Erection problems, emotional issues, help!

I'll throw my .02 cents in here.

I am also one of those with the failure to salute problem in a couple situation.


I have done the Viagra thing and it worked but it is still there in the back of your mind and always worry if he is going to work or not. It really ads a lot of pressure and that takes a lot of the fun out of it.

Now, If it's just Mrs naughty in the room in an MFM situation an erection is not a problem at all. In fact He doesn't know when to quit!! And since MFM's are what we both fantasize about it works out great!!

[Denver2some]

Mr & Mrs. Naughty, I just noticed your tagline. That's new, isn't it? (Or am I just unobservant?) I love it!

Yup, it's new.

We just changed it yesturday.

Thanks for noticing!!

We figured it fit.

[two4youinswva]

Agree with about all the advice given. Great responses! I had the same problem the first couple of times, and of course, the more it happens, the more you stress about it, which causes it to happen even more... (circle of life thing)
Ordered the little blue pill online, tried it out the next time, and "BAM!", there was my old friend! It isn't always necessary to use now, but it is in the "swinging bag", just in case. I think it helps with the confidence level as much as giving you solid wood. Plus if you are going to be involved in a "marathon" session with friends, it definitely helps.

As for drinking, we drink a bit, but try to watch it. Our social club is BYOB, so we only take a pint of Bacardi to the events. She drinks full shots in her drinks, but I drink half shots. It loosens me up just enough to be willing to get on the dance floor without the dreaded "side effects".

[SluttyWife]

I hate to recommend this but have you tried Canadian or Mexican pharmacies?
But you MUST go have hubby see a doctor here first. If nothing else for all the free samples they will very happily load you with...giving you just the opportunity to try what is out there and choose something that best works for you.

Sir Mike and I are huge advocates of Viagra. We can't sing it's praises enough and wish more guys would give it a try.

So does taking his mind off of "performing".. I have found
not focusing on actual intercourse seems to do the trick every time.
In other words get out of the bedroom. Try changing the scenery a bit.
Swinging sex doesn't have to start with the four of you on a bed.
Pools and hot tubs are nice alternatives...anywhere about the house really.

Glad to hear you found just the right couple! Hubby has nothing to be embarassed about at all. Have him read this post and tell him Slutty
Wife told you so!

;-*

Slutty Wife

[ins8bl1]

I had the same problem last weekend with performance issues.

First of all I NEVER have perfoprmance issues one on one or FMF, I think I know why, so I am wondering a couple of things:

First, I did drink, and I know that can cause issues with performance.

But the REAL problem was not that I drank, but I had to pee, ALOT. And usually I can maintain an erection when I have to pee, but the added stress of having to perform with another couple made it difficult to say the least. Plus it seemed like every time it came to "my turn" to get pleasured, I had to make another restroon run.

To cap it all off, I am pee shy, so public restrooms I might as well forget about using unless I am well on my way to drunk. So I think it may have been a combination of these things?

[SnozzberryBlu]

Thanks all of you for the tips and ideas!! Levitra got us going on a roll this weekend, and hubby was at top performance! I think the 180 degree turn shocked the other Mrs... lol...!!!!!

He had a great time, and as I hoped, is now officially over those old hangups and now hooked I think for good! LOLOLOL!!!! he doesn't even think he will need the Levitra the next time (but it is in the party bag, just in case )

Thanks again.... Side note.. it was on my b-day, so what a great birthday present!!! (Which many of YOU contributed to!!

((hugs)) all around!
MsSnozz

Whoooo Hooooo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! facelick facelick

[BradAndJanet]

Excellent, MsSnozz! Woot!

-B

[JustAskJulie]

It sounds like you guys found a GREAT couple who is very supportive of you guys and willing to take things slow and make sure that you are both ok with what is going on. The fact that they called to check on you the next day says a lot.

As your hubby gets used to things and used to the couple the soft problem will abate. If they are willing to let the female join the two of you for a FMF that is worth a try, but from the sounds of it, I don't think the problem is having the other guy in the room.

In the 4some situation did you guys try having him rejoin with you? Did that help matters? If you didn't try then you might want to do that initially until he gets used to the situation.

If you typically find that a drink or two keeps him hard forever (my bf is like that as well) then it is worth a try as well.

[JustAskJulie]

Just read the "rest of the story". Congratulations, glad you guys were able to work over the bumps and head off for a smooth ride

Happy belated birthday!

[DBL D]

Hey! Sometimes you have a "flat"; and you got it fixed!

Performance anxiety. Happens all the time and happened to me too. Never thought it would. Like Alura said, fortunately this abates with time.

I try to stay focused on the task at hand and have stopped worrying about how I might measure up.

I'll find that out soon enough without worrying about it.

Male D