Playing with only 1/2 of a couple

[HDrider]

After researching this site, this looks like a perfect place to ask this, so, here goes.....

We are acquaintances with this married couple, not friends. We're all bikers and we typically do not ride or otherwise socialize with them. During a recent charity ride the F of this couple was been more than friendly with my wife and vice versa. My wife has remarked that she would like to ask this F to be with her for her 1st FF encounter. The M of this couple is basically a jerk, especially when he has been drinking. Therefore, we would like to invite the F to join us for some playtime, but not the M.

Question: Have any of you played with only 1/2 of a couple you knew without the other 1/2 knowing about it? I hope I asked that in the right way....

[stoutgatte]

If you don't allow the other male in on the deal (at least to watch), you're looking for serious trouble. You're inviting her to cheat on him, there is no other way to say it. Now, if you're ok with that and are willing to take the risks involved...

The choice is yours to make, but I'd advise against it...

[good times]

As Stoutgatte said that would be cheating on the other females part. If you would like a good overview of how the swinging community feels about it in general, just do a search on this sight for "cheating". As this is a pretty common topic here, their are a quite a few threads on the subject to read.

[BradAndJanet]

Oooo, yeah, I don't know about doing that. I think I'd pass that opportunity up, myself. You'd be just asking for trouble if he found out. I just wouldn't feel comfortable with that situation.

-B

I wouldn't go there wether he knew about it or not.
Basicaly because of this line right here:

The M of this couple is basically a jerk, especially when he has been drinking.

Even if he knew and was even invited to watch I think you would live to regret it.

And if he didn't know about it and found out later I believe it would be much worse.

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

Looks like the agreement with everyone is don't do it. All I can say is Dito

As GoodTimes suggested . . . do a search on "cheating", in most cases it seems to be the male trying to swing single, this just sounds like it would be a reverse of the same thing. Also, sounds a little risky with the way you described the husband, I don't think I'd even want to go there.

Mrs Spoomonkey

[shehetr]

paticipate from turkey

[WesternSwing]

Dito to everyone else.

Look at it this way, too. How would you feel if another couple asked your wife to play, but didn't want you there?

Mr. WS

[HDrider]

Thanks for the input everybody. You confirmed my thoughts on this.

rider

[JustAskJulie]

My first question was to ask if this couple is even swingers. If not, then it would be a definate no.

If they are active swingers then it would be a matter of talking to them and finding out if they are ok with the idea of one of them playing without the other being involved.

[HDrider]

Thanks, great idea Julie.

We know they are swingers, the F has told us this, we've even unexpectedly met another couple they play with. We were informally introduced to them. I suspect that's because they don't know we play......yet.

How, or maybe better, when do you decide someone is truly discreet and buys into the "loose lips sink ships" mentality? We live in a VERY small community, damn...

[Chemistry_0518]

We, too, would have to add a big DITTO Dito to the responses above. Been there, done that, regretted same. flamethrow

[stoutgatte]

I must say, if they're swingers, and would consider her going solo, you could try it. But it might ruin your friendship all ways...