Why do the men not cum?

[CanadianCouple]

Originally posted by Stratecpl:
I'm waaay over the youthful age of 33 and in four hours I can come four or five times with no problem.

Friggin' showoff. http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/wink.gif

Dan

Ron,

Who said it's "wrong" for you to cum with ONLY your wife? http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/confused.gif I don't think there's no right or wrong way to "cum", do you? *lol*


Dan,

Sounds like all your "bodily functions" are working great! http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/biggrin.gif


The way I see it, as long as the "output" is the same, sharing erotic pleasures is all that matters, especially if it's agreed by all... http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/wink.gif Communicating your pleasures upfront, agreed by all involved, I see no problem with doing whatever feels comfortable for each other. http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/smile.gif


CyberWife

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[JustAskJulie]

Originally posted by Stratecpl:
Now, let me get this straight.... you guys ONLY cum with your WIVES??? OKay......
Does the WIFE only cum with the HUSBAND??? LOL OK, I thought so!
The way I see it, what is fair for ONE is fair for BOTH.
Ron, Husband of Stratecpl

I totally agree. But I think the issue comes with guys who can only come once in a time span. So they'd rather save that for their wife (at least that's the way I take it). Where most woman have a very short recovery time.. if they need a recovery time at all.. so it's doubtful that they would be limited to one a night.

What you guys need to do is learn that tantric stuff so you can orgasm without actually cumming (ejaculating).. then it's all good.

As for the guy who can't hold back.. see I like that.. makes me feel like I'm doing something right. I have a hard time with the guys who can't or won't cum.. cuz then I feel like I'm not doing something right. Now if they just told me they are saving it or they can't get off in this certain situation I'd be fine and we'd all know we were still having the best time possible. A few guys I've run into have told me that they hold it back so that they can have more fun throughout the night.. but there have been a few others that I have no reason from http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/frown.gif

Julie http://www.swingersboard.com

Well Stratecpl... 4 or 5 times? Wow! I wish! Never have I been able to do that. When I do cum it is usually very copious, maybe that is why I need at least an hour to recover. I don't know. I have never ever heard of a guy able to do it more than 3 times a night. And I have asked others just to see. Maybe I need some of that yohimbe!

As for the inference that I am only ALLOWED to cum with my wife... That is not it at all. Julie has it closer, I know I am able to cum at least once and I want to do that with my wife. It is a personal choice of mine, not a requirement of her. I have let myself go with another woman a couple of times, it is just that I like to share that particular point with my wife is all.

You have the ability to do it more often and still do it with your wife, congrats! Unfortunatly not all of us do. And to clear up another point you had, yes my wife does cum with other guys, but like Julie pointed out, a woman's recovery time is fairly short.

[Stratecpl]

Speaking of, did anyone hear the news story yesterday of the couple who were arguing, and the guy's girlfriend yanked his nuts right out of the scrotum? Somewhere in the southeast, I think.

Talk about a ballbreaker of a lady.

Dan

No Dan....that wasn't me... http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/smile.gif

Connie

[Stratecpl]

Originally posted by Gaia&Medi:
Well Stratecpl... 4 or 5 times? Wow! I wish! Never have I been able to do that. When I do cum it is usually very copious, maybe that is why I need at least an hour to recover. I don't know. I have never ever heard of a guy able to do it more than 3 times a night. And I have asked others just to see. Maybe I need some of that yohimbe!

He's not kidding... 4 or 5 times...I've been there I've seen him in action..LOL
It's projectile too sometimes..We have an ongoing joke with one of the single guys we get together with for 3sums..when it's Ron's turn to cum and if he pulls out before he blows his load..we, Me and the other guy... yell.."In coming!!" and duck... http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/smile.gifThat yohimbe is some good stuff....no kidding..LOL

Connie wife of Stratecpl

It's not a question of how many times I can cum, or how intense it is. I still have orgasms with other women, I just choose to hold back my semen for my wife. I just do not feel that I should be required to cum with every woman I'm with.

With women, it has always been my experience that an orgasm is something that starts within the first few minutes and keeps building. Every woman we have been with has been the same. They just keep cumming and cumming.... Recovery time? First I have to let them stop. And that usually takes an hour or so.

And just to add my bragging here, our current record is 10 times a day, and I came each and every time.

CyberHusband

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[Stratecpl]

How many times a man (or woman) can cum is not a contest, or a test of endurance here. Everyone does it differently, different amounts (volume-wise), different rebuilding time frames.... EVERYONE is different!! I think we can all at least agree on THAT fact.

My point is that we're not talking martyrs here. What is fair for one is fair for the other. Period. If you choose to withhold your cum for the wife, that's great. Julie has a point, though, from a woman's perspective. If the guy does NOT cum with her, and has not taken the initiative to tell her WHY.... then she's left hanging, thinking she didn't satisfy this guy. Then you have the standard old communication gap of which we've spoken VOLUMES about right here, on this very board!!

