He could not cum in her...what happened???

[bobbyv50]

We met this cpl and finally had a play date. The other gentleman was great that eveing. Making my wife cum and staying hard inside of her. Well the next 2 meetings. He could not cum in her and he had to lay back on the bed and jack himself off with his eyes closed. My wife asked me why and what may have happened. I said I would ask the group and see if any of you had any advice. She really likes this cpl but this definitely not very satisfying for her. Thanks for you help R&B

[des1re06]

There are so many reasons, that I hate to speculate.

I would guess that he's holding off until she's satisfied, maybe to the point that he has to create a fantasy in his head in order to come.

Is your wife not getting satisfied or is she just disappointed that he doesn't come?

I've had this discussion with many men, who are determined to make it all about the woman. They think of odd things while they're stroking in order to not come, and then they can't. Have you discussed this with him and let him know it's not only okay to come, but is very exciting for your wife?

I just hold their face, stare into their eyes, and tell them to come with me. Works every time.

Mrs. D

[bobbyv50]

No she is not getting satisfied. Infact the last meeting she came to the room I was in and got her toy and went back to satisfy herself. She is disappointed and unsure as to why he cannot cum inside her???

[LikeMinds321]

As des1re06 said, there could be so many reasons. It's hard to say at this point without more information, even then, we can only make some guesses that might help you figure it out.

You didn't mention how things went with you and his wife. That can play a big role. How did you and her do?

Also, his wife may have said things to her husband after the first play date that changed his comfort level with how he plays with your wife.

I took a look at your profile, very nice, but there is one statement that confused me:

R-has had same room sex with another couple.

Your profile doesn't make it clear who "R" is, I have to presume you mean your wife, still, she is listed as straight (as are you). Maybe this guy is wondering if you may be interested in moving to m/m sex. Just a wild thought. Sometimes if you don't make those things clear guys can worry about that at the back of their mind. Possibly rewording that line to "Mrs R has experienced f/f play while with a couple" would make it more clear, if indeed that is what you mean.

If your relationship is good and open with this couple, I'd suggest bringing it up to him, man to man, and see if you can learn what's going through his mind. It may be something that can be handled through discussion.

Good luck!

LM

[magiriano]

I have this problem sometimes.
It is a medical condition called PRIAPRISM, where I can go for hours - literally.
Contrary to popular belief that this is a blessing, almost every woman I've been with complains that I last too long and that they get sore.
I also have a higher sex drive than my wife, she used to keep up b4 the kids but now her drive is down.
At 34, we have sex 2-4 times a day and I find myself many times having to finish myself, sex in itself not being enough for me to cum or my wife just asks me to hurry up or stop. Closing my eyes helps me focus and not be distracted, it doesn't have anything to do with fantasising and if and when I do I only fantasize about my wife and her hot ass anyway.
Maybe you should just ask the guy.

[bobbyv50]

Like Minds, you may have a point there. Our last date was supposed to be a fun and sexy day. The other wife was telling mine that she and her hubby were not having sex on a regular basis. In fact she was wondering why,it seemed he wanted other women more than he wanted her. Needless to say we did not play that nite. Infact the next day she called to appologize for ruining the day. We told them they should probably work out there problems with each other before we play again. We told them we could be friendsds and all but no playing till they worked out there issues. She seemed ok with it but we never did get a response from him. WE COULD ONLY IMAGINE WHAT HE DID

[LikeMinds321]

bobbyv50 ~

That information really helps and I think you have your answer.

The problem lies between the two of them and they were good enough to let you know. You were also smart enough to hold off on playing with them again. Until they get a handle on their situation that's the best policy.

LM

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by bobbyv50

Like Minds, you may have a point there. Our last date was supposed to be a fun and sexy day. The other wife was telling mine that she and her hubby were not having sex on a regular basis. In fact she was wondering why,it seemed he wanted other women more than he wanted her. Needless to say we did not play that nite. Infact the next day she called to appologize for ruining the day. We told them they should probably work out there problems with each other before we play again. We told them we could be friendsds and all but no playing till they worked out there issues. She seemed ok with it but we never did get a response from him. WE COULD ONLY IMAGINE WHAT HE DID

Prior to this statement I would have said the issue is most likely with him (and nothing to do with you guys). After reading the above, I'm sure of it.

Something is going on in his head that is screwing up the fun. The fact that he's not getting your wife off (even) before giving up on sex and deciding to get himself off tells me there's something not right there. But, if they are having sexual problems at home, then there's a bigger issue. I'd back away from this couple sexually until they figure out their prersonal issues.

[bobbyv50]

I shared these responses with my wife tonite. She says Thank You for all of you advice and input. Helps ALOT. R&B