Hubby's fantasies and where I stand?

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Originally Posted by RANDJ4FUN

In this life it is impossible to not hurt the ones you love sometime. But I will always choose telling hurtful truths over self-serving lies that end-up being much more hurtful.

Wow, I SO agree with this!

Liv, just keep at it and be patient with yourself. Keep connecting with one another, and keep trying to see yourself realistically. And by that, I mean you should remember that no one else is going to be as critical of yourself as you are. It's highly unlikely that someone else is going to notice that you missed a spot by your ankle when shaving, or that you put on 5 lbs over Thanksgiving. All they'll know is what you show them...so are you going to approach them apologetically, or are you going to show them your inner Aphrodite?

Plus, I thought I'd mention that sometimes men don't word things as tactfully as they could. I wasn't there when he said it, but if your sex life is otherwise pretty good, my guess is that he was making an observation about BOTH of you, that perhaps things were becoming a little routine or stagnant...and he didn't want that for either of you. He doesn't want your passion for one another to die, and so he brought it to your attention. If this is more what he was trying to convey, don't be hurt by it, thank him for bringing it to your attention. This is actually him reaching out to you, not criticizing you for not "meeting his expectations." He's inviting you to get involved in making sex even better between you. He's not bored with YOU, hon! He's just seeing where this road's leading and he's not liking where it's going.

However, if you find that, after seriously considering it, swinging is just NOT your thing, don't panic. He's not going to leave you. If he's as understanding and loving a husband as I think he must be, he will respect your desires and you will simply look for another avenue to follow. Swinging is awesome if you're into it, but I'll readily admit that it's not the only way to achieve true marital bliss.