wife no longer interested in swinging - Page 3

***JustAskJulie*** · 02-08-2005, 08:02 PM

I can't help but wonder if she lost interest, simply because she felt like you were a little TOO interested. It sounds like all you guys did was some soft swinging/ voyeurism stuff and perhaps that's all she was ever interested in doing, but you were pushing for more (I'm guessing you wanted more then since it's obvious you want more than that now), and she finally had enough of that and decided that she'd rather not do any of it and not tease you with a little bit when she wasn't going to give you all of what you desired.

Basically, yes your swinging life is over - if she's not interested, then your swinging life is over.

NJ Couple · 02-08-2005, 09:43 PM

nope, pretty much all i was, and am, interested in was soft-swinging. we both had a good time when we went. she's more self-conscious after we had a baby but because the club is so far away now it's also a hassle. i think the main issue is inconvenience.

twoplayful2 · 02-09-2005, 01:28 AM

Kinda weird, you say nothing is wrong with the marriage but there seems to be plenty. Communication, obviously, but also when you mention the possibility of cheating you say you'd feel guilty but then you start right in on these cheating scenarios that would turn you on. You also don't really say anything about what your cheating might do to her and to your relationship. Decide what's most important first. If it's the wild sex at the club stuff and you can't work it out, then split up instead of cheating. What's the point of cheating? If you've got to cheat on someone then you need to find someone else you dont have to cheat on. If she's more important then you talk about it and try to work something out. If it can't be worked out then you live with it, that's all. I just don't see how cheating is a legit option at all.

***JustAskJulie*** · 02-09-2005, 12:28 PM

There's a lot of what you "think" is going on here, but little ofwhat you know. The only way you are going to truely address this issue is with your wife, by talking to her and really listening to her - communication - and based on the fact that you think a lot of things but don't seem to know them... I'd definately say that is lacking.

NJ Couple · 02-10-2005, 03:40 PM

i "think" this thread has gone out of control! worry not, all is cool.

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02-08-2005, 08:02 PM	#31 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 29,294 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard	Re: Is my swinging life over? I can't help but wonder if she lost interest, simply because she felt like you were a little TOO interested. It sounds like all you guys did was some soft swinging/ voyeurism stuff and perhaps that's all she was ever interested in doing, but you were pushing for more (I'm guessing you wanted more then since it's obvious you want more than that now), and she finally had enough of that and decided that she'd rather not do any of it and not tease you with a little bit when she wasn't going to give you all of what you desired. Basically, yes your swinging life is over - if she's not interested, then your swinging life is over.

02-08-2005, 09:43 PM	#32 (permalink)
NJ Couple Active Member Join Date: Aug 2000 Posts: 23 Location: NJ	Re: Is my swinging life over? nope, pretty much all i was, and am, interested in was soft-swinging. we both had a good time when we went. she's more self-conscious after we had a baby but because the club is so far away now it's also a hassle. i think the main issue is inconvenience.

02-09-2005, 01:28 AM	#33 (permalink)
twoplayful2 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 218 Location: Riverside, CA Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:twoplayful2	Re: Is my swinging life over? Kinda weird, you say nothing is wrong with the marriage but there seems to be plenty. Communication, obviously, but also when you mention the possibility of cheating you say you'd feel guilty but then you start right in on these cheating scenarios that would turn you on. You also don't really say anything about what your cheating might do to her and to your relationship. Decide what's most important first. If it's the wild sex at the club stuff and you can't work it out, then split up instead of cheating. What's the point of cheating? If you've got to cheat on someone then you need to find someone else you dont have to cheat on. If she's more important then you talk about it and try to work something out. If it can't be worked out then you live with it, that's all. I just don't see how cheating is a legit option at all.

02-09-2005, 12:28 PM	#34 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 29,294 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard	Re: Is my swinging life over? There's a lot of what you "think" is going on here, but little ofwhat you know. The only way you are going to truely address this issue is with your wife, by talking to her and really listening to her - communication - and based on the fact that you think a lot of things but don't seem to know them... I'd definately say that is lacking.

02-10-2005, 03:40 PM	#35 (permalink)
NJ Couple Active Member Join Date: Aug 2000 Posts: 23 Location: NJ	Re: Is my swinging life over? i "think" this thread has gone out of control! worry not, all is cool.

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