Erection problems

Posted by Hotcouple:
Also, was it expensive? Do you use it a lot? Or jsu when you are playing with others. Does it effect you getting it up when you don't take it?

It was $16 a pill. Not sure how that fits in with the "Normal" going price but it sounded fair. We got a bottle of 10. The perscription said to take 1/2 pill. So I actualy got 20 doses.

I have only taken it 3 times. The first time was just mrs naughty and I to see how it worked. The difference I noticed was I had no recovery time.

The second time I used it was with a couple. That time I did require some recovery time but it wasnt as long and he came back strong.

The third time was with a couple and it kept me hard.

It hasnt had any affect when not taking it.

[Eroica]

Our experience has been similar. Performance anxiety is definetly an issue as well as "more than a few drinks" and shyness. Also, we have met couples/men from strong religious backgrounds who have problems with guilt/shame. After a few failures, it can become a mental block similar to a baseball player in a slump. Viagra is an answer but not a cure. Better to deal with the issue at the root level and discuss with your wife. Maybe for some, swinging is better left at the fantasy level where these issues do not intrude as much.

[BradAndJanet]

Not to drive this too far off topic, but if you're thinking about trying 'V', consider Cialis instead. It really lasts 36 hours (for me) and costs about the same. More 'bang' for the buck!

Good advice here...but see an actual doctor first, please. He/she won't ask too many questions if you simply say you're having erection problems. The stuff is pretty safe and is widely prescribed.

-B

[stoutgatte]

BTW, just referenced this thread from somewhere else and thought I'd post an update...

I used viagra twice now in swinging situations and it (rather obviously) did the trick... The normal erections during everyday life has returned as my thoughts are now at a more normal level (ie not thinking I wonder why it didn't happen all the time), and I have even obtained erections during swinging situations before using viagra. I'm not quite ready to let it go completely, but I think I'll be able to move on after another 1/2 times, all about confidence eh?

Originally Posted by stoutgatte

I used viagra twice now in swinging situations and it (rather obviously) did the trick...

Good for you!!

As the female half I don't know exactly what you were going through, but I can say in a couple situation that has happened to the 'other guy' almost every time. I was very understanding the first couple of times, but eventually it pissed me off in a really big way. All men should have a back up or be up front about the fact it's a problem.

[Denver2some]

Originally Posted by stoutgatte

Out of experience though, its extremely frustrating to be banging away at a girl for an hour without achieving orgasm. Eventually it feels like she's just a doll and it's no fun... At least the woman gets something out of it if she achieves vaginal orgasms...

I'm sure this may have occured to you, but in many cases like this the woman is just faking the orgasm just to get the man to stop. Surrender More is not always better. (Sometimes it's downright painful!)

Not to mention, while you are being the Energizer Bunny your wife is with the other husband, stuck having to resusitate him over and over again ... just to have something to do. (And to not make him look or feel inadequate in comparison to a marathon man.) So her experience will be frustrating as well.

My recommendation would be, when you are having anxiety problems during same room swap, swap back! You'll probably spring to life in no time when you're with your wife ... and both your wives will thank you. Plus, knowing swapping back is always open to you may be enough to calm the performance anxiety.

Good luck!

Originally Posted by Denver2some

My recommendation would be, when you are having anxiety problems during same room swap, swap back! You'll probably spring to life in no time when you're with your wife ... and both your wives will thank you. Plus, knowing swapping back is always open to you may be enough to calm the performance anxiety.

Good luck!

AMEN!!!!!!

[stoutgatte]

Originally Posted by Denver2some

I'm sure this may have occured to you, but in many cases like this the woman is just faking the orgasm just to get the man to stop. Surrender More is not always better. (Sometimes it's downright painful!)

I totally agree... Please read my post carefully, I did not stress it a lot, but I said IF she gets an orgasm for a reason...

Originally Posted by Denver2some

My recommendation would be, when you are having anxiety problems during same room swap, swap back! You'll probably spring to life in no time when you're with your wife ... and both your wives will thank you. Plus, knowing swapping back is always open to you may be enough to calm the performance anxiety.

This is great advice for the general swinging environment, and I must admit it will definitely be my first option if (when) it happens again.

But in the situation we encountered this happened to the poor girl 5 times out of the last 5 times they tried to swing (there are reasons for this, but it isn't that she's not into swinging, the couple has been swinging for a couple of years already). As a result once the situation didn't arise the fun came to an abrupt end... We're still good friends with the couple and have discussed things a lot, we could've definitely tried a few more things to lift the mood, sadly we did not... But we will try again sometime soon...

I honestly think that if I hadn't used viagra the next time I would've had the same issues. Simply because of the way erections work, you worry too much, you don't get it. Now I'm not saying we'd not have been able to get around it, but life could have been a lot harder (maybe the wrong word eh?)...

[Denver2some]

Originally Posted by stoutgatte

I totally agree... Please read my post carefully, I did not stress it a lot, but I said IF she gets an orgasm for a reason...

Yes, I saw the IF. I guess was trying to add (awkwardly, now I see) that in these cases, sometimes the IF is an even bigger IF than it would appear. But now I see you were aware, and your IF was all-inclusive.

Originally Posted by stoutgatte

this happened to the poor girl 5 times out of the last 5 times they tried to swing

Wow, "poor girl" is right! That is enough to give a woman a complex. My heart goes out to her.

Originally Posted by stoutgatte

life could have been a lot harder (maybe the wrong word eh?)...

Very well put! Glad to hear the Viagra got you over the hump of initial nervousness.

[TeamSoBe]

Originally Posted by Denver2some

My recommendation would be, when you are having anxiety problems during same room swap, swap back! You'll probably spring to life in no time when you're with your wife ... and both your wives will thank you. Plus, knowing swapping back is always open to you may be enough to calm the performance anxiety.

I have been in the same situation before and I think that this is extremely good advice. I have no qualms about taking Viagra when I think that I could use the confidence boost but swapping back until everybody is comfortable with what's going on is even better.