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    Swingers Board Addict getnit2gethr's Avatar
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    Default Is it wierd to not get off by watching your wife?

    From reading the boards it seems that every male swinger enjoys watching his wife have sex with other men. That part of swinging does nothing for me. Am I alone?
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    Default Re: Is it wierd to not get off by watching your wife?

    There could be a lot of possible reasons for this, but the first that strikes me is just experiance in the lifestyle.

    Its something I've come to enjoy more as we have gained experiance, it is not something I was all that into when we started.

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    Default Re: Is it wierd to not get off by watching your wife?

    You're not alone.

    Neither of us are into swinging to watch the other have sex with another person.

    There seem to be few out there like us, we still have plenty of fun and many motivations for swinging.

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    Default Re: Is it wierd to not get off by watching your wife?

    Hi there, you're not alone, there are tons of people that doesn't get turned on by it, mostly soft swingers and that's great also to enjoy, so don't feel so lonely about i hehehe
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    Default Re: Is it wierd to not get off by watching your wife?

    Everybody is weird and nobody is normal. Who draws the line where weird or normal stops or starts? Your OK just like everybody else. We are all weird!
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    Default Re: Is it wierd to not get off by watching your wife?

    I love to see Fem D have a good time with the man she is borrowing. I love to see them together long enough to make sure things are going well, but other than that I don't really pay too much attention to her unless she gets involved with us. I love it when she starts to moan and I know that she might squirt on the guy!

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    Default Re: Is it wierd to not get off by watching your wife?

    Quote Originally Posted by lovinher
    Everybody is weird and nobody is normal. Who draws the line where weird or normal stops or starts? Your OK just like everybody else. We are all weird!
    Weird is what makes life so interesting.
    embrace your weirdness.
    I know it suits me very well.
    what you like or dislike is entirely individual and makes you who you are.
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    Default Re: Is it wierd to not get off by watching your wife?

    I don't "get off" on watching Mrs. Truelove having sex with men. Now, I do enjoy knowing that she is enjoying it. But it's more of a "yay I'm so happy for her." not a "I get so hot watching that...." kind of thing. It's not a turn off either. I can handle seeing it and being right next to them doing it. Even incident contact is okay. It just doesn't do it for me.

    Watching her with a woman is something I have only seen in a very "soft" manner. But I do look forward to that experience to see if it is as big of a turn on as I think it'll be.

    It would feel like something was missing if Mrs. Truelove wasn't part of the experience with me, so I still prefer same room and us playing together. But only because swinging is something "We" do together.

    I didn't even like her going to the strip club with a girlfriend of hers partially because this lifestyle is something I want us to be doing together, every step of the way. A shared experience if you will.

    So far it's been great.

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    Default Re: Is it wierd to not get off by watching your wife?

    The above has a good point.

    I don't 'get off' watching my wife. I want her to have a good time and am happy when she does. I do 'get off' on watching her with another woman though

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    Default Re: Is it wierd to not get off by watching your wife?

    well after seeing what the guys wrote, i have to say it is the same for me (the female 1/2). i know my fiance wants us to be in the same room because of safety reasons, but the both of us don't like watching each other with others, but we do want to know each of us are enjoying ourselves.i may feel guilty at times, but it is for my own safety.

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    Default Re: Is it wierd to not get off by watching your wife?

    I "get off" watching Mrs Spoo; if by "get off" you mean I enjoy it. I don't sit there wanking like a monkey at the zoo (though, I guess it'd be excusable if I did ).

    I have watched her a few times - just sat back and watched the entire thing - and it was great. In fact, we have a weekend coming up with a single male friend where that will be one of the fantasies to fulfill (again).

    But - as Prettylady said - it is all individual. What you like is what you like. It doesn't make you weird (necessarily). I mean - it isn't weird like downloading granny porn or buttering down your house pets. Swinging is what YOU make it - and that can be applied to all of life in general, really. Enjoy - and don't worry about what others like, dislike or think.

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    Default Re: Is it wierd to not get off by watching your wife?

    *Momentary thread jack*

    I mean - it isn't weird like downloading granny porn or buttering down your house pets.
    The first thing I thought when I read this was a joke someone told me a LONG time ago. "If buttered toast always lands butter side down, and a cat always lands on it's feet, what happens when you tie a piece of buttered toast to the back of a cat and throw it out the window?"

    *Thread-jack complete*
    J. does enjoy watching me with another man, but for him, it's less for the getting off on it and more on the fact that he love to see me enjoy myself. It brings him the warm-fuzzy kind of feeling...not the hot, sweaty kind of feeling. I've never quite had the...hmmm...patience? is maybe the right word...to sit back and just watch him with another female. I wanna be in on that.

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    Default Re: Is it wierd to not get off by watching your wife?

    Sounds not weird at all......I would call it more of a preferance that anything. We will participate together , but do really prefer seperate rooms. For us its more of a relaxing experience than trying to please the crowd.... Cant say your weird though....

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    Default Re: Is it wierd to not get off by watching your wife?

    I'm with Spoo in this camp. I am a voyeur, and Mrs. WS is my favorite pornstar. I love to see her in action. Now is it all there is to swinging for me... No, not on your life. But it is one of the aspects that really attracts me to it. I revel in her sexuality. I am in this as much for her pleasure as I am mine. It makes me feel good knowing that she is having a good time, and seeing it is even better. Sometimes I do just like to sit back and watch her. As a friend once said, "get me a bowl of popcorn and I'm all good".

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    Default Re: Is it wierd to not get off by watching your wife?

    I am with the people here that like it when I see Mrs. GT is having a great time, but can't really say I "Get off" on it or that it is a sexual turn-on to me to watch her have sex with someone else. Fact is, if I was not going to participate in any way except to watch, I would probably not even stay in the room unless their was absolutely nothing else I could be doing.

    As far as watching two women together is concerned, that was a lot better as a fantasy for me than it was in reality. After seeing it so much at the clubs, it is now actually a turn-off for me.
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