This is the male half speaking
I have 2 issues with a couple that we get together with and I'm not sure how to handle it. The lady half of the couple we meet up with has an odor issue. She smells musty and I don't mean downstairs. It is a huge turn off for me when I smell this. We have been together several times now and 2 of those times she smelled like that. I know I can't just say, "damn girl you smell", but the only other alternative I can think of is to break it off because that is definitely a showstopper for me personally.
The other thing that bothers me is that this female part of the couple keeps talking about how fat she is or how she has been putting on pounds here and there. I don't know how other guys think on this forum, but to me that takes away sex appeal. No she isn't a 10 but she isn't ugly either. However its like a mind thing with me in that she's creating this picture of herself that isn't redeeming at all!
Here is the major issue for me. If the male half of this couple wasn't appealing, then it would be a no brainer. Just say that we are not feeling it chemistry wise and move on. But my wife really enjoys being with the male part of that couple. He has a lot of sex appeal. The other caveat to that is that my wife and I only swing together. I'm not sure if changing that rule and discussing that with my wife would be the best avenue or not because even if we were ok with that, the female half of this couple would catch on. She isn't stupid
Have you folks ran into anything like this before? If so, how did you handle it?