Boyfriend brought up swinging, but now that I'm enjoying it he wants to stop

[sereneiders]

winemed(...too long sorry ),

I've reading your posts and the way they were changing over time. I must say I found out you reached a very toughtfull, balanced and grounded view of this issue, that came both from being able to critisize him and, moreover, yourself (and this is something hard to find), and from clarifying what you want in this stage of your life (something very respectable, btw).

If you look around, most threads regarding issues doesn't end up with a closure, and I believe you did it in your post #23. Wheter there are people who may agree or disagree with you, I feel the purpose of the forum got served, and I think this is something worth to point out.

Now the but... (there's allways a but?). But I disagree with your idea of asking Julie to delete the thread. One of the values forums have is that other people may read, later on, a thread that gives them an insight to their own issues, and regarding to this value, the forum purpose wasn't still wholly served with this thread, and I believe it would be betrayed if the thread were deleted.

Moreover when, like in this case, from having a closure from you as the original poster, also prove the forum to be usefull and become a paradigm of how forums should work.

Thank you for your posts, and for the closure itself. A lot of people, even when solving their issues, doesn't give us such a feedback, so I feel appropiate to remark and valuate when someone does so.

I believe your insight and attitude would be highly appreciated in the forum should you stick around, and I'd like you to do it.

[fun4Ds]

i agree with sereneiders, we try not to post in the areas where we realy dont have the experiance to give any advice.(maby an opinion every one has one) but i mr.fun have learned something here. thank you for the insight. if the thread is deleted please stick around and add some insight in the future.(love your independence) best of wishes