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De and Ci · 04-01-2004, 08:17 PM

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Originally posted by Mr&Mrs-naughty
But even though I am with another woman while she is with another man I spend a lot of my time still watching her while I am with the other woman because that is the part I like best.

Sound weird?

Interesting-I'm like you. While I enjoy being with the other woman. Most of the turn-on is watching my wife with another guy. Funny thing, This couple that we play with sometimes. The last time, I was having sex with the woman, Her husband got on top of my wife, I turned to watch and the woman grabbed my head and told me not to look at them-I guess she thought I wasn't giving her enough attention.

hmr · 04-01-2004, 11:30 PM

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Originally posted by De and Ci
Most of the turn-on is watching my wife with another guy. Funny thing, This couple that we play with sometimes. The last time, I was having sex with the woman, Her husband got on top of my wife, I turned to watch and the woman grabbed my head and told me not to look at them-I guess she thought I wasn't giving her enough attention.

That's when you should have gently turned her head towards them and said, 'Watching your husband f***k my wife just makes me sooo HOT, don't your find it exciting?'

Maybe she never thought about how erotic it was. Well, give her the benefit of the doubt anyway.

mrs hmr

partyof2 · 04-02-2004, 10:29 AM

That has happened to us too, the other woman kept blocking my husbands view of me and her hubby, and his major turn on is seeing me with someone else.

It's so funny.....he said he'd be fine with us just doing MFM with him mostly watching, but I want a full swap so I know he's not left out.

frenzb4sex · 04-03-2004, 01:04 PM

Hey everybody! It's been a while since I have lurked on this fab board (my new joint venture has me hop-hop-hopping), but I am glad to see all the great new faces and opinions on here.

I am going to play the role of the minority in this one. Much commentary has been made of the fact of liking to watch your spouse with another person getting off. We really are not the voyeuristic type and don't really get overly excited seeing each other with someone else.

Is it jealousy? Absolutely not. The difference is that we are very concerned about having a great time with the person that we are with at that time, notsomuch using the person or being used as props for the other to get off. I guess we look at that if you have to get off yourself by constantly needing the visual of your spouse enjoying his/her self, what does it matter who you are with?

Perhaps this is just an overanalyzation of the situation/preference, but to me, it makes it a situation where the person is an object and not entirely a "person". Does that make sense? When it occurs in that fashion, the intimacy is thrown out the door, in our opinion. I am not talking the polyamory side of things, it just doesn't make things as enjoyable for us as it could be.

This is not slamming or belittling the preference that many have proclaimed at all. Variety and differences is the reason that the lifestyle thrives. To each their own, and if you enjoy it--awesome--that's what this is all about, having a great time in a comfortable atmosphere for everyone involved!!!!

This is just a humble opinion from a casual observer (no pun intended).

Tim

LikeMinds321 · 04-03-2004, 02:51 PM

Tim,

I support your view.

I've been wondering how to enter in on this topic of couples swapping and watching their spouse get fucked while they are fucking the person they're with. So far, it's sounds like a lot of watching going on rather than focusing on the person you're with.

I think it would be damn rude of a guy humping me while spending most of his time watching his wife get fucked. If that's what it takes to get his dick off in me, play elsewhere!

I plan to give my FULL attention to the man I'm with. My pleasure will be in making him feel great. In return, I want a man to give me the same attentiveness.

If a husband wants to watch his wife getting-it-on with another guy, then sit back and watch, jack off, or join in and make it a MFM party. No one will be used or ignored this way.

A person should never be seen as an "object" or used.

Mrs. LM

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04-03-2004, 01:04 PM	#19 (permalink)
frenzb4sex Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Nov 2003 Posts: 239 Location: Central Illinois Status: Male of Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:frenzb4sex	Hey everybody! It's been a while since I have lurked on this fab board (my new joint venture has me hop-hop-hopping), but I am glad to see all the great new faces and opinions on here. I am going to play the role of the minority in this one. Much commentary has been made of the fact of liking to watch your spouse with another person getting off. We really are not the voyeuristic type and don't really get overly excited seeing each other with someone else. Is it jealousy? Absolutely not. The difference is that we are very concerned about having a great time with the person that we are with at that time, notsomuch using the person or being used as props for the other to get off. I guess we look at that if you have to get off yourself by constantly needing the visual of your spouse enjoying his/her self, what does it matter who you are with? Perhaps this is just an overanalyzation of the situation/preference, but to me, it makes it a situation where the person is an object and not entirely a "person". Does that make sense? When it occurs in that fashion, the intimacy is thrown out the door, in our opinion. I am not talking the polyamory side of things, it just doesn't make things as enjoyable for us as it could be. This is not slamming or belittling the preference that many have proclaimed at all. Variety and differences is the reason that the lifestyle thrives. To each their own, and if you enjoy it--awesome--that's what this is all about, having a great time in a comfortable atmosphere for everyone involved!!!! This is just a humble opinion from a casual observer (no pun intended). Tim
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04-03-2004, 02:51 PM	#20 (permalink)
LikeMinds321 I'll think about it Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 10,099 Location: With Wild Things Status: Married Female	frenzb4sex Tim, I support your view. I've been wondering how to enter in on this topic of couples swapping and watching their spouse get fucked while they are fucking the person they're with. So far, it's sounds like a lot of watching going on rather than focusing on the person you're with. I think it would be damn rude of a guy humping me while spending most of his time watching his wife get fucked. If that's what it takes to get his dick off in me, play elsewhere! I plan to give my FULL attention to the man I'm with. My pleasure will be in making him feel great. In return, I want a man to give me the same attentiveness. If a husband wants to watch his wife getting-it-on with another guy, then sit back and watch, jack off, or join in and make it a MFM party. No one will be used or ignored this way. A person should never be seen as an "object" or used. Mrs. LM

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04-02-2004, 10:29 AM	#18 (permalink)
partyof2 Registered Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 7 Location: TX Status: couple	That has happened to us too, the other woman kept blocking my husbands view of me and her hubby, and his major turn on is seeing me with someone else. It's so funny.....he said he'd be fine with us just doing MFM with him mostly watching, but I want a full swap so I know he's not left out.