Good for him, bad for her.. good for her...bad for him - Page 2

sportync · 01-13-2003, 04:19 PM

Us2, If you're confident in your love, then the jelousy won't become an issue. It's not watching another man screw your wife that causes jelousy, it's the thought that he might try to hook up with her later and that she might say "yes". When you know in your heart that you are the one who she gives herself to completely, an occasional extra dick in your presence doesn't really matter, as long as she's happy with it. There are basic differences in males and females. As one writer stated, blindfold most men, and any tongue will sufice. Not so with women....they need to feel connected on an emotional level before they feel really comfortable letting some guy stick his dick in. Of course, I'm generalizing here, but the fact remains that we are two very different creatures with different needs, desires and means of reaching fulfillment. But we are all sexual creatures, and really, each one of us are unique in the way we think and respond. Each of us have their own fantasies and by expressing yours and listening and understanding hers, you should come a long way to becoming sexually fulfilled. Sportync

Mariposa_y_Oso · 01-13-2003, 05:02 PM

I think a theme is developing here...we also always make love together as soon as we get home (if not sooner!).

I didn't see anyone else mention this, so I'm not sure if I'm alone in this or what, but one concern that Mr. Us2 brought up was:

"how do you handle the thought that he's doing something better than you. Obviously, it isn't necessarily better, just different. Could be his physical attributes, could be technique, whatever, could be the excitement of the moment, but the perception is he's doing it better..."

When we are alone after playing with another couple, one thing that we do is to fill each other in on all the little details. Instead of worrying about if the other guy did something "better" than me, I try to use it as a learning tool. Everyone is different, and maybe he did something that never occured to me that got Mari really excited, that I could try myself sometime. Not to say that I'm stealing other guys "moves"

, just that sometimes new ideas can be found in unlikely places.

Just thought I'd weigh in with a slightly different way of looking at things.

Cheers!
~Mike

OhioCouple · 01-13-2003, 05:15 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Mariposa_y_Oso

When we are alone after playing with another couple, one thing that we do is to fill each other in on all the little details. Instead of worrying about if the other guy did something "better" than me, I try to use it as a learning tool. Everyone is different, and maybe he did something that never occured to me that got Mari really excited, that I could try myself sometime. Not to say that I'm stealing other guys "moves" , just that sometimes new ideas can be found in unlikely places.

I'll agree wholeheartedly with this. We have both found things that we didn't know about each other and had never tried as a couple. Most people's approach to sex are different, some things we have liked others we didn't. For us it is a learning tool also that we employ later in our own love making. Not to mention that there are some things you just can't do with two people...no matter how hard you try!

Lori

Mariposa_y_Oso · 01-13-2003, 05:19 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by OhioCouple
Not to mention that there are some things you just can't do with two people...no matter how hard you try!

Lori

What is this supposed to mean? You mean that all men don't have two dicks like I do?

Maybe I shared too much...

I'm SOOOOO embarrassed now....

Cheers!
~Mike the Mutant

OhioCouple · 01-13-2003, 05:26 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Mariposa_y_Oso
What is this supposed to mean? You mean that all men don't have two dicks like I do?

Hmmmm, I'll take the fifth on this one and preserve my reputation.

Lori ~ Who really feels for Mari....poor girl.

us2 · 01-13-2003, 05:38 PM

Wife of Us2 wishes to say...I just came home from work and couldn't wait to check the board to see what had been said while I was away. Again, thanks for your words. With regard to the past few posts,

it is comments like those that make me wish I was not so .... not ready. I mean, Mike the mutant has me courious, and frankly my mind came up with some lovely scenes for what cannot be accomplished with only 2 people. Can't wait for my man to get home.!

thanks again, from
one of us2

river248 · 02-11-2003, 07:00 AM

I was in a physically and emotionally abusive relationship for 17 years, got out, and then found the right one. I would imagine she feels the same way I do; to me there will never be an issue of getting together with another couple (guy) who does it better than my guy. I really would never go there emotionally. I understand her point of having to know the person before feeling comfortable. I've been there. "Gollygee, I can't have sex with a man for just sex, what is wrong with me, I wasn't raised that way". I have gotten over it to a point. A lot of women are that way. Some internal instinct I swear that says if we spread our legs it must be love even though we know it is not. Guys do not seem to have that problem; hence an another issue. I don't think you have to worry about some guy doing it better than you after what she has been through, but also with what she has been through I would take it slow, she's been pushed already in her last relationship, (not that your pushing either). If this is what you both want, let her get comfortable with someone first if that is what she needs. Make her happy. When my guy makes me happy, I go double fold to make him even happier, if that is possible. I was so use to being treated like crap all the time that I am just blown over by his kindness towards me.

