Ok the wife and I have been to many heights during our 10 yrs playing together. Our play has mainly consisted of mfm play with one main character if you will. There has been a couple of fmf's and mfmf's but mfm is our chosen golden key. I simply love her pleasures as she seeks to enjoy them freely and fully. She enjoys my thrills about her sexual joyrides. Not to mention but our introduction into all of this came from her. She kind of half heartedly mentioned sex with one of her girlfriends. That never happened but we did venture into other things. Sounds good so far. Great! The problem isn't what happens, not even when it happens. Our problem is she is very reserved about her feelings about our play outside of actually playing. I'm afraid to mention any of it most of the time. I would love to be able to reflect back on a great play session and increase our moods. When we play its always behind a little artificial stimulation, then its on. As mentioned we play mainly within mfm only. I don't have a problem with that because I truly enjoy the sights and sounds of her pleasures, and she truly indulges herself fully in the whole for her pleasures zone. As a matter of fact I've been in contact with someone I met on sls and uncharacteristic to my nature I showed her his pics and our emails back and forth. I was very surprised by her reaction which was kinda big eyed and a nod, as if to say you did good when do we do it. Now yes I said I found this person because I am very turned on by her in that way, not a I love to see her fucking him way, but a she's very sexually stimulating the way she is so turned on and into it kind of way. So thats why I'm hooked. The new guy I just met promises to be everything we could possible want in a complete mfm situation, which makes it a good scenario for us, but still I have this problem. If we both enjoy the play we have and thats mainly mfm (on her side), why is it that she acts so on the fence about it until her mood is just right? How do I approach and get a possitive reaction without thinking all hell is going to break loose? :surrender Any help with this would be appreciated.