Trouble Getting Hard During and AFTER the swing

[lakeluvrs]

That's happened to me several times. It all seems to be mental. In a couple cases it happened because I was detecting that the woman wasn't really into me or maybe didn't want to be in the situation at all. That's really awkward and makes me not want to have sex with her, thus no erection. She's really hot and naked and lying there with her legs spread, and her husband is banging my wife's brains out five feet away, but my brain is saying "something's not right here" and the penis shuts down.

Other times it's just from thinking too much. As soon as I relax with a couple, it pops up with no problem. Now, with the couple we play with fairly regularly, I have trouble keeping it from getting hard when we run into them in the grocery store!

[joaninla]

FYI - check out the Boston Medical Group (I think they have offices in many major cities). It worked 'wonders' for a close friend. Good luck
Joan
PS - It sounds much more worse than it is

[daddynbabygrl]

Originally Posted by nice_cpl_n_bama

I have had much the same problem in the past. For me the cure was to join a monthly house party group where we saw the same dozen couples in a quiet setting month after month. Once I got used to being in sexual situations with other women my troubles went away.
I still have a problem every once in a while the first time I am with someone new. The prettier she is, the more likely I am to have an attack of first time nerves.
Yes ladies, a limp penis CAN be a compliment

The most important thing is to have fun. If the little soldier happens to be AWOL one night, you can still make a lady very happy with your tongue and fingers and charm and wit. If you don't get upset, and do your best to make her happy anyhow she'll probably be up for a rematch some other time when you aren't so stressed.

Very well said......personally speaking, I had gotten *SO* frustrated that it almost completely ruined the experiences for me......"for me"....but I was so turned on and pleased to see my partner happy.....it *is* a head game for many of us.....and at first, I felt it was "this" reason, then "that", then "this" again....

Ultimately, I think it was anxiety....and the inability to perform for strangers....this last time was a couple, with whom we got a long with pretty well, but we didn't swap, we only focused on our own partners (after the ladies had some time to themselves).....and I was able to perform and function and my partner was attentive to me and was so pleased when it was all said and done.........it really helped me to have a supportive partner and someone who cares about how things are for *ME* ......

I can only hope anxiety levels get less and less as time goes on and eventually performance anxiety will be a thing of the past. I really found this thread (and a few others) to be very helpful to someone who had "performance anxiety"......LOL

- Daddy

[nicerrtxcple]

Yeah, i have had the same problem a few times also. Yeah i thought i had "performance anxiety" and yeah it was.Cause at home with just the wife it worked just fine so i ended up just going to see the doctor and yeah he gave me the "LITTLE BLUE PILL" and i have had no problem since then.GOT TO LOVE THE BLUE PILL.