"Well endowed with great stamina and no performance problems"

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by Vespertine

Let's see.....

I'd be open to everything but man boobs. I'm guessing you'd feel the same way?

I'm a B cup. I can't be with a man with bigger boobs than me. That's just so wrong.

You got it right, Ves!

Man boobs would be soft hanging things, not to be confused with a pair of large firm pecs. facelick

LM

[Just_us49]

Originally Posted by LikeMinds321

I care what our profile says, and I would expect anyone who is serious about meeting us will read it. If they haven't I can tell from the first communication from them.

And I've never thought of a profile as "bait" - "lets make them sound good to see if they take the bait or not" is not our approach. I think of a profile as a letter of introduction.

C - Sadly, I think your attitude about ad profiles is the norm for many swingers, it's also why so many swingers sound angry, frustrated, and negative about the whole process of trying to hook up with people through ads. They either don't count on others to be truthful and figure why should they, or they are truthful and demand others not play "games" with them.

A profile doesn't have to list everything about you to be truthful. If you're more comfortable sharing something about yourself upfront before you meet people, then do so in your profile by writing it in or including a picture that reveals it - such as being bald.

There is a big difference between saying you're bald - your bald head doesn't have to perform - and saying your cock is good-sized, gets up, stays up, and always performs well.

LM

Dito That pretty much sums up how we use the online ads. We're serious and try to be as upfront and honest as we can be. We try to never be negative and take the good with the bad.

-D

[SBcpl]

Originally Posted by northindycpl

It just seems we have reached the age where a lot of men seem to be starting to have issues and are having a difficult time addressing them.

No kidding—we just found that out big time! Whereas our first adventure was an outrageous success, our second one, which occurred just last weekend, was a big disappointment.

The gentleman we hooked up with was a very pleasant, handsome fellow in his mid-forties. He claimed to have participated in the lifestyle on-and-off for over a decade, and he had several Swing Lifestyle certifications to substantiate his claims. So far as we know he was very truthful with us.

He was very attracted to A, as she was to him, and they started getting it on quite nicely—lots of petting, kissing, and oral sex. But then he just shriveled up. And the harder he tried to regain an erection, the more frustrated he became. He claimed this had never happened to him before; he offered to have other of his partners email us to attest to his prowess; but in the end he finally just gave up and left.

A was initially concerned that there was something about her that turned him off, even though he kept telling her how outrageously hot she was. But when we got home Sunday morning, there was an email from him saying that this was actually the second time this had happened to him, and he'd decided to take a break for a while. We checked his Swing Lifestyle profile, and all pictures had been removed and all his entries said, “Taking a break.” Monday morning, when we went to email him a note reassuring him and offering to give him another chance, we found that his Swing Lifestyle account had been completely removed—no trace of him remained!

I guess he’s having a really hard time addressing his newfound performance issues. Fortunately, I’ve previously dealt with my own issues, so I’d already taken a little blue pill and was able to turn the evening into an extended, hot night of passion for just A and I—not the same as a new and different partner, but at least not a total loss either.

~ B ~

[JnCC]

Originally Posted by SBcpl

Fortunately, I’ve previously dealt with my own issues, so I’d already taken a little blue pill and was able to turn the evening into an extended, hot night of passion for just A and I

I know this is a little off-topic, but the "Little Blue Pill" isn't the panacea that some guys think it's going to be either. It functions by blocking an enzyme that allows blood to flow away from the penis. It won't "make your dick stand up," it will only prevent it from "sitting down" once it has. You still need to be relaxed and attracted to a woman, not stressing out about the situation, for it to work. "Stage fright" will kill a dick as fast as booze or dope, and sometimes, the prettier the woman is, the more likely that is to happen.

That "Little Blue Pill" isn't going to do shit for guys unless they learn how to get their head in the game as well.

[SBcpl]

Originally Posted by JnCC

That "Little Blue Pill" isn't going to do shit for guys unless they learn how to get their head in the game as well.

Absolutely! I agree 100%.
His problem was in his head and probably wouldn't be cured by a little blue pill.
My problems are not in my head, so the little blue pill worked fine for me!

~ B ~

[CandTinLorainCo]

[QUOTE=LikeMinds321]I care what our profile says, and I would expect anyone who is serious about meeting us will read it. If they haven't I can tell from the first communication from them.

You are absolutely correct again, We, T and I would also expect the same.

And I've never thought of a profile as "bait" - "lets make them sound good to see if they take the bait or not" is not our approach. I think of a profile as a letter of introduction.

