Not cumming during play time

[Chicup]

Not to call you out but....

Originally Posted by Tia Vampire

We have it in our profile, that we do not like sloppy seconds and we would not do it to our play partner either. During full swap, we don't mind trying a little of this and a little of that, but when it is time to finish, we rather do it with each other. We save our orgasms for each other. They are not something we share with our playmates. Plus we both aim to please too. Without an orgasm, makes for more play time.

vrs....

Originally Posted by Tia Vampire

It's not that we don't want to. Neither of us can get to that point with other people. I've tried stimulating myself, have him talk to me, or just going with the flow, but nothing works. So we just save them for each other. Sometime after being with a couple, we end up going back into the room with each other to get to that sweet point of ecstasy.

Now I can understand a woman having a hard time orgasming with someone else for a lot of reasons. Some women require years of 'study' to get off properly. As for the male though, not so much. I've had occasions where I've had a hard time finishing due to condoms or what not, but guys are pretty basic in their orgasms. There aren't any books I'm aware of on how to make a man cum, once you mastered one penis you have mastered them all so to speak.

So is your first post the correct version or the second one. I know this seems confrontational because I'm calling you out so to speak but its your business on how you swing, so I don't think of you less if you decide not to 'share' that part. Generally we see very eye to eye on things and if you were closer and my wife wasn't an old 33 year old ( ) I'd have asked a while ago if you wanted to get together

Edit: I'd add I posted this while putting off going down to hit the weight bench....sigh.....off I go.

[Tia Vampire]

Yes, I see where it looks like I changed the story, but things happen in phases. I just said what I ment and not what I ment to say. When we first started exchanging partner, I noticed that i could not cum with someone else and one of our rules is that safe sex is a must. My fiance does have a hard time getting to that point because of condoms, but we prefer to keep the condoms on. So that is why we ended up having to save them for each other. Not because it was a choice of our. Circumstances just made it that way.

[bethncole]

I have a similiar "problem". When I jerk off ( by myself ) I have a hard time cumming if I'm thinking about someone else besides my wife. But when I think of her ( with another guy of course ) - I cum almost right away.

[nice_cpl_n_bama]

Hello All,
I'm really hard to get off. I often play with 4 or 5 different women during a party. I'm difficult to get off with intercourse and almost impossible with oral. Only 2 women besides my wife have ever managed to get me off orally and they had coaching from Laurie. She can make me pop anytime she wants but it's a long road for anybody else.
I usually end up playing several times with several different ladies before it catches up with me. It makes for a great party

[yourbitterpill]

I find that I can have a few orgasms w/o having to cum. Which can sometimes be quite funny because it seems a lot of women don't know that men are also capable of having orgasms w/o cumming.

The first few times we play with a new couple, I usually don't cum at all, and that can be caused be several factors - usually its nerves or the different sensation. Mrs. Pill is very tight too so if the other girl is a little more "loose" than her, that can as make it more difficult to cum.

No worries though. If the other couple asks, I'll explain and assure them I'm having fun. Like everything else, it comes down to communication.

[n2ez]

Have always been that way! can last for hours and can't seem to cumm if my partner has not had a least one "O" (prefer multi!! ) lol
with the Wifey it doesn't go for long for before I cumm, have alwasy been this way, can remember the first Woman I was with, (late starter 21) lol she didn't belive I was a virgin because I could not cumm, just fucked her for hours...

[WHFTG]

I have a different issue. I tend to come quickly the first time. I say the first time as I have had nights where I have come 5 times, obviously with a little down time in between. The quick one bothers me sometimes, but I have heard from a number of women that getting banged for 30 minutes is no fun either. So the question is, is it better to come multiple times during the evening even though one of them may be a quick-one or last all night long with one good cum at the end?

[MrsPandMe]

I generally don't, but I make it a point if I get to the point of where it might happen to ask if this is something she (the lady I'm with) wants. We're still pretty new to the game, so nerves I think might play a little bit of a part in my ability to hold off, but I think careful attention to your personal cues and being able to understand very well the "steps" to your orgasm can help you stave it off. Of course, I'm just speaking of myself.. Every man is different.

And whoever mentioned that "you've figured one penis out, you've figured them all out", that's crap. It's a penis, not a power tool. The basic anatomy is there, but every man's O is as complex as the man they're attached to! Remember, those nerve endings run somewhere!

Mr. P