Not quite solid.

[bill&sabrina]

Call me "Mr. Exception to the Rule", in 3 years of encounters this hasn't happened. I give my best everytime we play, I can't give more. Tons of men have more experience pleasing partners than me. I am still learning, and I learn something new almost everytime we play. I look at it this way if my partner isn't going to tell me how to please them that is their fault. After all I can't read minds
Bill

[859cple]

Joined in late, I'm curious about subject,Can you catch me up, fellow KY'n ?

[859cple]

Bill and Sabrina, are you online?

[Doug19482000]

This problem is putting a real damper on our short time in the lifestyle. Mrs. D thinks it's her fault the guy she is with can't get it up. 4 of the 6 couldn't do anything. Only one could finish. She gets very upset. After hours of hitting on her on the dance floor,she thinks there must be somthing wrong with her when they can't preform. One guy was so callus he actully pushed her away.I've tried to convince her that it's a common problem, but she doesn't understand as all she's ever had to do is look at me and I was ready. She claims she is jealous of the women we're with because they get me, and if I cum then she gets nothing.If I refrain from cumming then I 'm probably not pleasing the couples wife. I think it's probably a bigger problem for us than most because we are older and she prefers other older couples. When I suggest younger couples She just says they're young enough to be our children. Which is her way of saying "no" Any advice?

[sereneiders]

Originally Posted by Doug19482000

This problem is putting a real damper on our short time in the lifestyle. Mrs. D thinks it's her fault the guy she is with can't get it up. 4 of the 6 couldn't do anything. Only one could finish. She gets very upset. After hours of hitting on her on the dance floor,she thinks there must be somthing wrong with her when they can't preform. One guy was so callus he actully pushed her away.I've tried to convince her that it's a common problem, but she doesn't understand as all she's ever had to do is look at me and I was ready. She claims she is jealous of the women we're with because they get me, and if I cum then she gets nothing.If I refrain from cumming then I 'm probably not pleasing the couples wife. I think it's probably a bigger problem for us than most because we are older and she prefers other older couples. When I suggest younger couples She just says they're young enough to be our children. Which is her way of saying "no" Any advice?

How about bringing her here to read what we, men, think about this problem?

I wouldn't blame any other than myself when I am unable to... perform as expected (well, except once, but that woman made me feel as if I were her dildo). And no one should.

[DBL D]

When this happens to me (more than I care to admit) it's usually because of the newness of a couple, the close proximity of each other (banging bodies can be distracting at times) and the use of a condom...which all my life I never had to use. If you go into something without expectations perhaps you can deal with it a bit better. I usually let the lady know that there may be a problem but that I will do anything I can to help her get off even if I can't use my Dick! She usually can still have some fun. Last time it happened the other guy couldn't get it up at all. I at least got to plug in for a while but I can't wait till I finally get used to the raincoat.

Good luck and try to have fun anyway you can. Maybe try something with your own spouse first to get yourself going then maybe you can switch and still stay hard.

Male D