Non-Lingual Communication

nccpl2002 · 11-14-2002, 07:26 AM

We are soon to have our first swing experience at an on-premisis club and are trying to prepare ourselves for it. We have read that a couple should have pre-determined hand signals for each other for various situations one might encounter. The problem is we cannot come up with any ideas of our own as to signalling. We hope that some of you who are experienced in this area might give us a few suggestions as to what you all use. Any help would be greatly apprecaited. Thanks!

OhioCouple · 11-14-2002, 07:49 AM

Having a signal is a very good idea. Ours is quite silly really, but it works well. For us we will say "Ooh, Honey/Babe, will you scratch my back?" This can be done in a in such a way that it works in what ever type of situation you are in and can be done to make it appear very innocent or very sexual. Either way, it means "NO WAY, NO HOW!" and we both know that it is time to get away from whatever situation we are in RIGHT NOW.

Keep in mind this is just "OUR" signal, so don't think that anyone else you happen to meet who is requesting it from their partner that it means the same thing.

Lori

Rhythm_Blues · 11-15-2002, 05:11 PM

My signal is to start twirling my hair with my finger. I never do that any other time so its obvious that I am not comfortable with this situation. Hubby just puts his hand on my leg and gives a little squeeze. But I don't think he has ever used his signal... I am usually the damper to most situation!
Good luck with the on premise party. I have found they tend to be more than a newbie bargains for.

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11-14-2002, 07:26 AM	#1 (permalink)
nccpl2002 Registered Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 4 Location: North Carolina	Non-Lingual Communication We are soon to have our first swing experience at an on-premisis club and are trying to prepare ourselves for it. We have read that a couple should have pre-determined hand signals for each other for various situations one might encounter. The problem is we cannot come up with any ideas of our own as to signalling. We hope that some of you who are experienced in this area might give us a few suggestions as to what you all use. Any help would be greatly apprecaited. Thanks!
	__________________ Dave

11-14-2002, 07:49 AM	#2 (permalink)
OhioCouple Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2001 Posts: 6,619 Location: Ohio Status: Married Female	Having a signal is a very good idea. Ours is quite silly really, but it works well. For us we will say "Ooh, Honey/Babe, will you scratch my back?" This can be done in a in such a way that it works in what ever type of situation you are in and can be done to make it appear very innocent or very sexual. Either way, it means "NO WAY, NO HOW!" and we both know that it is time to get away from whatever situation we are in RIGHT NOW. Keep in mind this is just "OUR" signal, so don't think that anyone else you happen to meet who is requesting it from their partner that it means the same thing. Lori
	__________________ Remember that human beings are complicated creatures. We like our bedtime routines but dislike routine in our bed times. - Sallie Foley, M.S.W.

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11-15-2002, 05:11 PM	#3 (permalink)
Rhythm_Blues Active Member Join Date: Aug 2002 Posts: 29 Location: Southwest Michigan	My signal is to start twirling my hair with my finger. I never do that any other time so its obvious that I am not comfortable with this situation. Hubby just puts his hand on my leg and gives a little squeeze. But I don't think he has ever used his signal... I am usually the damper to most situation! Good luck with the on premise party. I have found they tend to be more than a newbie bargains for.

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