When 1 Plus 1 Is Not 2

[WesternSwing]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

So my question for the panel is this...

How do you define a couple? When does 1+1 really equal 2?

Dawg, U R so rite...

Okay, enough of that...

1+1=2 when they are a real couple. They don't have to be married, but in our opinion they do have to have a history, like at least a year or so.

And am I being a little hard on the use of the word "dawg"?

No you aren't. I'd be hitting the "block" button real quick. This guy's a kook!

I'm funny, but legible writing and grammar are very important to us when choosing play partners. For me at least it is a sign of care and concern about themselves overall. I don't expect them to be as anal as I am about my writing, but most grammar and spelling should be correct. I am more lenient on instant messaging because so much is abbreviated, but profiles and emails should be pretty good. Especially since you can run a spell check before posting your profile or sending an email.

Mr. WS

[Vespertine]

Yesterday, he IMs me again. Only this time - he has a girlfriend. He's known her for five days, "but she is such a freak!" So, of course, we ought to all get together, now that he's a "couple."

Well - of course the answer was still no from the start... He still used the word "dawg" way too much...

But as our conversation evolved, I found out that:

1. She was already using the "L" word with him, but he wasn't ready to talk about his feelings with her...

2. He once beat up some guys at a swing event because he couldn't handle watching other men "hit that" - but this is a "perfect" set up because he doesn't like her enough to beat me up if I get my jiggy on...

3. He hadn't told her that he was going to now use her as some strange love offering to swinging couples... But he knew that she'd be into it because - as we've established - "she is such a freak!"

Did you by chance get this guy's age?

The only group of people I know that use the word "Dawg", consider the word "Freak" as a compliment, and fall in love in less than a week are between the ages of 13-15!

Did you explain to him that you are a monkey and not a dog?

[good times]

Sometimes you kill me spoo, I sit here laughing my ass off, and then, more often than not, I find myself thinking...hey, we have had that happen too.

I don't imagine anyone has noticed but I like comma's better than dot's.

I was sitting here reading this post and allmost chocked my dawg who was sitting in my lap at the time fishing for much needed attention. She is now sitting in her bed with that "your an idiot, sitting their laughing at nothing, look".

I think I first new I was getting old when I started noticing that younger people say stupid words, I just look at them and think, whats wrong with saying it with real words?

Now, back to the thread.

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

This approach has left us with a couple of experiences that we kind of wish we hadn't had... One lady in an unmarried couple began to act really, really weird about me - saying she'd chosen certain dresses and shaved just for me...

I once had a female of an unmarried couple we had played with before come up to me right after they walked in the door of the club and say "I've been dreaming about your dick all week". Freaked me out right away, we haven't played with them again. The last time they came to the club she followed me around like a puppy and when I apparently didn't pay enough attention to her she stomped out mad, weird.

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

So my question for the panel is this...

How do you define a couple? When does 1+1 really equal 2?

When they are commited to each other more than they are to swinging. How one reliably determines this is still something I'm working on.

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

And am I being a little hard on the use of the word "dawg"?

Dawg burned if I know.

[littlebit54]

Originally Posted by Vespertine

Did you by chance get this guy's age?

The only group of people I know that use the word "Dawg", consider the word "Freak" as a compliment, and fall in love in less than a week are between the ages of 13-15!

Did you explain to him that you are a monkey and not a dog?

That was my thought, too,
Vesperitine. Mostly young boys overuse the word "Dawg" or immature adults. I am laughing at all the posts on this subject. Great ones all.
And hey EvilMJ, i hope you didn't think i was hitting on you when i posted about how i fell for your sense of yourself and your humor. I haven't had that much experience in posting etiquette, so chalk it up to that, won't you?
You are all too funny tonight! You bunch of Amazons and Monkeys and of course there's the queen of the jungle herself...right EvilJane?

[hotblonde47]

I'm so glad you haven't fully retired Mr Spoo! You are so funny! And I really need see that the person I'm talking to has some kind of education, sometimes its tough to not send it back redlined. However I do occasionally slip into the "how r u" stuff .... so please, everyone, don't be too hard!

[EvilMJ]

littlebit54

No worries...ususally I just scare people when they experiance my sense of self...

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by Mr&Mrs-naughty

disclaimer to Mrs Spoo-I think you are just as naughty as Mr & you can jump on my bed anytime

I am a happy monkey - love jumping on beds

Mrs Spoomonkey

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by Mr&Mrs-naughty

& it's YELLOW TOO!!!
(the boat, not his banana!!)

Monkey cage break looming in the future. You should know the zoo rules no teasing the animals.

Mrs Spoomonkey

[cannon1968]

As I'm new to this board I send this a little reluctantly, it is sad that some bad experiences can reflect bad on all others in the same category (Single Males). I had good experiences with couples as a single. I think common decency and respect needs to be part of a person’s life, under the covers as well!!