Julie is not alone. Every women I've ever played with has felt the same way. No, you are not REQUIRED to cum ONLY with your spouse, likewise, you're not REQUIRED to cum with the other woman either. It's all in your personal preferences.

I play to enjoy myself, and definitely to satisfy the lady I'm with, ESPECIALLY my wife. There's no choreographed lines or moves in our encounters. What happens, HAPPENS. There's no reason to pick it apart. I say, enjoy yourselves to the utmost or don't do it at all.

Ron, Husband of Stratecpl

I play to enjoy myself, and definitely to satisfy the lady I'm with, ESPECIALLY my wife. There's no choreographed lines or moves in our encounters. What happens, HAPPENS. There's no reason to pick it apart. I say, enjoy yourselves to the utmost or don't do it at all.

Exactly.

CyberHusband

Originally posted by CyberMWCouple:
.....And just to add my bragging here, our current record is 10 times a day, and I came each and every time.

CyberHusband

*Adding my 2 cents...* http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/biggrin.gif

And hubby has done this withOUT any herbal or drug enhancements either! And like he said, he cums with other women, just doesn't "ejaculate" with them.

It doesn't bother me (and I can see where it would bother some), that the other guys don't "ejaculate" with me, and I don't EXpect that of them either (although there were times where the same guy came more than once with me, that was nice http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/wink.gif ). But I know if the guy doesn't "ejaculate" with me, they WILL with their wives! No let downs there. *lol* It's all part of the fun, doing what's comfortable for everyone... http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/smile.gif

As long as everyone you're playing with is comfortable with each others VOICED preferrences (letting it be known ahead of time, which is part of COMMUNICATION), there shouldn't be any problems. http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/wink.gif


CyberWife

Originally posted by CyberMWCouple:
he cums with other women, just doesn't "ejaculate" with them.

CyberWife

Ok.Ok.Ok.... I heard of this Cumming without Ejaculating before.... but I still don't understand it. I mean if I am going to cum, that is it... I ejaculate and everything. There have been times when I was close and then something or other stops me and I get a bit of the orgasamic feeling but it is nowhere as intense.

I certainly have not learned how to control this, but I would like to be able to... lol.

BTW, what is Yohimbe anyway. Is it sold for other health or fitness reasons? Does it really help a male's performance? How often do you take it?

One other point, I am feeling a little left out here. Do other men find it hard to cum more than once or twice a night? We have heard about the multiple artists, what about you other "One-Shot Wonders"?

Medi

[Cold climate]

It's amazing!!
There I was quite happily cumming,ejaculating etc with 2 lovely ladies as a happy swinging 'newbie, quite unaware of the controversy brewing in my darling wife's head.
Looks like our next club visit will be very interesting as she has studied all your replies with great interest.

Cold climate husband

Originally posted by Cold climate:
It's amazing!!
There I was quite happily cumming,ejaculating etc with 2 lovely ladies as a happy swinging 'newbie, quite unaware of the controversy brewing in my darling wife's head.
Looks like our next club visit will be very interesting as she has studied all your replies with great interest.

Cold climate husband

Huh? http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/confused.gif *lol*

Either way, DO keep us posted regarding your "next club visit"! http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/wink.gif


CyberWife

Originally posted by Gaia&Medi:
...BTW, what is Yohimbe anyway. Is it sold for other health or fitness reasons? Does it really help a male's performance? How often do you take it?

Medi

I'll leave the "other" stuff for the GUYS to answer and help you with! http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/wink.gif

Yohimbe is a natural herbal supplement, compared to viagra. And from what we've heard, a LOT cheaper too! It also helps to give you that extra boost of energy that some may look for while dieting and exercising, which we got the idea from Ron & Connie, and thanks, btw. http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/biggrin.gif And you can also do an engine search for Yohimbe, there's lots of info. out there, just gotta "shop" around and find the best buys in pricing, besides from your local GNC/stores.

We both felt that extra boost of energy while using Yohimbe. But also for me, there were times where I'd have this HOT-warm (hard to explain) feeling that rushed throughout my whole body, throbbing my sexual "desires" even more than ususal! I didn't think that was possible for Nymphos, but there IS a God! *lol*

I guess we'd have to take it more often to "evaluate" my findings again. We used up the whole bottle already. *LOL while adding "Yohimbe" to our shopping list*

Maybe others can share their sexual experiences while using Yohimbe? http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/smile.gif

And btw, you might want to check out this other forum regarding Yohimbe & Viagra.

http://www.swingersboard.com/ubb/For...ML/000023.html


CyberWife

[This message has been edited by CyberMWCouple (edited 08-31-2001).]

[CanadianCouple]

Originally posted by Stratecpl:
How many times a man (or woman) can cum is not a contest, or a test of endurance here.

Exactly. Swinging is about pressure-free adult pleasure, not engaging in sexual olympics. One more reason to avoid the type A's.

Dan