Husband Feeling Left out - other couple seems to only want FMF with wife

[Additude]

I wasn't there and for a fact neither were any of us. So no one except you and your husband knows the entire story at bay.

My response was based on the context of what the original poster said, one sided or otherwise.

If you have a beef with my reply, then consider the original poster for not providing a complete portrayal of both sides of the story, or allowing you to post your thoughts and feelings over the matter, each "side by side".

Based on what the original poster said, I stand by my response. However, if what the original poster said didn't portray the complete scope of the subject as a whole and my response seemed biased and was otherwise upsetting to you, then I apologize for upsetting you as that was not my intention. But I don't apologize for what I said, however I do understand your position based on your reply. Had your reply been a new post on it's own merit, outlining your side of the story I am sure I would have responded favorably to what you had said.

No ill feelings intended.

[Mr&MrsSwing]

I don't feel you overreacted. My guess is the other couple is hoping you will just get swallowed up in all the mystery and shock of the situation that you will forget that you aren't getting fucked. Of course that isn't the case and shouldn't be unless you are in agreement. Your wife is probably 1) more comfortable with the situation and 2) excited that she is getting attention, but forgetting about your feelings. As a couple (unfortunately) who has tried to do this before (meaning we told the couple we wanted to play with her while he just watched), it hurts feelings and it hardly ever works out. good luck to you

mrs

[aahours1]

All these comments are very GOOD. But the bottom line was that he felt left out and they only wanted the misses. The rule was, be together and play together. That rule, if was correct, should not very in any way. What would happen if the shoe was on the other foot and the lady only wanted the guy and the gal could either watch or stay at home. I bet that the wife would be upset also.
Even though she was in the lifestyle before. It is obvious that she has had more experience in the lifestlye, but she should have better judgement when coming to her husband. Being a newbie and all, as all you veteren lifestlyer's know, it does take time to get really comfortable. I mayself would not allow my wife, girlfriend, finance' go alone and play alone. Jus tis not right. I would not do it to her, so I expect the same from her. RESPECT is the word here on ALL parties parts.

[NandTfromCA]

Originally Posted by LostDusty

We have since been to a swinger party and had a fantastic time. We also have met a nice couple and had our first swinger encounter and it was GREAT. We've met with the couple since then for dinner and a show and intend to have another play session with them next weekend.

Thanks for updating us on your progress. It's good to hear that you've been having a great time.

Could you share how you got past the initial problems? You two aren't alone in having them, so I'm sure we can all learn from your situation.

[NandTfromCA]

FROM THE OP: 11-13-2006, 07:21 AM first time and was great!
first time and was great!

FROM THE OP: 10-13-2006, 10:02 AM newbie did I over react or thin skin
Husband Feeling Left out - other couple seems to only want FMF with wife

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