MFM in a working marriage??

[curiouscpl72]

hello all
just a question for all... wondering if there are married couples who have no problem with mmf 3somes.? we would love to hear from the good and bad experiences......
brief intro
we are married 10 years and have been through many of the lows that come with marriage.
we have stuck together no matter what...and in the last very happy 5 years
we have been bringing up alot of our 'swinging type' experiences from b4 we were married.
we already have examined the possible pro's and con's of this but wonder about other couples experiences....
we are very sexual and plan to do the 4 some in the future + this seems to have arrisen 1st.
for we meet the potential 3rd later this week.
and both being secure with it and totally turned on by it.
thx for the help
j&p

[VegasLee]

Most of our play time is spent in MMF. We don't like waiting for months/years trying to find a couple that we both want to be with. It happens, couple times a year but we never go looking for it.

We have found there is much less drama and more good times with MMF type play.

As long as you keep it to play and not try to adopt the guy or make something more of the relationship then there really is it is a great way to enjoy swinging. Keep it simple. Works for us.

[ItTakes3]

Ditto to Lee's comments.

[mitzi54]

mmmmmmmmmm... we love MMF's.

We seem to spend months/years looking for that rare FFM.

[JnCC]

Some couples are apparently able to make them work, but overall, I think they tend to be more problematic than straight, MFMF relationships. It depends a lot on why you're getting into this specific type of pairing rather than the more common 4-some, and on how you choose the male.

True, it can be a little more work to meet a couple that you both click with, but assuming you and your wife are pretty evenly matched in age, appearance, etc., it shouldn't be that hard. The internet makes it 100X easier than it was back in the days of "Seekers Magazine" and Polaroid snapshots (that people never returned).

I've seen it from both sides...both as the husband of a woman who enjoyed an occasional MFM, and as a single male. Knowing what I know now, if I were in a relationship that mattered to me, I'd be extremely hesitant to invite a solo male into our bedroom. If we did, it would have to be somebody we met at a hotel bar or dance club, not on the internet or at a swing club.

[VegasLee]

JnCC,

I have to admit that you have given me some good.. No, great information that I finally have figure out from many of your posts.

We have traveled to most states and even other countries to go to clubs, parties and swingers conventions but never to KY.

After reading of your experiences we have put KY on the list of somewhere we would never want to party.

Thank you!

[TNT]

MFM is our perfered way to play...we do on occasion play with couples, but it is very rare and even rarer FMF. We have never had a problem with any single man that we have played with and most that we play with last long-term.

You get out of swinging what you are willing to put into it. There are no set rules as to how you are suppose to swing. Do what you are comfortable with.


Teresa

[curiouscpl72]

thx for the input
we are already so comfortable in our sex lives that after talking
for a about a year on it we know we don't need to do it ....
we want to do it.
i think our only concern is what if the 3rd gets or tries to get emotionally involved....?we know we would have to cut the string real fast...
any others have a problem with a 3rd getting a bid to close.(other than sex)
thx again
j&p

[Thrax]

Is it just me, or is anyone else anticipating a bit of a flame-war on this thread?

Well, I'll just sit back and be ready with the marshmallows on the sticks.

flamethrow

Whatever happens, hope everyone has a good time!

Thrax

[imsnowman]

Originally Posted by VegasLee

JnCC,
I have to admit that you have given me some good.. No, great information that I finally have figure out from many of your posts.
We have traveled to most states and even other countries to go to clubs, parties and swingers conventions but never to KY.
After reading of your experiences we have put KY on the list of somewhere we would never want to party.
Thank you!

What's with the subtle but, gratuitous insult?
I don't see him insulting you!

[Coupleinidaho]

Originally Posted by JnCC

I've seen it from both sides...both as the husband of a woman who enjoyed an occasional MFM, and as a single male. Knowing what I know now, if I were in a relationship that mattered to me, I'd be extremely hesitant to invite a solo male into our bedroom. If we did, it would have to be somebody we met at a hotel bar or dance club, not on the internet or at a swing club.

Oh, I'm just waiting for the put-downs to start. Namely, the only reason that JnCC wouldn't want a MFM in his commited relationship is because of jealousy, insecurity, lack of self-esteem and/or self-confidence. That's usually where the conversation heads in posts like this, which is sad.

It's really quite interesting, after reading these boards with my hubby for over 6 months, how much the women run the action. I know that sounds like a no-brainer, but I'm also talking about how hard posters come down on the men when they express insecurities, and how tender and with kid-gloves it is when it's the woman expressing those feelings. Hmm, wonder why that is...

