Do I have a veto card?

Between hubby & I, if either one of us says no, for whatever reason, it is a no go. But it has to go both ways. You can't expect her to be ok wiht that if you aren't.

Dito

I trust Mr's judgement completly & if someone creeps him out, then he's out.

In return, he never pushes me when I do the same.

[danc694u]

Originally Posted by Mr&Mrs-naughty

Mrs naughty and I occasionaly "Take one for the team".

Of course there are DEFINATE limits to what that means but if one of us isnt willing then we wont.

I think this is the norm..Great post

I (the male part of this couple) get vetoed a lot. Seems I have bad taste in women, so she says.

But, like Mr&Mrs-naughty say, we occasionally take one for the team.

When your looking at prospective couples, it's true you would like everything to be 100% for both of you. But, that's not going to happen unless you start dating/seeing the folks in the mirror. Your taste are not going to match anyone but you. For the life of me, I can't see the attraction that Maggie finds in some men. But hell that's her, not me. She definitely can't see the attraction I find in some women...but that's me.

We both maintain veto power. But, there are times when I can tell, she really wants a certian guy, and I take one for the team. It works the other way too. But, we have our limits also. A FIRM "NO" puts the brakes on everything...for both of us.

Just relax, this is about both of you. Her taste isn't perfect, she just decided to marry you out of all her other choices. That should tell you something

When your looking at prospective couples, it's true you would like everything to be 100% for both of you.But, that's not going to happen

Yup,
Thats exactly what I meant by my original post.

We have met couples were we all get along but as far as sex goes...Not so good for one or the other.

But we will both give a little if we know the other is enjoying the shit out of themselves (Not literaly ).

[mrs good times]

We have both used this "veto card" for exactly the question you posed. We are in this together and respect each other first. One of our greatest pleasures is the fantasizing after the swing sex so if either of us were to play with someone that turned the other off that fantasy would no longer be fun.

[b_and_sc]

both sides should have a veto no matter what the situation...sometimes our instincts are very right even when our brains can't fathom why we are feeling 'not quite right' about someone

but as everyone else has said, as long as you BOTH understand that you BOTH hold vetos and no grudges allowed...have fun

b

[ore_cpl4fun]

For us, the answer is that either partner absolutely has veto power for any reason, or no reason. That doesn’t mean that we can’t discuss it and make our case, but not in any sort of high-pressure or pleading way. We’re not fans of “taking one for the team,” lol. The bottom line for us is that we’re doing this together and both need to be looking forward to our encounters, if not downright enthusiastic about them .

We also try to look at it from the other side; we’d hate to be with someone who didn’t really want to be there and was just going through the motions (so to speak) to please their partner, or for any other reason. Part of how we approach this is through making a connection with our play-partners, and for us to swing with a couple that one of us really didn’t want to be with would be kind of dishonest of us.

DnA