what works for me. Takes me a while to really warm up to people to the point that I can enjoy fully enjoy myself. Different strokes...

- EBF

wrnakedru · 12-23-2003, 05:42 AM

We are definitely long term relationship type folks. We have not ever attended an on premises club, although we have gone to off premise clubs.

Advantages - for us, it's just that it suits what we seek to find in others, for ourselves. We want the comfort and ease with one another that knowing one another brings. And no, it doesn't take away from the fun.

Disadvantages - probably the same as for any couple that choses to swing only together. I am sure it must be far easier to find playmates on a one on one basis. Finding couples with equal attraction all around can be difficult.

geeman · 12-23-2003, 07:12 AM

We prefer on-premise clubs. For us, swinging is something we do maybe once every couple of months. We always play together, but it gives us a chance to lose some inhibitions and fullfil some fantasies. We've never been interested in finding long term play partners. Actually, we've always felt uncomfortable using the term "lifestyle", because for us it is something we do less frequently than any of our other hobbies, or even going to a pub or dance club.

We don't see any advantages or disadvantages either way; it's all about personal preferences.

VegasLee · 12-23-2003, 11:48 AM

We have found that we don't "play" with our long time friends that we have met in clubs or at parties. We played with most of them when we met but then became friends and just hang out or go to parties together.

Seems that when a lot of us that are swingers get together to party, we all play with the new ones in the group rather then with each other.

About five years ago a long time friend in the lifestyle told us that "you don't **** your friends". Now I know he said it as a joke at the time but it seems to hold true with most of the group that we hang out with.

hotcpl4unfla · 12-23-2003, 06:01 PM

Long term. We like to feel comfortable with people in order to make the experience more relaxed and therefore more enjoyable for all. We just keep the variety in it like our home one-on-one sex life.

Roxysbayou · 12-23-2003, 06:11 PM

We tend to have short term relationships. We always try to get to know those that we play with, but it has just worked out that eventually we seem to go our seperate ways. Maybe we just haven't met the right couple yet.

I still haven't tried an on premise club yet, more due to location than anything. Maybe someday we'll give it a try.

Roxy

jcbicouple · 12-23-2003, 07:25 PM

We prefer short term, and even one night stands. We definitely aren't looking for any long term relationships. We do enjoy going out and having fun, and need to be able to have a conversation with the people that we play with. We aren't however, looking for friends, someone to hang out with regularly, or someone that is expecting us to call. For us the benefits are that our private (home) life stays that way, and we still get all the benefits we want out of swinging. Plus we don't have to deal with all of the emotional baggage that we read about other people going through. Of course, we don't have a large group of non swinging friends either. We tend to keep to ourselves most of the time, so this is really what suits our personalities best.
Disadvantages.....haven't found them yet. (been at this for 5+ years, btw)

NotsoNew · 12-23-2003, 10:41 PM

We like to get to know the couples we play with. Never into one night stands when single, so why start now?

Not to say we would not take the opportunity, but we like to have a connection.

***JustAskJulie*** · 05-31-2006, 04:28 PM

^bump^

Alex · 05-31-2006, 04:54 PM

My first post here and not an english spoken person so forgive me in advance.
We are swinging for 5 years now and we prefer long term relations. We fell more comfortable to know our partners and gives us a total different perspective. We had our one night stands occasionally but there isn't anything better than a long steady happy relationship

**good times** · 05-31-2006, 05:59 PM

AS is usually the case, I have to agree with Vegaslee. We have found that once we become good friends we often play together less and less.

Someone said something to me recently that got me to thinking about this. This person said he was only into "new sex" with others. Once he had gotten to know somebody he wasn't interested in sex with them anymore. After thinking about what he said for a bit, it started to make some sense to me. My wife and I have great sex, the only thing we can't recreate ever again is the excitment of the first time. I think that for a lot of swingers after having played with somebody for a few times, it becomes just the same old thing. I think that may be what is so great about the clubs and why they are so popular, always new people to meet and "new sex" to have.

tribbles · 05-31-2006, 06:34 PM

We are finding that if we go back to the same on premise clubs we meet the same people and get to know them. Thus we get to be semi friends with great sex.

