Couples only seem interested in me, not my bf

[Tenatious]

I am an attractive women with an average looking B/F well he has a monster cock and can fuck for hours, cum and go again. We have been out to some clubs "shopping" for other couples only to find that for some reason both male and female seem only to want to play with me. Should I sing it from the rafters that my B/F fucks to impress or just shun these other couples to go to the common room and publicly display my mans features and benefits? I want only to have a wicked fun time and only if he is too. He says he would love to watch but so would I. Suggestions????

[TNT]

Telling the other couples that you only play if both of you play is one thing you can do.

Going to the common play room and playing just by yourselves might also work. You may still have the problem of the women and men only wanting to play with just you but...a simple statement that "only if my boyfriend can play also" should help with that.

It might take time to find what you are looking for in another couple but that does not mean that the two of you can't have fun together along the way.


Teresa

[ShellyM]

I agree with the last post...just make it very clear that you both play or its no play. Its good to be sweet and nice, but you have to be confident enough to tell other people what you want. Shelly

[des1re06]

Honestly, the "monster cock" would scare me away. There was a poll here about cock size and the majority preferred average or a little above average.

Therefore, I would not want to full swap with you based on his description. Oral only would be fine.

Sorry, just being totally honest.

Mrs. D

[ShellyM]

LOL, I agree.....
Anything over 8 inches sounds painful to me lol.
Shelly

[iapr]

Originally Posted by Tenatious

I am an attractive women with an average looking B/F well he has a monster cock and can fuck for hours, cum and go again. We have been out to some clubs "shopping" for other couples only to find that for some reason both male and female seem only to want to play with me. Should I sing it from the rafters that my B/F fucks to impress or just shun these other couples to go to the common room and publicly display my mans features and benefits? I want only to have a wicked fun time and only if he is too. He says he would love to watch but so would I. Suggestions????

"...he has a monster cock and can fuck for hours....." actually sounds more like a male describing himself than a female describing her partner. Truthfully even if all that is true, focusing on his penis really isn't going to make a hill of beans with mnay of the women in the lifestyle. A cock is a cock as long as it works and most people are more interested in the chemistry and connection between people rather than what is swinging between their legs. Women can get cock anywhere.


Women getting all the attention while the men sit on the sidelines is a very common issue in the lifestyle and probably darn near all couples experience this to one degree or another. If he wants to be more involved he is going to have to BECOME involved. No matter how magnificient a mans penis is it is not going to get him anywhere in the lifestyle on it's own. He is going to have to learn to be more outgoing and engaging and will have to flirt and dance and be sociable and make friends with both halves of couples if he wants to get to play.

The lifestyle is not made up cock-deprived sluts that fuck just because someone has a cock. Guys that sit on the sidelines usually stay on the sidelines. Ones that get out and learn how to play the game usually do play.

[sexcupid]

I second the motion of going to the play area and just getting it on yourselves. That way there is some 'proof' to your claims, not just other couple thinking you are blowing smoke up their asses about your boyfriend's performance.

I mean seriously, how many profiles have your read or couples have you met that said their SO was crap in bed and that's why you are here?

One of the last times we went to the club (in April I think), we started out in the playroom by ourselves (there were 2 or 3 other couples in there too). In the time it took them to finish, go grab a drink and come back up to start again...we were still going. One of the other guys made an Engergizer Bunny comment. facelick

So just because I know he can fuck for hours on end, I wouldn't expect anyone else to believe it unless they've seen it or experienced it.

Maria

[ShellyM]

Maria, agreed completely.
I thought I had the Central Texas Energizer Bunny!!
I guess there must be 2....
lol, take care girl
Shelly

[sexcupid]

Shelly,

I guess we just got the good ones then.

Or maybe there's something in the water....

And I know it was another thread...but I'm still reeling over your hubby being physically assulted, in a bad way...wtf?

Maria

[ShellyM]

Yeah Maria,
it was a TRIP. Its in the past and forgotten, but it taught us a few lessons.
1. Watch the couple and how they relate to EACH OTHER.
2. Pay attention.
3. Pay attention lol
4. Did I say pay attention? Hind sight is always 20/20 and we are trying to have foresight....but we just chalk it up to a learning experience.
Shell

[havefuninsun]

Attraction can be a funny thing. After all, you're attracted to him, right? Don't sell him short. Frankly, there's only been one or two "pretty people" men that I've ever met that also passed the "attractive person" hurdle as well. For whatever reason, most barbie men (for lack of a better way to describe them) tend to be assholes. Maybe, like gorgeous women, when you know you can attract anyone physically, you stop trying to be a good person on the inside. I dunno. But who the person is, their personality, and (and I've said this lots of time on this board) their BRAIN POWER is the most erotic thing to me.

I can think of one guy I know who is as sexy on the inside as the outside (society's version of pretty) ... the rest of the pretty men ... don't measure up on the personality and brain beauty scale.

[Tenatious]

[QUOTE=iapr]"...he has a monster cock and can fuck for hours....." actually sounds more like a male describing himself

[Tenatious]

Actually I've been told many times that I seem to think like a man

[twohots4u2]

My partner is gorgeous and very fit while I am older and heavier. We realize that some couples are probably attracted a lot more to her than to me, but we don't play with them unless we (both of us) are involved in the play. It is just part of each of us taking care of the other. We feel that you need to focus on that and let play only with couples who are interested in playing with both of you. Sure, you may pass up some hotties, but just think what it will do for your relationship!