[littlebit54]

Originally Posted by EvilMJ

littlebit54

No worries...ususally I just scare people when they experiance my sense of self...

Now see that's what i'm talkin bout! You crack me up.
I wouldn't want to meet you up there, you'd have me rolling in the snow and freezing that crack!

Originally Posted by Mrs Spoomonkey

Monkey cage break looming in the future. You should know the zoo rules no teasing the animals.

Mrs Spoomonkey

We wont be running from you guys we will be running towards you and it will be in slow motion like that Bo deric movie with the beach scene!!

[fun_pairTX]

At least a couple of fries short of a "Happy Meal".

Spoo, if this had come from anyone else on the board I would suspect a troll. Does the guy sell used cars when he isn't swinging?

He obviously is desperate for sex with anyone except "Miss Freak". Seriously the guy is either unbalanced or just has no grip or clue as to how reality operates. He reminds me of a guy that calls at least three times a year wanting to "invest" in one of my projects. I won't get within a ten foot radius of the guy. He too has little grip on reality, he just has a lot of money so he slides through life.

As to the overuse of the expression "dawg". It is unnecessary to call a guy dawg unless the guy happens to be a Pomeranian, a Shi-tzu, or some other variety of powder puff breed. Dogs like mine, #125+ need not be reminded that they are dawgs or really be reminded of anything lest you risk pissing them off.

We would avoid the guy like the plague. He sounds like a caricature of one of the "Petrov Brothers" off the old Saturday Night Live. I don't want to pass judgement on her, but she is probably as unbalanced as he seems to be. "Birds of a Feather" and all..........

[robnbarb]

But Dawg, It is the way the 'hood works , don't you get it G?

Ok sorry a bit of levity there.

I am not the best speller nor the best gramer person, but I would hope most can see through that and chalk it up to bad education (most of the time if there is something very important in life to work on, I use the spell and grammer check on the computer). But the slang really bothers me as well

I think the only net speak I have ever used is Thanx, just cause I came up with it long before the net was even popular (used to use it with notes in class, damn I feel old now). Occasionally I use "u" for you but that is after i have been typeing a while and my hands are feeling less than nimble.

But I really hate it constantly, "how r u" and "k" and "asl" or whatever. Definatly bugs me.

Also the dawg thing bugs me for two reasons-1. If you think about it, that is a slang when used on the net defeates the purpose of net slang, you are acutally typing one more letter than you would with "dog" 2. Ever guy I have ever heard use that expression looks like they swim on the shallow end of the gene pool. Thus automaticly there is a repulsion.

The other expression I hate is overuse of the term "I heard that" If I hear that expression more than three times in a conversation I have to say "Of course you heard it, you are two feet away from me, If you didn't I would say go to the doctor or something."

In other words spoo-I am backing your play G. Hear me Dawg (OK I;ll stop cause useing that a third time will be annoying).

But also I would not doubt "Miss freak" is fake. That it was him imitateing a woman to try to met up and say "Dawg, she left cause she didn't want to get her freak on this late." or words to that effect.

But to answer the question, when is a couple a couple. I think Good Times said it best, but also when they don't make sex in general the major issue in thier shared life too. When it is about each other and what works with them, You have to get to that point before you can come to the swinging IMO (opps net speak)

[Pepper & Drew]

Perhaps you were about to "hook up" with Randy Jackson from American Idol?

Anywho, we've only played with married couples, but this weekend we met some couples who are just dating--living together, in committed relationships, but not married. And it gave me pause, just for a minute. Although married couples certainly aren't infallable to messy breakups, in the back of my mind, I thought that if we became good friends, played, and then they break up, it could be quite ugly. I don't know why, but personally, I'd prefer to play with married couples, although those in long-term committed relationships (say 1 year or more), would equal 2 for me. I think I'd be too uneasy with people together for less time than that.
Pepper

[2play04]

I agree, this was a man to avoid.

He's not really part of a couple as he has no seeming respect for his partner. Where's the unity? He wants to swing with you by enticing you with what he calls a 'freak' because he doesn't care enough about her to be jealous and violent. Grreeaattt.... He sure sounds like an openminded and fun person to be with, no rage or 'women are people too' issues to work out for him!

Also...with his attitude towards his current woman, just what does he REALLY think about the married woman he's hoping to be with?

This attitude makes me wish I could 'zap' people through instant messanger. (Which I wouldn't do because I'm a peaceful person...but it's a tempting thought).

As for people using 'dawg' and 'u r' and god forbid 'd00d'... *shudders*

Well, when I was an EverQuest girl I wouldn't group with people who were like that...and I don't swing with people NOW who are like that. Maybe I'm just needlessly biased, but...if they're too lazy to type out the word 'you'...are they really going to be energetic in bed?

Mrs. 2play