Is it normal for there to not be attraction on all 4 sides?

[Alura]

"Gratitude is riches; complaint is poverty, and the worst I ever had was wonderful!"
—Brother Dave Gardner

Mrs. Alura and I just had a talk (not the first one) about this subject.

One of our long-term playcouples might have fit into the "taking one for the team" category when we first met them. The lady was overweight, the husband was no conversationalist and had a stamina problem.

Instead of looking for another couple immediately we chose to get to know them better. That helped a lot.

When he learned that Mrs. Alura was really interested in getting to know both him and his wife, he loosened up, learned to eat pussy better and gained a lot of stamina with Mrs. Alura's fine coaching. She lost a bit of weight.

We often lay in bed afterward and talked about sexual techniques. The husband even started doing "tongue exercises" in order to improve his cunnilingual abilities. The lady had rarely, maybe never, swallowed her husband's cum, but when she saw Mrs. Alura drink it with pleasure, she opened her mind. When she tried mine, she decided it wasn't so bad and was soon going, "UUUmmmmm" as she sucked out every drop.

They had married in high school. We were their second sex partners. I'm sure their lack of experience was part of the original lack of attraction.

We became good friends played with them for several years, so I guess "taking one for the team" was not so bad in this case.

I guess we could have decided she was too fat and he was too boring. Ah, but what we'd have missed!

There was another couple. I "took one for the team" with the lady. I felt from the time they showed up for the playdate that she was not really enthusiastic. I managed to bring her off orally (which seemed to surprise her) before Mrs. Alura and her husband put on a spectacular show for us. Then jealousy reared its ugly head on Mrs. Playmate's part and the play was over for good. I had done nothing but eat pussy. Mrs. Alura, however, took the situation in hand, mouth and pussy and saved the evening.

Sex may not be as good as imagined, but how bad can it be?

Mr. Alura

[Pepper & Drew]

Originally Posted by kittylikesmfm

i'm not talking about swinging with the munsters here..i'm talking about for whatever reason your spouse doesn't find one or both of the people you're just nuts about attractive, (the infamous natural blonde with the long features and horseteeth is the one i notice other men loving, but repulses my husband; on my end, i hate the 'metrosexual' personality; if you have a dick and have gotten a manicure or tanned, i would never, ever fuck you)
so i mean by taking one for the team, tolerating a person that would be generally accepted as attractive, just not quite your type, for your spouses enjoyment.

That's cool if that's what the two of you want to do and that's the beauty of this: you can set your own rules accordingly. But, I guess our attitude is that there are enough couples out there that we both enjoy (I know there are) so why should we settle for people that one of us just isn't into?

We've both taken one for the team (in neither case was the other person a member of the "Munsters" at all) but, in the end, it left a bad taste (no pun intended) in our mouths and led to some resentment. So, we don't do it anymore. We swing for fun, and for us, that wasn't.

Pepper

[good times]

Originally Posted by Pepper & Drew

But, I guess our attitude is that there are enough couples out there that we both enjoy (I know there are) so why should we settle for people that one of us just isn't into?

Good point, in my previous post in this thread I said "When we first started we found it so hard to find couples where all four were compatible that both of us occasionally "took one for the team". This isn't quite correct, what I should have said is that when we first started we thought it would be so hard to find couples we were both compatible with. It turns out that it isn't as hard as we thought it would be. True, we could hook up more often if we were willing to "take one for the team". But it turns out our dance card is pretty full without doing that, and we would rather hook up with new couples less often than as Pepper said "settle for people that one of us just isn't into".

[Andy100]

Hi All

We would like to thank everyone for the detailed replies to our original post it is obvious this is an issue that every couple handles in a way they feel comfortable with , from what we have learned from your replies this is going to be part of the swinging scene and we will just have to deal with it, our first choice would be Four-way chemistry but realise now that is not always going to happen, we are all different and our individual sexuality is as diverse as our own personalities and as Mr Alura pointed out it make take time for that Chemistry to develop.

So great job everyone we appreciate all your efforts …………Love to you all

[Greg & Sheryl]

1. Yes, this is very common. For many couples, either spouse has the option to veto another couple altogether if he/she doesn't feel an attraction to his/her potential playmate. We have exercised this veto power on a number of occasions, and we have been vetoed a few times ourselves.

2. For us, this depends on the circumstances. In a two-on-two situation with specific couple, we would never do so, but we go by a slightly different (lower?) set of standards in a group situation. When it come to small groups of 3-6 couples, sometimes we don't necessarily find ourselves matched with our ideal partners when everyone pairs up. In a situation like that, we just go with the flow. We often get to play with our first choices later in the evening (which answers Spoomonkey's question as to whether we double dip).