When 1 Plus 1 Is Not 2

Posted by Fun Pair:

Spoo, if this had come from anyone else on the board I would suspect a troll. Does the guy sell used cars when he isn't swinging?

I was also thinking troll. Not from spoomonkey but from the guy he was talking to.

[desert_dwellers]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

Maybe they are attached at the hip, maybe not... But what matters is whether or not we get a good vibe.

Your gut instincts are your best guide. Obviously this guy had NO respect for your relationship (or his for that matter). Good call.

-J

[JnCC]

[quote=Pepper & Drew]

this weekend we met some couples who are just dating--living together, in committed relationships, but not married.

I think that "dating" and "living together" are almost synonamous, as are "committed" and "married." People who pair-up primarily for the purpose of participating in the Lifestyle...I don't know, flame me if you like...but they seem to have an air of desperation about them. I always wonder if the guy is such a loser that his only hope of connecting with women (other than the one he's dating) is through the Lifestyle. I often wonder if the woman is so insecure about her looks or her age that she's afraid to say "no" to whatever the hell crazy idea he cooks up, whether it's going to wild, naked orgies together, or moving to Canada to hunt bears.

I've had some experience in this both as the male-half of a married couple, (twice) as a guy who was dating a woman who also happened to be a swinger, and now, as a male who's been living with a woman for about a year-and-a-half, and with whom we sometimes participate in swinging activities. I/we have always been upfront about the nature of our relationship to each other when dealing with couples in the Lifestyle, and feel absolutely NO ill-will towards anybody who passes us by because we're not married, and aren't planning to be. This is where I have to say...the level of enjoyment I've experienced in swinging has been directly proportional to the level of committment I had with the woman I was swinging with.

By far, the most fun, ever, were the times that my ex-wife and I participated together. We got into the Lifestyle as tentative, frightened newbies, and when we left it, we were swinging from the chandeliers. Hands down, there's nothing as fun as getting into some grown-up mischief and merrymaking, unless it's doing it with your best friend and lover.

The least fun by far were the times that I did this with a "date" or a woman I didn't really have an ongoing relationship with. In fact, it was downright depressing, probably because I was comparing the experience, and the experience after "the experience," to the happier times described above. I only went to one club with one woman, and a couple house parties with the other. Never again!

Currently, I'm in a "quasi-relationship" with a woman, so our level of involvement in all this would probably qualify us as "quasi-swingers." She had no knowledge of my past experience, and I didn't mention the word "swinging," until we'd been together for almost 8 months. Her sex drive is much higher than mine, and she likes to play. We've even done some full-swap. But to be honest, the giggle-ometer has been pegged at about "half" ever since we started this.

I guess swinging is like horse racing...it's a lot more interesting when your own horse is in the race.

[EvilMJ]

Originally Posted by JnCC

or moving to Canada to hunt bears.
.

:rollseyes oh yeah, bash the Canadians..Just when I was starting to like you and agree with what you were saying....We don't hunt bears!!

going to sulk now

[Pinmonkey]

Mr Spoomonkey. I agree with you on the poor grammar and poor spelling to some extent. I suck at spelling. I mean suck. So I'll tolerate it on IMs. However when words are purposefully misspelled and bad grammar is purposefully misused to try to act "down" then it starts getting annoying.

As for couple, I think I have the same fuzzy definition you have. it's like the saying "I can't define pornography, but I know it when I see it." Well it hard to define a couple, but you can tell one when you see one. I think the best way to describe "coupledom" was said by someone (sorry forget who) as people who have a history. Maybe it's living together. Maybe it's being married. Maybe it's just how well they know each other or how long they've known each other. But in any case there is some kind of solid link between the two.

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by Mr&Mrs-naughty

We wont be running from you guys we will be running towards you and it will be in slow motion like that Bo deric movie with the beach scene!!

Just lay out a banana trail for us to the beach!!!!

Mrs Spoomonkey

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by WesternSwing

No you aren't. I'd be hitting the "block" button real quick. This guy's a kook!

Just so everyone knows - I get a weird sense of enjoyment out of toying with HNGs (Horny Net Geeks)... It is perverse, I'll admit, but they always contact me first and I am very up front with whom we will and will not meet.

He was blocked when he became beligerent about meeting now that he was part of a "couple".

Anyway - thanks for everyone's input...

I always like a thread where I get hit on (I don't care what you say EvilMJ - you WERE hitting on me ). And being able to confirm that Texas will welcome us with open arms (Naughty's) is a great feeling...

I think, while everyone had great input, Desert Dwellers summed it up best - Gut Instinct... Really - that's all we have, anyway...

And thanks for gettin' my back, Ron Dawg...

Spoomonkey

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by Pinmonkey

Mr Spoomonkey. I agree with you on the poor grammar and poor spelling to some extent. I suck at spelling. I mean suck.

Pinmonkey

I understand that not all monkeys are nearly as well developed as me - so your grammar ineptitude is forgiven

Spoomonkey

[EvilMJ]

As someone who has never experianced the whole on line swinging thing...I have to admit it sounds terrifying!! (run away...run away). I have to wonder how anyone sorts out the normal people from the cornflakes.

Spoomonkey....okay maybe I was hitting on you , There's just something about a monkey that can type that sets my heart aflame (my hubby is a bit of a monkey himself as he spends a lot of time in trees). I wonder if they have support groups for that..monkey's anonymous.

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by EvilMJ

I wonder if they have support groups for that..monkey's anonymous.

The real question is - why do you feel that it's a problem?



Spoomonkey

[EternallySingle]

Yo, G. Y U dissin dawg bout wantin to hook up wit U? Maybe he no his freak be down wit da swizzle an U an he can run im all nite, fo shizzle.

Ok, I see what you mean. Seriously. I have to get on my 37 year old brother about his grammer all the time, especially when he totally blows it with someone I know swings and is interested in him (why him and not me, I don't know. he's fat!!!!!) Anyway...

As far as them being a couple, they are not. They are just two people who like to have sex. Maybe she would jump in with both feet once she heard about swinging, but why not approach her alone and leave him behind? Oh, I know. Then he'd get jealous that she was getting attention from you and the Mrs. and ...

... would hafta break U down quick fast and easy fo not givin him his props.

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by EternallySingle

Yo, G. Y U dissin dawg bout wantin to hook up wit U? Maybe he no his freak be down wit da swizzle an U an he can run im all nite, fo shizzle.

You be straight trippin', boo...



Spoomonkey

PS - "Does anybody on this plane speak jive???"

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

EternallySingle you totally cracked me up!!
I told Mr Spoo I didn't even understand the first line I read (yes I am joking).

Mrs Spoomonkey

[good times]

MAO,

Now where did I put my boyz from the hood decoder ring?

[EvilMJ]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

The real question is - why do you feel that it's a problem?



Spoomonkey

Fine...I'll just have to learn to accept to my amazon tendancies!! I think I'll go have a bananna.........