premature ejaculation

[wolfmaiden]

I am wondering if there are men out there that are afraid of premature ejaculation when they swing for the first time????? I am also wondering if the men are afraid of their performance with the other woman?????

[oncewere]

It tends to be fairly common, especially with newbies and especially on the first contact of the evening. there are three common responses:

1. Get upset, feel inadequate, petulant, angry, ruining the evening not only for yourself but for your partner and your SO.
2. Recognize that this is a very exciting experience and that you will probably do much better your second time after a reasonable recovery period.
3. That's what lips and tongues were invented for.
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[nwmifun]

I'll be the first to say that my first shot is happening QUICK!!! Always has, I'm sure it always will. Both in swinging with my wife and back in my young and single dating days. But luckily, even as I get into my thirties, there really isn't recovery time, and I'm just ready to keep going. If this isn't the case for everyone, I also know several guys who will just have the viagra backup. Modern medical advances are wonderful!!!

This is just me, I know many guys take pride in being able to go and go and go before coming for the first time of the night, but hell, I like the feeling of an orgasm, and as long as I have no problem staying up I don't mind it happening quickly.

Now, on the non-swinging side of things my wife and I have a pretty vanilla and boring (yet wonderful) sex life which consists of mainly quickies and then going on about our business.

So I guess in recap, as long as your confident in your other abilities and/or you can simply keep going, don't worry about a quick first shot, if you do it right, there are many more to come throughout the evening.

[RidesLikeNew]

Hi,

The idea of the guy being so hot after all the foreplay that undoubtedly leads up is actually pretty hot to the girl. If your first go is with a girl other than your own partner, that means you'll be pretty sure to have another shot later in the evening, anyway.

If you are really, really concerned about it, talk to a urologist, who can prescribe inexpensive and quite save beta blockers that you can take on an as-needed basis. Your family practice physician is not that likely to participate in this idea, but most urologists are...

Good luck wherever and whenever you come!

Mrs. R

[nwmifun]

Originally Posted by nwmifun

I'll be the first to say that my first shot is happening QUICK!!! Always has, I'm sure it always will. Both in swinging with my wife and back in my young and single dating days. But luckily, even as I get into my thirties, there really isn't recovery time, and I'm just ready to keep going. If this isn't the case for everyone, I also know several guys who will just have the viagra backup. Modern medical advances are wonderful!!!

This is just me, I know many guys take pride in being able to go and go and go before coming for the first time of the night, but hell, I like the feeling of an orgasm, and as long as I have no problem staying up I don't mind it happening quickly.

Now, on the non-swinging side of things my wife and I have a pretty vanilla and boring (yet wonderful) sex life which consists of mainly quickies and then going on about our business.

So I guess in recap, as long as your confident in your other abilities and/or you can simply keep going, don't worry about a quick first shot, if you do it right, there are many more to come throughout the evening.

I spelled you're as your. I feel very white trash and can't find the edit button.

[ShellyM]

lol nwmifun!
In response to the OP: Don't worry about it. As you can read on many threads and posts in here, the penis is a very complicated device and has a mind of his own lol. Just tell the couple you will be playing with that this is your first time, they will understand. Take things slow, don't be afraid to tell her if you are getting really close and need to slow it down a bit. Relax!
Shelly

[cuzzeyesaidso]

I am lucky to be blessed with a quick recovery time. I have did a little research on the subject though, and found a few different techniques that are supposed to help you (me) with stamina. The one I found most bizzare was to literrally slap the head of your dick every time you felt you were getting close to orgasm. Haven't tried that one yet.

[daisy girl]

Ok...I must be weird but everytime I have had someone ejaculate prematurely, I have felt flattered. A new partner told me that I felt so good he couldn't hold it. Ok, perhaps he exaggerated a bit but it was a definite ego boost. Guys...don't be so worried. We women understand that it happens sometimes.

[tribbles]

At first it worried us, now we just tell people. As long as you are willing to use, fingers, tongue and toys.....it's all good.

We have heard a few females whine about it and they get crossed off the playlist. Others don't care and are happy to play -- that's what we look for.

So, tell people upfront and if they don't wanna play, move on to someone who is more accepting...you will have more fun with an accepting person anyways.