One couple we like so much we do hope to become better friends with but we don't want to spoil the good sex so we are taking it slow in the friendship arena.

S

**fun4Ds** · 05-31-2006, 07:24 PM

after 2 yrs of full time go anywhere meet anyone swinging

, we kind of came to a break. we are happy with the close friends we have made. we like to entertain at home

.and there is a comfort zone with that. actually we spent this past weekend alone having some great sex for 3 days straight just reminencing. swinging seems to have added alot to our personal sex lives facelick . thats pretty much how we are swinging now.

Pepper & Drew · 05-31-2006, 10:37 PM

Most of the couples we've played with are good friends now, although we weren't necessarily good friends when we played the first time. We tend to make friends easily, but it's not a prerequisite to play. Although, we do find that sex with people you know is more fun...they learn what you like facelick

Pepper

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12-23-2003, 12:50 AM	#1 (permalink)
LowPurrCpl Here to Stay Join Date: Nov 2003 Posts: 83 Location: North Alabama Status: Couple	How Do You Swing? Some background info on the question: I have noticed that swinging encounters range from fun with long term friends to one night stands at on-premise clubs... with a whole lot in between. My question is... What is your preference? For example...Do you like swinging at an on-premise club with others that you may or may not ever see again? Or is making a long term friendship a better alternative for you? What do you see as the advantages/disadvantages to your swinging style? LowPurrCpl
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12-23-2003, 05:42 AM	#3 (permalink)
wrnakedru Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jun 2003 Posts: 1,989 Location: Bliss Status: Female	Same for us .... We are definitely long term relationship type folks. We have not ever attended an on premises club, although we have gone to off premise clubs. Advantages - for us, it's just that it suits what we seek to find in others, for ourselves. We want the comfort and ease with one another that knowing one another brings. And no, it doesn't take away from the fun. Disadvantages - probably the same as for any couple that choses to swing only together. I am sure it must be far easier to find playmates on a one on one basis. Finding couples with equal attraction all around can be difficult.

12-23-2003, 11:48 AM	#5 (permalink)
VegasLee Laura's Male Join Date: Dec 2003 Posts: 1,949 Location: Las Vegas, Nevada Status: Laura's Male	We have found that we don't "play" with our long time friends that we have met in clubs or at parties. We played with most of them when we met but then became friends and just hang out or go to parties together. Seems that when a lot of us that are swingers get together to party, we all play with the new ones in the group rather then with each other. About five years ago a long time friend in the lifestyle told us that "you don't **** your friends". Now I know he said it as a joke at the time but it seems to hold true with most of the group that we hang out with.
	__________________ You all laugh at me because I am different. I laugh at all of you because you are all the same.

12-23-2003, 06:11 PM	#7 (permalink)
Roxysbayou Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Mar 2003 Posts: 1,376 Location: Louisiana Status: Married Female Swing Lifestyle Name:likethat	We tend to have short term relationships. We always try to get to know those that we play with, but it has just worked out that eventually we seem to go our seperate ways. Maybe we just haven't met the right couple yet. I still haven't tried an on premise club yet, more due to location than anything. Maybe someday we'll give it a try. Roxy
	__________________ I put the "grrrr" in swinger baby, yeah! --Austin Powers

12-23-2003, 02:04 AM	#2 (permalink)
Elusive BiFem Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2002 Posts: 3,398 Location: Texas Status: Single Female	Most definitely long term relationships for me. No particular advantages or disadvantages other than that is what works for me. Takes me a while to really warm up to people to the point that I can enjoy fully enjoy myself. Different strokes... - EBF

12-23-2003, 07:12 AM	#4 (permalink)
geeman Here to Stay Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 52 Location: Texas/Ohio Status: Male half of couple	We prefer on-premise clubs. For us, swinging is something we do maybe once every couple of months. We always play together, but it gives us a chance to lose some inhibitions and fullfil some fantasies. We've never been interested in finding long term play partners. Actually, we've always felt uncomfortable using the term "lifestyle", because for us it is something we do less frequently than any of our other hobbies, or even going to a pub or dance club. We don't see any advantages or disadvantages either way; it's all about personal preferences.

