Playing with only 1/2 of a couple

HDrider · 10-01-2004, 12:46 PM

After researching this site, this looks like a perfect place to ask this, so, here goes.....

We are acquaintances with this married couple, not friends. We're all bikers and we typically do not ride or otherwise socialize with them. During a recent charity ride the F of this couple was been more than friendly with my wife and vice versa. My wife has remarked that she would like to ask this F to be with her for her 1st FF encounter. The M of this couple is basically a jerk, especially when he has been drinking. Therefore, we would like to invite the F to join us for some playtime, but not the M.

Question: Have any of you played with only 1/2 of a couple you knew without the other 1/2 knowing about it? I hope I asked that in the right way....

stoutgatte · 10-01-2004, 03:29 PM

If you don't allow the other male in on the deal (at least to watch), you're looking for serious trouble. You're inviting her to cheat on him, there is no other way to say it. Now, if you're ok with that and are willing to take the risks involved...

The choice is yours to make, but I'd advise against it...

**good times** · 10-01-2004, 04:10 PM

As Stoutgatte said that would be cheating on the other females part. If you would like a good overview of how the swinging community feels about it in general, just do a search on this sight for "cheating". As this is a pretty common topic here, their are a quite a few threads on the subject to read.

BradAndJanet · 10-01-2004, 05:36 PM

Oooo, yeah, I don't know about doing that. I think I'd pass that opportunity up, myself. You'd be just asking for trouble if he found out. I just wouldn't feel comfortable with that situation.

-B

10-01-2004, 11:43 PM

I wouldn't go there wether he knew about it or not.
Basicaly because of this line right here:

Quote:

The M of this couple is basically a jerk, especially when he has been drinking.

Even if he knew and was even invited to watch I think you would live to regret it.

And if he didn't know about it and found out later I believe it would be much worse.

Mrs Spoomonkey · 10-02-2004, 01:48 AM

Looks like the agreement with everyone is don't do it. All I can say is Dito

As GoodTimes suggested . . . do a search on "cheating", in most cases it seems to be the male trying to swing single, this just sounds like it would be a reverse of the same thing. Also, sounds a little risky with the way you described the husband, I don't think I'd even want to go there.

Mrs Spoomonkey

shehetr · 10-02-2004, 02:28 AM

paticipate from turkey

WesternSwing · 10-02-2004, 01:21 PM

Dito to everyone else.

Look at it this way, too. How would you feel if another couple asked your wife to play, but didn't want you there?

Mr. WS

HDrider · 10-04-2004, 06:59 AM

Thanks for the input everybody. You confirmed my thoughts on this.

rider

***JustAskJulie*** · 10-04-2004, 07:48 PM

My first question was to ask if this couple is even swingers. If not, then it would be a definate no.

If they are active swingers then it would be a matter of talking to them and finding out if they are ok with the idea of one of them playing without the other being involved.

HDrider · 10-05-2004, 08:06 AM

Thanks, great idea Julie.

We know they are swingers, the F has told us this, we've even unexpectedly met another couple they play with. We were informally introduced to them. I suspect that's because they don't know we play......yet.

How, or maybe better, when do you decide someone is truly discreet and buys into the "loose lips sink ships" mentality? We live in a VERY small community, damn...

Chemistry_0518 · 10-05-2004, 10:36 AM

We, too, would have to add a big DITTO Dito to the responses above. Been there, done that, regretted same. flamethrow

stoutgatte · 10-05-2004, 12:33 PM

I must say, if they're swingers, and would consider her going solo, you could try it. But it might ruin your friendship all ways...

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10-01-2004, 12:46 PM	#1 (permalink)
HDrider Active Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Posts: 12 Location: GA Status: Couple	Playing with only 1/2 of a couple After researching this site, this looks like a perfect place to ask this, so, here goes..... We are acquaintances with this married couple, not friends. We're all bikers and we typically do not ride or otherwise socialize with them. During a recent charity ride the F of this couple was been more than friendly with my wife and vice versa. My wife has remarked that she would like to ask this F to be with her for her 1st FF encounter. The M of this couple is basically a jerk, especially when he has been drinking. Therefore, we would like to invite the F to join us for some playtime, but not the M. Question: Have any of you played with only 1/2 of a couple you knew without the other 1/2 knowing about it? I hope I asked that in the right way.... __________________ Guns kill people like spoons made Rosie O'Donnell fat

10-01-2004, 03:29 PM	#2 (permalink)
stoutgatte Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jun 2004 Posts: 332 Location: South-Africa Status: Male Half	Re: Playing with only 1/2 of a couple If you don't allow the other male in on the deal (at least to watch), you're looking for serious trouble. You're inviting her to cheat on him, there is no other way to say it. Now, if you're ok with that and are willing to take the risks involved... The choice is yours to make, but I'd advise against it... __________________ Stoutgatte: Plural form of the afrikaans slang for a very norti person...