Nor does she and I. We again agree with you.

C - Sadly, I think your attitude about ad profiles is the norm for many swingers, it's also why so many swingers sound angry, frustrated, and negative about the whole process of trying to hook up with people through ads. They either don't count on others to be truthful and figure why should they, or they are truthful and demand others not play "games" with them.

Well sadly, as you so eloquintely put it with your infinite wisdom, I never one time expressed how I/we felt other then to agree with you and mrs indy on the fact that we disagree with how some of these ads are written and about PA. So for me "C" to be singled out like that draws much attention to you and YOUR actual personality.

A profile doesn't have to list everything about you to be truthful. If you're more comfortable sharing something about yourself upfront before you meet people, then do so in your profile by writing it in or including a picture that reveals it - such as being bald.

Again we totally agree with.

There is a big difference between saying you're bald - your bald head doesn't have to perform -

Ok I am Bald (purposely)

and saying your cock is good-sized, gets up, stays up, and always performs well.

Now i know you must not be talking only to me in that statement as i have never professed nor would i ever make such a statement.


-C

[intuition897]

I'm always looking for excuses to brag about hubby I love swinging 'cause he's just too good to keep to myself! lol Seriously though, I believe I've put in our ads (speaking from my perspective) that Mr. is well-endowed, very attentive and sensitive (as in able to read his partner very well, looking for little 'cues'), loves to please, is very patient, has tons of sexual energy, etc. He had an episode at our first encounter when Mr. Happy just wouldn't co-operate, but it was just newbie jitters I think I don't know, I certainly hope I didn't put excess pressure on him, but this is just the way he is. He really doesn't have to try hard to live up the the ad. Now if I said something like "Hung like a clydesdale, has permerection, and has been known to buy condoms in bulk..." well that might be pushing it.

Originally Posted by LikeMinds321

To the men/couples who use ad profiles, how many of you would make the following statement in your profile?

He is well endowed with great stamina and no performance problems.

I recently read this in a profile and my first thought was the guy's got to be awfully confident in himself.

I would think you'd be placing way too much pressure on yourself to perform, and I don't see why a man would place himself under this kind of pressure.

LM

We have some experince in this arena.

And form OUR experience, those who talk the biggest game usualy have the most problems.

Of course no one is going to respond to an ad that read: Small dick, can't always get it up, and cum quickly when I do.

From what we have found, those who fill their profile about their interset and experience are far better performers then those who just tell you how good they are going to be.


Do we shy away from profiles who talk them selves up?

Not always.
But we don't take it as fact.

[LikeMinds321]

C -

Looks like I need to clarify. I wasn't trying to offend you. Sorry if I did.

I was using the pronoun "you" as in "all of you reading the board." I wasn't referring to your body.

And when I said:

Originally Posted by LikeMinds321

C - Sadly, I think your attitude about ad profiles is the norm for many swingers...

"Attitude" was referring (and agreeing with) your statement:

Originally Posted by CandTinLorainCo

I think truely not to many people care what thier profiles read...

LM

[CandTinLorainCo]

Apology accepted, thank you for clarifing... also i'm sorry if i seemed like i was being a dick, was just abit taken back was all. I do thoroughly enjoy your high spirited spunkiness and yes you did find my tick also.

Btw, man boobs... scary, was just meaning my pecks aren't that of a body builder not like thier a A,B,C or heaven forbid larger.

-C

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by CandTinLorainCo

...and yes you did find my tick also.

-C

I'm impressed. It sounds like you read my Swingers Board profile.

If not, using the word "tick" is one helluva coincidence.

LM

[CandTinLorainCo]

must be more of my "tick" huh?

I like to know as much about my cerebal opposition :slam" as possible.

-C

[toby962]

I am average size mabye even a little smaller than average but up until 29 years old I could honestly say I could get an erection on que, hold it for a long time, And control ejaculation like clock work. I won't say performance since I feel that is up to my partner to decide. At 29 it's been all down hill. Bad back injuries, lots of medical problems, age , declining testoterone the whole 9 yards. I feel cheated, I was a virgin until 22 and at that my friends just set up a mercy screw for me. All those years justed wasted. All of that raw energy just wasted. If there is any young guys at there reading this whatever you do don't Just let time go by without doing every thing you can to try and get a relationship started. Because those fun times could disapear before you know it.

[lostnwilds]

LOL I dont know if we have ever "played with any one who promotes him self that way .... but would shure like to be able to be the man in the add