12-23-2003, 06:01 PM	#6 (permalink)
hotcpl4unfla Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Sep 2001 Posts: 168 Location: Tampa, Florida USA Status: Couple	Long term. We like to feel comfortable with people in order to make the experience more relaxed and therefore more enjoyable for all. We just keep the variety in it like our home one-on-one sex life.

12-23-2003, 07:25 PM	#8 (permalink)
jcbicouple Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 680 Location: Indiana Status: Happily Married Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:jcbicouple	We prefer short term, and even one night stands. We definitely aren't looking for any long term relationships. We do enjoy going out and having fun, and need to be able to have a conversation with the people that we play with. We aren't however, looking for friends, someone to hang out with regularly, or someone that is expecting us to call. For us the benefits are that our private (home) life stays that way, and we still get all the benefits we want out of swinging. Plus we don't have to deal with all of the emotional baggage that we read about other people going through. Of course, we don't have a large group of non swinging friends either. We tend to keep to ourselves most of the time, so this is really what suits our personalities best. Disadvantages.....haven't found them yet. (been at this for 5+ years, btw)

12-23-2003, 10:41 PM	#9 (permalink)
NotsoNew Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2002 Posts: 392 Location: MD Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:newbies123	long term We like to get to know the couples we play with. Never into one night stands when single, so why start now? Not to say we would not take the opportunity, but we like to have a connection.

05-31-2006, 04:28 PM	#10 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 29,287 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard	Re: How Do You Swing? ^bump^

05-31-2006, 04:54 PM	#11 (permalink)
Alex Registered Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 3 Location: Athens Greece	Re: How Do You Swing? My first post here and not an english spoken person so forgive me in advance. We are swinging for 5 years now and we prefer long term relations. We fell more comfortable to know our partners and gives us a total different perspective. We had our one night stands occasionally but there isn't anything better than a long steady happy relationship

05-31-2006, 05:59 PM	#12 (permalink)
good times Mod Squad Member Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 6,919 Location: Reno, Nevada Status: Married to Mrs Good Times Swing Lifestyle Name:randp	Re: How Do You Swing? AS is usually the case, I have to agree with Vegaslee. We have found that once we become good friends we often play together less and less. Someone said something to me recently that got me to thinking about this. This person said he was only into "new sex" with others. Once he had gotten to know somebody he wasn't interested in sex with them anymore. After thinking about what he said for a bit, it started to make some sense to me. My wife and I have great sex, the only thing we can't recreate ever again is the excitment of the first time. I think that for a lot of swingers after having played with somebody for a few times, it becomes just the same old thing. I think that may be what is so great about the clubs and why they are so popular, always new people to meet and "new sex" to have.
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05-31-2006, 06:34 PM	#13 (permalink)
tribbles Fun and Pleasure Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 949 Location: SouthWest Status: Couple	Re: How Do You Swing? We are finding that if we go back to the same on premise clubs we meet the same people and get to know them. Thus we get to be semi friends with great sex. One couple we like so much we do hope to become better friends with but we don't want to spoil the good sex so we are taking it slow in the friendship arena. S
	__________________ Evel Knievel died of natural causes.

05-31-2006, 07:24 PM	#14 (permalink)
fun4Ds Julie's Helper Join Date: Jul 2005 Posts: 6,485 Location: Behind door #2 Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:mrmrsfun	Re: How Do You Swing? after 2 yrs of full time go anywhere meet anyone swinging , we kind of came to a break. we are happy with the close friends we have made. we like to entertain at home .and there is a comfort zone with that. actually we spent this past weekend alone having some great sex for 3 days straight just reminencing. swinging seems to have added alot to our personal sex lives facelick . thats pretty much how we are swinging now.

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