wife concerned that swinging will interfere with our personal intimacy as a couple

[62Cadillac]

we r a 40's something couple brand new to the lifestyle, but think we r ready. my wife has brought up the question of how swinging will affect our personal intamacy as a couple. to simplify, she's concerned that swinging will somehow replace or interfer with our love and sexual desire for one another. any advice or comments? help!!!!!

[txduo2000]

If you both do a lot of communicating about your concerns, spend some time on this board getting a feel for why people swing and learn to separate love/intimacy from sex then you should have no worries there.

You will see that many couples share a common theme here: while sex with others can be completely outstanding, sex with your primary partner is so much MORE because of the emotional intimacy aspect.

[good times]

Dito what txduo said, and I can say that for us it has only enhanced our relationship.

[62Cadillac]

thanx guys 4 your reply. it is pretty much how i feel and my better half is a real smart lady, not 2 mention beautiful, she'll get it str8 in her mind.

[Spoomonkey]

It has deepened it for us - only because we talked so much before, but now we have so much more to talk about... We end conversations very often the same way we end sex: breathless, wide-eyed and saying "Wow!"

Spoomonkey

[WonTheSexLotto]

We started swinging just this month. We did it twice (MFM) with the same guy. I felt no jealousy at all, and my wife says she "won the sex lotto". She's also been acting wild before and after our play dates, much to my benefit. I couldn't keep track of the number of times we've had sex as a couple this month.

But the personal intimacy on all levels couldn't be stronger. Since our most recent play date (this afternoon), we've felt nothing but love and warmth toward each other. We just want to cuddle. We view the play dates as a life experience -- an erotic treat -- that we're sharing together.

To sum it up, the experience of swinging has exceeded our most optimistic expectations and none of our fears have surfaced. It leaves me wondering whether it really is supposed to feel this good.

Before you start, just make sure that you and your wife have excellent communication skills (similar to when you first met). Those skills can wane over time, especially if you have had kids.

[davidnjoy]

We know this post is about 2 weeks out from the original but wanted to throw our two cents in. Last week we had a female friend over for the night. As often happens after playing we can't get enough of each other the next day. In this specific case we ended up "bopping" each other four additional times the next day. In our case our intimacy is greater because of swinging and instead of our previous nights sexual activity leaving us spent for each other the next day our "can't keep our hands off one another" meter goes through the roof. With good coomunication we anticipate you will experience similiar gains in your personal intimacy through swinging. Good Luck!!

D&J

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by davidnjoy

We know this post is about 2 weeks out from the original but wanted to throw our two cents in.

That was worth a quarter, at least

Exactly the way we feel. We had a single guy visit for a night recently when we were out of town on vacation. He was there the first night and it made the rest of the vacation spank-alicious!



Spoomonkey