Personally, I would never expect my husband to let me sleep with another man, if I weren't willing to let him sleep with another woman (which will never happen, he's all mine). More power to those folks that can soley do one or the other. But I think in a relationship, if you don't have true equality, sooner or later someone's going to feel left out and be taking one repeatedly for the "team."

Mrs.

[JnCC]

Originally Posted by VegasLee

JnCC,

I have to admit that you have given me some good.. No, great information that I finally have figure out from many of your posts.

We have traveled to most states and even other countries to go to clubs, parties and swingers conventions but never to KY.

After reading of your experiences we have put KY on the list of somewhere we would never want to party.

Thank you!

Hey man, CHILL OUT! It's just an internet forum. Post what you know. There are no "right" or "wrong" opinions, just different experiences.

I hate to tell you this, but if you're serious about "never wanting to party in Kentucky" because of my lifestyle experiences here, you're going to have to add California, Oregon (Ah, Jubitz!), Illinois, Indiana, Ohio, Michigan, New York, both Carolinas (North and South), Georgia, Florida, Jamaica and the Bahamas to the list as well. Arizona misses on a technicality, but if "Mother Nature" cooperates, West Virginia could be on the list before the week is out.

Better add the cruise ship "Carnival Ecstacy" and American Airlines to the list too. Well, American Airlines 767's at least. Sorry I can't be more specific, but I didn't catch the tail # as we departed the jetway.

In fact, you probably ought to quit swinging altogether, because with just a little searching, I'm sure you would find people everywhere whose experiences, and therefore their opinions, are different from yours.

In the meantime, relax, and share with us why YOU feel that you and the Mrs. have such a hard time finding a couple that is attracted to you both.

[LOL_OMG]

Getting back to the original question, I think Curious has a good point. We have discussed this as well, and have read some stories on this board about 3 somes gone bad...they were doozies too.

We've only been with couples thus far, and while I do have a fantasy about possibly MFM I wouldn't ever ask the wife of another couple to sit one out lol. As for the other suggestions, I would much prefer to deal with someone from a swing club or internet swing site as opposed to a regular bar. I would think the problems your worried about are much more likely from a place like that. Besides, swingers are professionals

Mrs LOL

[destin-ez]

Geez, is it my imagination or what? Seems like some of the regulars are getting so F'n uptight these days?!?!? Maybe it's the weather or something?

Well, just our experiences so far......we've done a spur of the moment MFM, well thought out MFM's and ongoing MFM's with my best buddy. All have worked out OK, but nothing spectacular.

That being said, we're now working towards 4 sums with other couples. The 4 sums so far, have been more difficult only because we've just started I guess and it's more difficult to get 4 people on the same page as it is with only 3. My biggest concern is the single male becoming predatory or developing feelings towards the Mrs. and the 4 sums situations seem to safer in this way?

However, we'll continue working on both, simply because they are btoh appealing to us right now. Good luck, hope this helps.

Now, I'm going to propose a truce between Vegas and JNCC...... Surrender

[valley]

Our swinging interest is MFM,on a mutual basis.He has no interest in another woman.His primary interest is watching me have sex.Thats it.He watches,he enjoys.He does join in .Not every time.Sometimes its for a long time .Sometimes its only briefly.At all times I am mindful to make sure he can see all the action.At all times I will respond to his desires to see me do something.....to change from one position to another,to move from oral sex to vaginal,from position to position.

It sounds like he is being dominant ,but he isnt really.It's his request,and he would not ask if it was going to spoil a moment.Often he will not say a word.Because we are so close and blend so well together,and the fact that we choose carefully and lay down the ground rules equally carefully,we have had only one less than satisfying encounter in 12 months.

As for another woman for him,he has no interest.I have offered many times.No...he is not interested...even seeing one with me...which doesnt interest me anyway,I have suggested him watch another couple.Sure, that would be nice ,but whats the point if I am there ....it's me he would rather see in action.

As to finding suitable male partners,believe me,that is easy. There is no shortage of men only too keen to screw another man's wife.Certainly, there those a bit reluctant to do so in front of the husband,but if he's broadminded and happy to discuss it,its easy to lay the ground rules ,to let an understanding develop.

Single men work for us,give us that incredible boost of sheer lust,that works time and time again,anytime, anywhere.For us ,there is so much to enjoy about it,unless you have done it you would find it hard to believe.It's hard to describe the feelings I have,watching my husband the watcher.Looking at him I see why I am enjoying the sex.Damn....does that make sense?