dealing with anxiety regarding sex after having erection problems in group play

[lovedoctor]

Originally Posted by robel12550

Your Swing Lifestyle post states an age around 28. Highly improbable, but possible that Pfizer could make a killing off of you with their "little blue pill".

Even though the drugs Cialis, Levitra and Viagra are marketed towards men in midlife, they can also help young men achieve firmer erections and to recover in a relatively quicker time after ejaculation. Trust me when I say that young men constantly ask for this drug, use this drug and find it helpful. It increases blood flow to the pelvis selectively and does not stop in the brain to ask a man if they are over 40 or not! It may work better in older men because there is vascular compromise on a greater level, but young guys love it too. Not all, but most that I have spoken with. It can help females some of the time too.

Talk to your doctor

[puddles]

Yes it happens to everyone - but this does sound unpleasant. For day-to-day (night-to-night?) failure of erections there are little tricks that can work wonders - keeping a semi-full bladder can help keep it up, then there is something I call the paintbrush - if it's flaccid at the wrong time, pull it out just enough then, with your free hand, wipe it up and down her clitoris and around the opening like, yes, a paintbrush. This satisfies her and always gets me hard again. And in general, holding it in my hand during sex, which used to be something I avoided for some reason, is a really good habit that somehow increases confidence. But it sounds like you have a genuine anxiety thing going on, and taking valium's not a good idea in a sex context. I'd suggest St john's wort if suitable (around 2,000 mgs) or melatonin/5-HTP, with a C&B complex or multi-nutrient pill and a high-protein meal, every day for a while - then spend some time working through it, once your reactions are milder. It sounds like guilt or fear has been stirred up by something - the nutrients should help make the emotions more ordinary and managable, without dulling them like drugs do, so you can look at them and put them back in perspective. Whether you're best starting this with your partner, or taking it to her once you get a handle on it, is up to you. You definitely need to communicate, but these feelings can be the hardest ones to get out - you did well to make this post. Best of luck.