The morning after - is it awkward?

[NandTfromCA]

Originally Posted by Jaz Kansorka

We try to make love when we go home from the club or an encounter. Assuming we are not too tired. Then the next morning we take our coffee to the hot tub for debriefing time. We talk about the experience, what we liked and enjoyed as well as what we did not care for or totally hated.

That's exactly what we have done from the begining (sans hot tub).


The first time we played we checked in with each other throughout the evening- "How are you doing?", "That looks really hot when you kiss her/him", “Let’s not do that tonight”, etc. There was also some visual cueing going on…eyes saying “Oh yes, this feels nice” or “go ahead honey, you can kiss her” . Like someone else pointed out, you would need to be in the same room for that kind of dialogue. Those check-in’s allow everyone to feel more in control of the situation...like they can put on the breaks if they have to. It's a “security blanket” that made itself unnecessary just by being there.

The next morning we talked about everything; how it felt with the other person, how it felt to see each other with someone else, how it feels thinking back on it...like Jaz said, a full debrief.

Our conclusion- It was fan-freakin-tastic!

Everyone is different though, so just make sure you have a positive outlook and are extremely thoughtful of each other.

EDIT: Forgot to answer all of the original question- Our marriage was great to begin with but this added a hobby that we both enjoy together. It has also taken away the one thing that has caused any guilty desires (or at least made them happy desires). Before swinging, the one thing I would have changed would have been to be able to fuck other people. Now there is NOTHING I would change.

Mr.

[rbam25]

Originally Posted by ultimatecouple9

Hello everyone, my wife and have never swung or introduced another person to our sexual relationship (yet). We have talked about the risks and the advantages several times. The real big question we have is what happens the very next day after your first time? Do you feel auckward, and if we do, how do overcome the auckwardness? We are very interested in the swinging lifestyle, swapping and threesome!! You just never really know as a couple how the response will be in our marrige the following day when real life kicks back in and we have to make dinner, pay bills!!!

hey there me and my husband is in the same boat we have been married 14 yrs and two kids he started a new job truck driving. so we are advancing our options into something new. i have the same questions and wondering am i crazy for wanting someone to touch my husband let me know what you consider.