Why does she like the fantasy but won't consider actually swinging?

[jsnps]

Maybe I'm way off here but if your Mrs. is anything like me - the joking was a method to try to reopen the conversation and save face in the process (since she was so adament in the beginning) she might also be a little shy of how you were view her newfound sexual asertion. I could be way off - but next time she "jokes" about it, entertain the idea of talking about it. My guess is that she has had time to toy with the idea and now that the shock has worn off, maybe she finds at least certain parts of it appealing... I could be wrong but I know that is similiar to how we got started - only difference was that swinging was my idea and I brought it up in a joking way.... Good luck!

[jsnps]

btw... I'm the female half of the couple...

[starting2swing]

What you need is some advice from a woman. My husband and I love to fantasize and we are really kinky when we are alone. We have been fantasizing about swinging for a long time, but when it actually comes down to I don't know how I would react. The best thing you can do is to ensure your wife that you love her and that is not about being with another woman or her being with another man, but it is about having fun and letting go of all your inhibitions. Enjoy the fantasies that you have and let things happen naturally.