how common is it for men to have erection problems?

[sensuality]

Biblonde...you must look fabulous .You've got these guys all limp-noodled It really does have something to do with you. ..the fact that you probably look awesome and they can't believe they are having sex w/ you. I've read about this very subject and performance anxiety can really kill the mood for the guy.Even though he wants to perform,his mind is getting in the way...he's thinking, I hope I last,I hope she likes me,I hope she doesn't mind my bald spot,etc.It's really rough on some men...and you can try to make things as comfortable for them as possible, however...the embarrassment of not getting it up and the humiliation of not being able to perform I think just makes it worse for them and it's probably better to wait until a little later to try again or just wait until the next time you spend time together.It's absolutely nothing personal,and if I were you, I'd take it as a compliment. You most definitely have a serious sexual presence about you if this keeps happening.

[BradAndJanet]

That's a really interesting point of view, sensuality!

Yes, we're thinking of all those things, ladies, and it's not that you're not attractive enough to get us hard, it's literally 'performance anxiety'. We're afraid of not being able to give you what you want!

-B

[good times]

I don't think it can be emphasized enough, it's not the ladies. It is a guy problem, and it doesn't matter if the woman is straight out of the pages of Penthouse magazine, it just happens. I had never thought about it before but it could very well be the excitment of the moment and all the things going on in the guys head. Stoutgatte also made a very good point, sometimes the right buttons aren't being pushed and if the guy takes control and tries something that normally works for him, up it comes. One of the couples we play with the female gives the most gentle oral I've ever had, unfortanately, that doesn't work for me. So I generally start a bit of heavy petting (serious groping and kissing) and away we go, works every time.