Multiple Couples vs. one couple preference

[jay93tara]

I noticed a few posts in another thread that mentioned only being with one couple. Is this an unwritten rule or just a personal preference? Please don't take offense to this but it seems almost hypocritical to let another couple into your life like that and then say you aren't going to be with anyone else. I'm not talking about "bed hopping" every week but what about when you meet that second awesome couple?

Anyway, when I considered the issue that's how it came out for me. I am in no way calling someone a hypocrit for making there own descisions. I just question the logic and want to hear the other side of the arguement. Any one?

Jay

Originally posted by jay93tara:
I noticed a few posts in another thread that mentioned only being with one couple. Is this an unwritten rule or just a personal preference?

Speaking as someone who wrote about being with one couple I'd like to respond by saying it is, for right now, a personal preference. We are new to the lifestyle. It took us a while before we became comfortable with this couple. I don't know if we'll ever delve into multiples but I don't think it's very fair or you to say that it hypocritical.

It's not as if this is a marriage but I do see this as some type of committment. You are entrusting another person or persons to be intimate with the person you love more than anyone else in the world, your spouse. You have to be comfortable with this person(s) in order to attain the level of trust that's required.

As for meeting that second awesome couple, in our location that's not likely. We live in the Bible Belt. It's not easy to find partners in the first place. According to everyone around here that's an awful sin, but I won't even get into that subject.

Yummy

[jay93tara]

I am in no way calling someone a hypocrit for making there own descisions. I just question the logic and want to hear the other side of the arguement.

Ok not sure how that got missed but apperently it did. In your case it is preference and thats great. I completely understand. But some of the posts I read led me to believe that there was more to it then just a personal choice. If thats the case then the topic is useless to discuss any further.

[Stratecpl]

I agree with you thats it's a personal choice thing. And I also hear ya on the Bible belt thing too. LOL We also live in the Bible belt and it's really hard to find other people interested in this lifestyle and in our case it's even harder to find 100% straight couples too! LOL But our awesome straight couple/couples are out there somewhere, maybe someday.... http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/smile.gif

[modi]

Well, we just moved from the heart of the Bible Belt to TX, which I am not sure is in or out.
My point is, we are from CA, and had never experienced the lifestyle until we moved to KS! Never had any lack of interested folks provided we were willing to travel an hour or so.
The one couple thing really is just a matter of personal preference and/or a product of just getting started. We began saying "when we find someone we are comfortable with, we will make them exclusive." We now say, "if we find someone we click with, we will not rule them out just because we already play with so and so."
Bottom line is to be as comfortable as possible with your choices, whatever they may be!
Happy swinging all! http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/smile.gif

[JustAskJulie]

One couple or multiple couples is purely choice. Many couples do choose to be monogomous with one other couple for many reasons. I think that one of the biggest is that it reduces the risk of disease and many other problems that may crop up when you are jumping around from playmate to playmate.

Another issue is trust. It's not easy for many people to find couples that they trust enough to play with, so once they do they stick with that couple.

When it comes down to it everything in this lifestyle is about personal preference and what is right for you.

Julie http://www.swingersboard.com

Well said and I agree with Julie! http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/wink.gif It's all in the "personal" preference thing, and whatever works best for both you & yours and your partner(s)...

We've never swung with more than one couple at a time....Yet. It's not that we don't want to, the opportunity just never arised....Yet. http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/biggrin.gif

HOPEfully one of these days, all our couples we've swung with so far (about 4 regulars), we'll all get together and have an EROTIC SEX party! OH YEAH BABY!!! http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/tongue.gif


Wife of CyberMWCouple

[cNJ3sum]

If it were up to me, I would be perfectly content sticking with one couple. The couple that we swing with is awesome!!!. We are totally attracted to them. The problem is that my wife and I are always ready. The husband is always ready (lets face it, he's a guy). The wife is the determining factor. If she isn't ready, NOBODY is getting it. I'm new to the "Lifestyle". I have an appetite for it now. I don't like when one person holds all the cards. This is the only reason why I look around.

[JustAskJulie]

Do you typically swing with just one couple at a time? Or do you "spread yourself around" to multiple couples at the same time? Do the other couples know that they are not the only ones?

If you only swing with one couples at a time, do you want to be the only couple they swing with? How do you know that you are the only one?

[fun_pairTX]

[QUOTE]Originally posted by JustAskJulie
[B]Do you typically swing with just one couple at a time? Or do you "spread yourself around" to multiple couples at the same time? Do the other couples know that they are not the only ones?

We usually swing in a group of up to 12 when everybody can get there. They know they are not the only ones cause the lights are on LOL.

[Alura]

Originally posted by jay93tara
I noticed a few posts in another thread that mentioned only being with one couple. Is this an unwritten rule or just a personal preference?

Jay

To us, it's neither, jay93tara. It's just that we've never known more than one play couple at a time.

Alura

[Vjklander]

at a time?

[JustAskJulie]

Originally posted by Vjklander
at a time?

In a general time period. In other words are you monogomous with one couple, or do you swing with multiple couples?

[TNT]

We have one couple that we play with on a regular basis and have been for about two years now. However, we are not and don't want to be monogomous with them or anyone else.

They know we play with others, as well as, they also play with others. We tell everyone that we play with that we do play with others so they don't get the idea that once we have played with them that it will be an exclusive relationship.

The only exclusive relationship we want is with each other. So our answer would be that we swing with multiple couples and singles and they all know about it.

Teresa

[Alura]

Originally posted by JustAskJulie
In a general time period. In other words are you monogomous with one couple, or do you swing with multiple couples?

We've always been monogamous with the couple we were playing with at the time. That was not by choice. We just didn't know another couple who played.

A few years ago, with the encouragement of our regular play couple, we were searching for a third couple to join us. We found them but before we could make it happen our regular play couple broke up.

It freaked us out so much we gave up swinging. We haven't started again, yet, but we have some good prospects!

Alura
This post is Mrs. Alura approved. (Used under license with Mr. Spoomonkey.)