Not cumming during play time

[lost_j1]

May sound a little odd, but I am going to ask it anyways. I know and I am bad about this that I am a giver during sex. I love to please the women at all cost. Need it be from oral, fingers, penis, vaginal, anal, I love to have the women enjoy them selves. I have yet since cum from any other women then my wife during play. Last weekend we went to a house party and fucked off and on with several friends for like 7 hours and never had the urge. I finally jerked off before bed just so I could get some good sleep. I love playing with the women and wow what a party it was. I just wanted to know how common this is with everyone else? I believe that the lifestyle is not always about how you finish , but the erotic ride along the way... I have read before that this is common with some people, but ya never know to ya ask right? Maybe it's just after 16 years of marraige that we know how to push each others buttons. But how common is it with everyone else? Thanks for any replies..



JAY!!!

[couple4fun2821]

Yea, I read that and thought I wrote it. LOL... That is pretty much the exact same as me... Common? no idea but I dont mind it.. I always end you with my wife or jerking off at the end of play to cum. I guess if I put the effort into it I could cum with one of the playmates, but that, to me, isn't why I am there.

[lost_j1]

Shit you have the same answer as me... I read it again said that's what I would have replied with.. I guess it does happen more often... Thanks for the relpy..

JAY!!!

[WesternSwing]

I know of several husbands who don't cum with Mrs. WS or take a long time to cum with her, but cum rather quickly with their own wife. I think nerves can get the better of you, especially in an atmosphere like swinging which is supposed to be a no-no.

Mr. WS

[TXCPL1137]

I do delay cumming at a party. For me cumming is the end of feelings for a while. Most men have a errection, then when they ejaculate, it goes away.

To delay orgasim keeps the action going longer.

Now 7 hours is a bit much. Tell the room how you delay that long?

As for anal, that is a death wish. More disease has passed around from anal than any other sexual forum. To be blunt, I do not want my wife sucking something that has been in a rectum.

We do not play with people who are anal outside their marriage. Maybe this can be a post. TXcpl1137

[sexcupid]

Speaking for my experience...I am usually the one not cumming during play time. My SO is usually a tough nut to crack anyway (it generally takes him a while to get there when we are having sex)...eh, not too much of a pun intended there.

I mean, things are feeling really good...but of the few swaps we've done, I've had one orgasm from a play partner (and I'll say it was very good facelick ). We're going to a party this weekend...I'll see if my luck improves...lol

Maria

[havefuninsun]

I would feel like I didn't do it for the guy if he didn't cum. So then, I wouldn't be pleased --

[oddcouple]

Dito Havefuninsun thank you. I would not enjoy myself if I my male partner didn't cum. As for Mr. Odd, he holds out quite a while......but 7 hours? .
We don't do parties, just select friends and aren't into it for marathon sex. We like it fast and hard!

[Chicup]

I love pleasing my female partners, but part of it for both of us would be ending it properly

If I had to jack off after 7 hours of play, I'd be rather annoyed.

[Tia Vampire]

We have it in our profile, that we do not like sloppy seconds and we would not do it to our play partner either. During full swap, we don't mind trying a little of this and a little of that, but when it is time to finish, we rather do it with each other. We save our orgasms for each other. They are not something we share with our playmates. Plus we both aim to please too. Without an orgasm, makes for more play time.

[lost_j1]

Thanks for all the input from everyone. When I say 7 hours it breaks down to this. First hour was a six people orgy, then took like a 30 minute relax and skinny dip. The next half hour we had sex in the pool between the same group. So that accounts for the first 2 hours** Then we went back the room for 1 and half of another group orgy. Then after that I was with another women by myself in the room for 30 minutes.**2+1.5+.5=4 hours** Then we all headed to the pool to cool off. So another 1 hour in the pool passing each other around with the rest of party. **5 hours** Then we the group of 6 went back to the room for another 1 hour and had our third orgy passing the three women between us 3 guys. **6 hours** After that our group broke up because it was like 2:00 in the morning. So then I went back down to the pool and found a couple for a threesome. My wife went to bed and told me it was fine that I went down to the pool. So I played with this couple for about hour. Hence 7 hours of play with like 7 different women multiple of times. Yes, there were like 5-10 minute breaks as we walked from the pool back to the room. But, at the last threesome and I still have not came. So I just jerked off and went to bed. Like I said it was a blast. About 25 couples were at this party. Thanks again for all the replies..

JAY!!!

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by Tia Vampire

We have it in our profile, that we do not like sloppy seconds and we would not do it to our play partner either. During full swap, we don't mind trying a little of this and a little of that, but when it is time to finish, we rather do it with each other. We save our orgasms for each other. They are not something we share with our playmates. Plus we both aim to please too. Without an orgasm, makes for more play time.

I'm one of those men who is rather annoyed with himself if he can't get the woman off.

'No stop, I don't want to O with anyone besides my man.' would be a big turn off.

[good times]

with Chicup, if a woman told me I couldn't have an orgasm with her, I would pass. I have to say that when I am having sex with someone, my ultimate goal is for both of us to have an orgasm, if that isn't in the game plan then I don't see the point in having sex in the first place. To me that would be like going to Disneyland and not going on any rides.

As to the OP's original question, I have in the past played so long that I just didn't have the energy to reach an orgasm, after that time I made a vow to myself never to do that again. While I would somewhat agree that the lifestyle isn't all about how you finish, if I don't finish, for whatever reason, I am going to be disappointed.

[Tia Vampire]

It's not that we don't want to. Neither of us can get to that point with other people. I've tried stimulating myself, have him talk to me, or just going with the flow, but nothing works. So we just save them for each other. Sometime after being with a couple, we end up going back into the room with each other to get to that sweet point of ecstasy.

[tribbles]

To me that would be like going to Disneyland and not going on any rides.

I've been really close to that. But then I've been to Disneyland many times. Just going to walk around and look at people, rides, decorations and the atomsphere can be a blast. Gee, we have done that at swing clubs and had fun that way too.

Every party is different. Some, one or both of us cum at, sometimes we neither one do. Sometimes we do it at home after and sometimes we don't. It's pretty easy to ask "did you want to cum?" if we didn't at the party. A "no, tomorrow. Wanna sleep now" is an acceptable answer too. So is masturbating if needed to go to sleep.