Word Connotation

[Pepper & Drew]

Originally posted by Intuition897

I'm just saying, if anyone's trying to get me out of my panties, saying that they want to fuck me is pretty counter-productive. Not really sure what it is about it that offends me so much. Four little letter put together. That's it. There's just something derogatory about it.

I started thinking about it and there ARE words that have a negative connotation to me and would be a complete turnoff. Cunt sounds ugly to me, cock seems more wicked and dirty (in a good way) than dick and I don't appreciate being called bitch, although slut revs my engine. Are there words that make you draw up like a prune, while other words with virtually the same meaning are OK, or even a turn-on?

[BiDrywallChick]

I cannot stand twat. I want to know who came up with that. when i hear it, its like fingernails on a chalkboard. call me a cunt when we are having grudge sex... I love the word pussy. I even have a shirt with it on it and will wear it in public... yet all the words mean the same thing... I want to add that vagina is just too clinical

[twoferfun69]

Intuition- not only is it derogatory, it would seem to go against the premise of the lifestyle-- respecting those you are with, or potentially going to be with.
Yes, I've noticed the same thing. When Mrs. twofer and I are doing the "dirty talk" words like c**k, p***y, etc. are ok, but when in "vanilla mode" they are not. Kind of an in the mood thing, I guess.
The Mrs. is a very independent person on the outside, but in the bedroom, she wants to be controlled, so I can say a lot there that I wouldn't dare say with our clothes on. However, I have yet to use the words slut or whore, or anything like that. Not real sure what her reaction would be.....hmmmm guess we'd better get back into some discussions, eh?
Now that I think of it, how many words are there that women use towards a guy that have that dual role? C**k is the only one I can think of off hand.

[ALilOEverything]

Before things get hot and heavy I think a lot of words would turn me off but when things really get going I don't mind most words. If things were already intense and a swing partner said "I want to fuck you so bad" that would probably get me going even more. But only as something whispered in my ear in the heat of the moment. I can't imagine it being told to me as a way to get me out of my clothes. Slut, whore, cunt... I would probably get up and walk out.

[Vespertine]

Originally Posted by ALilOEverything

If things were already intense and a swing partner said "I want to fuck you so bad" that would probably get me going even more. But only as something whispered in my ear in the heat of the moment. I can't imagine it being told to me as a way to get me out of my clothes. Slut, whore, cunt... I would probably get up and walk out.

Dito

"I want to fuck you so bad" is something I like. To be called a degrading name, while playing would send me packing too. I'm not into the humiliation thing. At all.

I also agree with Mud Puppy. The word "twat' absolutely nauseates me.

[Dynamar]

I embrace my inner slut, so that word doesn't bother me. To me, it's the female version of "stud." Whore, however... whole.different.story. And the "C" word? Yeah, I'm outta there.

Agree that vagina, and also penis, are too clinical. Cock and pussy work for me.

[curiousagain]

Confusion reigns!!

Some like one word but not another, unless they're in the mood or the situation calls for it. Some words are too clinical, what's a guy to do?

I think the best thing we can do is go with the flow, let the woman lead the dirty talk cause we are for the most part pretty comfortable with anything. We can be creative maybe or ask what they like, but there's often not time for that if it's a one time thing. Of course, one can always fall back to the stand bys. "I must be in you this very second". or "Brace yourself"

She: Take me
He: Take you where?
She: You know
He: No
She: You know.......
He: No.........
She: Put it in
He: Put what where?
She: Now!!
He: You mean my penis in your pussy?
She: OMG, clinical and disrespectful, I'm outta here. (gets up, begins putting clothes on)
He: Wait, where are you going, what'd I say? what'd I say?
She: Don't ever call me again. (slams the door as she leaves)
He: (confused look on face)

Please bear in mind when reading the above post there is no tongue in cheek smilie.

[BiDrywallChick]

Originally Posted by curiousagain

Confusion reigns!!

what's a guy to do?

.

mmm or you could jusst lean up and nip my neck and I am all yours babe

[curiousagain]

Originally Posted by BiDrywallChick

mmm or you could jusst lean up and nip my neck and I am all yours babe

I like that, non verbal communication.
Why didn't I think of that, oh yeah, I'm a guy. Thinking, got to try that sometime, naw, probably a waste of time.

[curiousagain]

Seriously, we all have our likes, dislikes, personal and regional interpretations of a word. I was introduced to a woman one time by the husband of a swing couple I know as "my wife's lover". I felt like I had been kicked in the stomach. To me that implied that we had a romantic relationship, were sneaking around behind his back, etc. When in reality, it was usually him that initiated any "playtime" between us and always one of them and never me. I would never want to be someone's "lover" and be their "man on the side" etc. and all that implies. Now "fuck buddy" "FWB", "Playmate" etc. those are cool. We humans can be eccentric sometimes.

[northindycpl]

I think I maybe the only woman in the world that loves CUNT. I really like that word. I love it best when I am using it to ask Mr. Indy to take mine.

[Vantabulous]

What's laughable, in a self-deprecating fashion, is that Mrs. Van and I will send each other "dirty-grams" (e-mails) and leave notes for each other that don't have an awful lot of boundaries where word usage is concerned, but neither of us seem to be able to use them around one another verbally without laughing and/or turning beet-red.

In written form, the words seem provocatively "naughty" and, spoken, seem vulgar and demeaning.

We're hopeless...

Van

(Mrs. Indy, if you could have a word with Mrs. Van...excuse my involuntary shudder...she and I might move to an even "higher level", if you take my meaning. )

[DBL D]

Would it be PC to just say you really, really, Really want to play with someone? Something's gotta be PC, right?

Fem D used to talk about the people we were going to "F**K" and I kept asking her to think about what she was saying. I thought she was being disrespectful, although I know that was her way of disassociating herself from the act. Now that she's warming up to things so well, we just say "play".

All of us have become so sensitized to these other words for the anatomy that it takes some time to see that the speaker of them means no harm to the hearer of them. I suppose it would be ok to talk with your partner and find out whether they have a fantasy where someone calls them "names"; beyond that, I'd keep it light.

Male D

[twoferfun69]

Well, the anticipated "discussion" took place, and I received an unequivocal NO to the demeaning terms......slut, whore, etc. Hey, at least now I now, eh?
But, we can have fun with the thousands of OTHER words in the DICtionary....hehehe....