How do you deal with loss of excitement while playing?

[AmyNGreg]

Originally Posted by janaandjames

we'll be a little more adventurous and do the same room thing and see how it works out.
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interesting, i would have thought seperate rooms would be more adventurous
just a matter of perspective ... i prefer the safety of same room. so for us, to do seperate room, would be unusual

I wonder how many other people out there think the way I do? I definitely wasn't feeling unsafe with my wife being in the other room, probably because we were so comfortable with this couple. The thought of another couple in the same room is exciting, but at the same time, I get the feeling of "stage fright" just thinking about it. Afterwards Amy and I discussed our experiences and I found out he did "something" with his tongue that she couldn't describe, which was different from how I usually do oral on her. So at the very least I'm extremely curious about what I might be able to learn.

Ugh, I'm such a thread hijacker. Anyway, with my next experience, I'll see if the loss of physical excitement happens and let you guys know... If you're interested...

[lovedoctor]

I have found that the whole thing about being in the moment is really accurate for me. If I am not worrying about what I look like, what sounds I am making and if I will embarass myself by losing control of any bodily functions, then I have a much richer and more rewarding experience. I am also finding that the longer we know another couple, the better the sex is.

[LOL_OMG]

I can relate to this post. To date we have been same room, same bed, and lucky for us we did it that way. The couples that we encountered have been attractive to both of us, but I have found it hard to get excited without getting Mrs lol_omg involved, and vice versa. I guess we are still in that feeling out process but my advice would be to do what seems to work best, then discuss it the next day(being totally sober preferred, heh), then make adjusments as needed.

Mr Lol_omg

[tojoe59]

I find that I get very turned on by a women the first time. The second time it's alittle tuffer. First dates your both giving it your all. She acting hot & sexy and so do I. After a few dates you start to connect and it's more then sex. You become friends. I have had times when I'm excited on and off when playing. This is when the "Friend" can help you over the problem. Don't talk about it, go with the flow, cuddle, kiss or massage. Your hands and mind can turn the low tide. And when you help the guy over the hump he will repay you with a THANK YOU equial to your effort.

[Bonnie&Clyde]

thank you for all you wrote. i thought i was alone in this!