Husband wants to quit due to performance issues - Page 2

highlander · 08-24-2002, 01:32 AM

Question: have you tried using condoms with each other? Personally, I've found it difficult to use condoms successfully. It might be that you need to work through the issue of using condoms with each other before trying them with others.

<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by sccple29073:
Hubby and i have tried full swap 2x, with same couple. He is fine during oral sex and putting on condom but once it gets to "point of entry" it becomes "shy". Even after this he and the other female start again with oral play and he is ready to go..but again is "shy" once it comes to the actual "point of entry".

Due to this he says, he no longer wants to full swap since obviously he can't.(his words) i have tried to talk to him about viagra but says he doesn't feel he has a problem to need it, since he has no problem with me and becomes upset if i try to push him to try it. (he says he gets upset because it is a sensitive issue)

Up until this point we had only done ff, with him participating in oral play on occassions and soft swing. Eventually we began meeting people that were into full swap, which we talked about it and decided to give it a try.

Should i try to talk to him about it, again? I would like to continue, but only if he is enjoying himself too. Would his "shy member" just be jitters or do you think it is something to do with who we are with? Or would you say, as he says, this is a sign that we should not swap or maybe we are just not ready for yet?

I definately do not want to push him into anything he is not ready or wanting to do.<hr /></blockquote>

L&K · 08-24-2002, 03:25 PM

This is for NEOH , dont change , you are on the right track in our view . If the lady is not into it at that moment , then why bother at all . back up , if you like the couple try another day . It is a matter of trust , if she is not at the point where she feels comfortable your getting those signals , and yes if it is for the husband the same thing happens . Your a far better man then the jerk who can get it up and stick in the desert clearing knowing she does not want to continue . There is no pleasure in that for her and i dont see how there can be for a man .

I try to be nice in here but this one cuts close to the heart , my wife had an experience with just that type of ass hole . Next time i hope some one castorates him .

Gee i wonder why men have a bad name with that type of attitude . " lay down and spred them "

WELL this really kicked the **** out of my humor

M , a man that puts a ladies feelings ahead of ANIMALISTIC needs

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08-24-2002, 01:32 AM	#16 (permalink)
highlander Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2002 Posts: 217 Location: Portland,OR	Question: have you tried using condoms with each other? Personally, I've found it difficult to use condoms successfully. It might be that you need to work through the issue of using condoms with each other before trying them with others. </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">Originally posted by sccple29073: <strong>Hubby and i have tried full swap 2x, with same couple. He is fine during oral sex and putting on condom but once it gets to "point of entry" it becomes "shy". Even after this he and the other female start again with oral play and he is ready to go..but again is "shy" once it comes to the actual "point of entry". Due to this he says, he no longer wants to full swap since obviously he can't.(his words) i have tried to talk to him about viagra but says he doesn't feel he has a problem to need it, since he has no problem with me and becomes upset if i try to push him to try it. (he says he gets upset because it is a sensitive issue) Up until this point we had only done ff, with him participating in oral play on occassions and soft swing. Eventually we began meeting people that were into full swap, which we talked about it and decided to give it a try. Should i try to talk to him about it, again? I would like to continue, but only if he is enjoying himself too. Would his "shy member" just be jitters or do you think it is something to do with who we are with? Or would you say, as he says, this is a sign that we should not swap or maybe we are just not ready for yet? I definately do not want to push him into anything he is not ready or wanting to do.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">

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08-24-2002, 03:25 PM	#17 (permalink)
L&K Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 197 Location: michigan Status: couple	This is for NEOH , dont change , you are on the right track in our view . If the lady is not into it at that moment , then why bother at all . back up , if you like the couple try another day . It is a matter of trust , if she is not at the point where she feels comfortable your getting those signals , and yes if it is for the husband the same thing happens . Your a far better man then the jerk who can get it up and stick in the desert clearing knowing she does not want to continue . There is no pleasure in that for her and i dont see how there can be for a man . I try to be nice in here but this one cuts close to the heart , my wife had an experience with just that type of ass hole . Next time i hope some one castorates him . Gee i wonder why men have a bad name with that type of attitude . " lay down and spred them " WELL this really kicked the **** out of my humor M , a man that puts a ladies feelings ahead of ANIMALISTIC needs