Arleen and (Mike)

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01-13-2003, 04:19 PM	#16 (permalink)
sportync Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2002 Posts: 232 Location: eastern north carolina	Us2, If you're confident in your love, then the jelousy won't become an issue. It's not watching another man screw your wife that causes jelousy, it's the thought that he might try to hook up with her later and that she might say "yes". When you know in your heart that you are the one who she gives herself to completely, an occasional extra dick in your presence doesn't really matter, as long as she's happy with it. There are basic differences in males and females. As one writer stated, blindfold most men, and any tongue will sufice. Not so with women....they need to feel connected on an emotional level before they feel really comfortable letting some guy stick his dick in. Of course, I'm generalizing here, but the fact remains that we are two very different creatures with different needs, desires and means of reaching fulfillment. But we are all sexual creatures, and really, each one of us are unique in the way we think and respond. Each of us have their own fantasies and by expressing yours and listening and understanding hers, you should come a long way to becoming sexually fulfilled. Sportync
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01-13-2003, 05:02 PM	#17 (permalink)
Mariposa_y_Oso Here to Stay Join Date: Dec 2002 Posts: 76 Location: El Paso, TX Status: Married Couple	I think a theme is developing here...we also always make love together as soon as we get home (if not sooner!). I didn't see anyone else mention this, so I'm not sure if I'm alone in this or what, but one concern that Mr. Us2 brought up was: "how do you handle the thought that he's doing something better than you. Obviously, it isn't necessarily better, just different. Could be his physical attributes, could be technique, whatever, could be the excitement of the moment, but the perception is he's doing it better..." When we are alone after playing with another couple, one thing that we do is to fill each other in on all the little details. Instead of worrying about if the other guy did something "better" than me, I try to use it as a learning tool. Everyone is different, and maybe he did something that never occured to me that got Mari really excited, that I could try myself sometime. Not to say that I'm stealing other guys "moves" , just that sometimes new ideas can be found in unlikely places. Just thought I'd weigh in with a slightly different way of looking at things. Cheers! ~Mike
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01-13-2003, 05:38 PM	#21 (permalink)
us2 Registered Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 7 Location: Georgia Status: C	Wife of Us2 wishes to say...I just came home from work and couldn't wait to check the board to see what had been said while I was away. Again, thanks for your words. With regard to the past few posts, it is comments like those that make me wish I was not so .... not ready. I mean, Mike the mutant has me courious, and frankly my mind came up with some lovely scenes for what cannot be accomplished with only 2 people. Can't wait for my man to get home.! thanks again, from one of us2
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02-11-2003, 07:00 AM	#22 (permalink)
river248 Active Member Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 20 Location: Avonmore, PA Status: Couple	My view I was in a physically and emotionally abusive relationship for 17 years, got out, and then found the right one. I would imagine she feels the same way I do; to me there will never be an issue of getting together with another couple (guy) who does it better than my guy. I really would never go there emotionally. I understand her point of having to know the person before feeling comfortable. I've been there. "Gollygee, I can't have sex with a man for just sex, what is wrong with me, I wasn't raised that way". I have gotten over it to a point. A lot of women are that way. Some internal instinct I swear that says if we spread our legs it must be love even though we know it is not. Guys do not seem to have that problem; hence an another issue. I don't think you have to worry about some guy doing it better than you after what she has been through, but also with what she has been through I would take it slow, she's been pushed already in her last relationship, (not that your pushing either). If this is what you both want, let her get comfortable with someone first if that is what she needs. Make her happy. When my guy makes me happy, I go double fold to make him even happier, if that is possible. I was so use to being treated like crap all the time that I am just blown over by his kindness towards me. Arleen and (Mike)

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