How to convince Mr Big that his brain is more important - Page 2

Vespertine · 01-04-2005, 06:27 PM

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Originally Posted by SecretAgent69

...maybe I am looking for more than there is supposed to be... like that story we are discussing in this thread... that is what I am after. Not necessarily so perfect (after all it is a story someone took time to write, edit, etc) but along those lines... exploration, love of the moment, excitement over curves, dips, etc... is that just fantasy? Are there male swingers out there like that???

I think you're looking for a level of intimacy that he just isn't sharing with you. I particularly like a passionate lover. I like someone to take their time and fuck my mind, as well as my body. I get bored otherwise, like you obviously are getting now. I 'get off' getting a reaction from my playmates. If they're robotic and impersonal, I feel like I'm doing something wrong.

Maybe he is intentionally holding back? Maybe his wife doesn't like seeing him enjoying himself too much. Who knows, food for thought, anywho.

**two4youinswva** · 01-04-2005, 06:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Vespertine

I like someone to take their time and fuck my mind, as well as my body.

Oooh, I like that comment. That says it all!

I agree, he could be afraid to show he is enjoying it too much, whether justified or not.

LikeMinds321 · 01-04-2005, 06:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Vespertine

I 'get off' getting a reaction from my playmates. If they're robotic and impersonal, I feel like I'm doing something wrong.

Maybe he is intentionally holding back? Maybe his wife doesn't like seeing him enjoying himself too much. Who knows, food for thought, anywho.

Dito

I don't like it when it feels like a playmate is holding back, not expressing themselves freely. I am left wondering why.

LM

blboise · 01-04-2005, 07:32 PM

After lurking in the background for almost a year, I've just got to put my 2 cents in here on this thread and offer a quick thought.

It could be that Mr. Big is putting his mind "elsewhere" for reasons of control. He might find that his excitment with you lessens his control if he doesn't let his mind wander a bit. You know, thinking about baseball statisics rather than fully stepping into the whole experience. It may not that you're doing something "wrong" but that you're doing everything just great! You might find this out from his better half and it's sure worth asking.

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01-04-2005, 07:32 PM	#19 (permalink)
blboise Registered Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 3 Location: Idaho Status: Couple	Re: How to convince Mr Big that his brain is more important After lurking in the background for almost a year, I've just got to put my 2 cents in here on this thread and offer a quick thought. It could be that Mr. Big is putting his mind "elsewhere" for reasons of control. He might find that his excitment with you lessens his control if he doesn't let his mind wander a bit. You know, thinking about baseball statisics rather than fully stepping into the whole experience. It may not that you're doing something "wrong" but that you're doing everything just great! You might find this out from his better half and it's sure worth asking.

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