Husbands Mixed feelings after MFM

[scalcpl714]

I see warning lights all over this. If he brings these things up then he definately has fantasies about MFM's but.....some people learn quickly that the fantasy can be better then the reality if they are not truly ready. It sounds as if he has some issue's he needs to work out first, ie when you said he was feeling inadequate...altho everything might seem fine, these things can turn quite ugly if everyone involved isn't quite ready for it.

As far as your second question about how other's have dealt with these problems....can't really say that we have had these problems. I know when we first started swinging it was 3somes and we were quite young (seniors in high school) but I loved it....watching her with other's just does it for me I suppose. When we had 3somes with her girlfriends we never had any problems in reverse....think it just comes down to having the self-confidence...if you have that, the reality will surpass the fantasy big time.