10-01-2004, 04:10 PM	#3 (permalink)
good times Mod Squad Member Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 6,634 Location: Reno, Nevada Status: Married to Mrs Good Times Swing Lifestyle Name:randp	Re: Playing with only 1/2 of a couple As Stoutgatte said that would be cheating on the other females part. If you would like a good overview of how the swinging community feels about it in general, just do a search on this sight for "cheating". As this is a pretty common topic here, their are a quite a few threads on the subject to read. __________________ R (He is R, she is P)

10-01-2004, 05:36 PM	#4 (permalink)
BradAndJanet Only slightly cracked... Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 7,072 Location: Seattle Status: Married Couple	Re: Playing with only 1/2 of a couple Oooo, yeah, I don't know about doing that. I think I'd pass that opportunity up, myself. You'd be just asking for trouble if he found out. I just wouldn't feel comfortable with that situation. -B __________________ "If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." - Mark Twain All about us...

10-02-2004, 01:48 AM	#6 (permalink)
Mrs Spoomonkey Disney!All rides are open Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 1,756 Location: Ohio Status: Married Swing Lifestyle Name:spoomonkey	Re: Playing with only 1/2 of a couple Looks like the agreement with everyone is don't do it. All I can say is Dito As GoodTimes suggested . . . do a search on "cheating", in most cases it seems to be the male trying to swing single, this just sounds like it would be a reverse of the same thing. Also, sounds a little risky with the way you described the husband, I don't think I'd even want to go there. Mrs Spoomonkey __________________ Love is friendship set aflame

10-02-2004, 02:28 AM	#7 (permalink)
shehetr Registered User Join Date: Sep 2004 Posts: 1 Location: ankara, turkey	Re: Playing with only 1/2 of a couple paticipate from turkey

10-02-2004, 01:21 PM	#8 (permalink)
WesternSwing South of disorder Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 2,913 Location: Utah Status: Male half of married couple	Re: Playing with only 1/2 of a couple Dito to everyone else. Look at it this way, too. How would you feel if another couple asked your wife to play, but didn't want you there? Mr. WS __________________ "God created sex. Priests created marriage." ~ Voltaire

10-04-2004, 06:59 AM	#9 (permalink)
HDrider Active Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Posts: 12 Location: GA Status: Couple	Re: Playing with only 1/2 of a couple Thanks for the input everybody. You confirmed my thoughts on this. rider __________________ Guns kill people like spoons made Rosie O'Donnell fat

10-04-2004, 07:48 PM	#10 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 24,504 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard Blog Entries: 75	Re: Playing with only 1/2 of a couple My first question was to ask if this couple is even swingers. If not, then it would be a definate no. If they are active swingers then it would be a matter of talking to them and finding out if they are ok with the idea of one of them playing without the other being involved.

10-05-2004, 08:06 AM	#11 (permalink)
HDrider Active Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Posts: 12 Location: GA Status: Couple	Re: Playing with only 1/2 of a couple Thanks, great idea Julie. We know they are swingers, the F has told us this, we've even unexpectedly met another couple they play with. We were informally introduced to them. I suspect that's because they don't know we play......yet. How, or maybe better, when do you decide someone is truly discreet and buys into the "loose lips sink ships" mentality? We live in a VERY small community, damn... __________________ Guns kill people like spoons made Rosie O'Donnell fat

10-05-2004, 10:36 AM	#12 (permalink)
Chemistry_0518 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2003 Posts: 158 Location: Suffern NY Status: female	Re: Playing with only 1/2 of a couple We, too, would have to add a big DITTO Dito to the responses above. Been there, done that, regretted same. flamethrow Last edited by Chemistry_0518 : 10-05-2004 at 10:40 AM.

10-05-2004, 12:33 PM	#13 (permalink)
stoutgatte Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jun 2004 Posts: 332 Location: South-Africa Status: Male Half	Re: Playing with only 1/2 of a couple I must say, if they're swingers, and would consider her going solo, you could try it. But it might ruin your friendship all ways... __________________ Stoutgatte: Plural form of the afrikaans slang for a very norti person...

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