Didn't all get full swap...what do we do now?

[bobbyv50]

We met with this other cpl that said they were into full swap. Well the evening that we decided to all get together. Something weird happend. When we all went upstairst to seperate rooms the other lady started to tell me how she does not take off her top, self concious about her stomach. Then after that as we were getting into some kissing and foreplay she said she was not ready for penetration. She just wanted to suck on me till she made me cum. "And oh yes do not cum in my mouth". Needless to say it was not a very fun evening for me.
My wife on the other hand had a great time with the other gentleman and was concerned that the ohter gal did not go"All the Way". She spoke with the toher lady after a week or so had gone by and asked her if there was a problem. Of course she said No.
We like to only play on same terms either soft for soft or Full swap for full swap.
Our question is what should we do?
Do we give this cpl another chance and see if the wife will go for penetraion or should we just say oh well and find someone else.
Any and all advice will be greatly appreciated.

[BiloxiCouple]

What do you do?

Do what you want or move on.

The other lady isn't full swap, but her husband is. You weren't real clear, but that is the jist of what the story is? Are you happy with this situation? Talk to them about it and if they don't give an answer you like then move on.

Swinging isn't about them, it's about you. I believe that is the bottom line with most things. For us, we would move on.

[JustAskJulie]

It's really up to you. If you are interested in giving it another shot I would suggest that you be upfront with them and state that you want everyone on the same terms. This may require same room play in order to ensure that everything stays even.

My concern is whether or not this is the norm for her/them. Was she just not ready for full swap with you guys, or is she not ready for full swap at all?

[bobbyv50]

Thank You for the reply. You are absolutely right. It should be about US and our needs and wants.

[iapr]

There old sayng is there are plenty of other fish in the sea. To have one person coming out of 4some a little on the disappointed side is not all that rare. To have 4 people all at an equal level of interest and satisfaction doesn't happen all that often.

From your description it doesn't sound like there was necessarily any problems per se. She either was just not as into it at the moment as everyone else or else maybe she just isn't that great of a lover. Not everyone is a porn star.

Don't dwell on it and don't make problems where there aren't any. Just chalk it up as good night for your wife and an ok at best night for you. It happens to all of us at times.

If you run into these people again sometime and she is all over you and says she had an offnight and really wants a rematch you can cross that bridge when you get to it otherwise I wouldn't invest any more time and energy into these folks.

[sweet_tna]

It happens to the best of us. The good news is, at least your wife and the other hubby seemed to have a good time. The better news is that you can move on and find another couple to play with.

[N&G]

We almost never do separate rooms with new couples for this very reason. If the woman doesn't want to play then nobody is going to play. If she isn't full swap then it's soft swap all around. We do not intend to be taken advantage of and I would suspect that the other guy knew that his partner didn't play when they met you.

I agree with others that you have to do what is best for you and your wife. If you feel that this is a couple you do not want to give another try at then you just move on. MrVan and I had a situation with another couple where we played in the same room but the wife never wanted MrVan to participate with her but it was okay for her to be with me and me with her husband but she seemed to always avoid MrVan and it made play sessions terrible for us.

We gave this couple three try's to make changes and voiced our concerns to them and as usual the wife said there were no problems and she was sorry and would make sure to include MrVan but our last time we played with them, she still continued to leave MrVan out. We then decided this couple was not ones we wanted to continue to play with and therefore no longer are in contact with them.

You have to do what is best for you as a couple. It is not fair to you to not have a good evening everytime you get with this couple while your wife is having all the fun. You got into this for the BOTH of you. You could find if you try it again with this couple that your first experience may already have you uneasy going into a play session and therefore could have a negative affect on the session.

Good luck and let us know what happens!

MrsVan