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Dooode

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  • Birthday 03/07/1964

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  1. Earlier this year at a house party, I met a woman who was the female version of "the illustrated man". I don't mind tats one way or the other, but this lady really caught my eye .. not only because she was pretty, but she was all colour even with her clothes off. The only untouched parts of her were her wrists/hands and neck/head. She was definately a turn-on. Aside from the colour, touching her had the effect of an optical illusion. (I don't know how to say this) Touching various parts of her, I would've expected to feel fabric or something and not just smooth skin. I thought it was erotic as hell!
  2. "Swingers are open-minded." Boy, did I get a rude awakening!!
  3. Jalean: Here's a silly question: Who initiated the lifestyle between you two? It's not all that unusual for high school sweethearts to bond and stay bonded throughout their lives. Personally, I think it's romantic. Have you considered that you're simply not wired for swinging? I've run into several lifestyle couples where one or the other just can't get past the idea that IT'S WRONG. And pursuing it eventually led to severe marital difficulties. If you're both gung-ho on the idea of swinging and it's only a case of nerves, I would go with the earlier suggestion of soft swinging (oral only with the other's partner, spousal intercourse). There's a lot to be said for soft swing: it's a lighter step and still can be very exciting.
  4. Yes, my priority has changed over the years. In the beginning, I was less likely to qualify who I was contacted by, since I am a single guy (hell, it was practically gratitude!). These days, I qualify a couple or single as much as they qualify me. I've found what standards I'm comfortable with and I stick by them. I'm more particular about who I see and I look for things such as comfort in their sexual identity .. as well as the two having a solid relationship. I've seen my share of cheaters and marriages breaking down that I can't afford not to be fussy.
  5. Well first of all, people swing for a variety of reasons. "What they can't get at home" is not uncommon. The bisexual wife in particular is in a pickle where she can't convince her husband to get a boob job and wax his legs (then there's the issue of dress sizes!). You sound to be off to a great start, having security, communication and longevity in your marriage. Now this thing with big cocks. I hear of it once in a while and that kinda throws me off. The scale for the average American male goes like this: 5" = low average, 6" = average, 7" = high average ... then it drops down significantly from there. She'd have better luck finding a high average than 8" or better. But I know of a few locally so it certainly is possible. It's the hunt for that perfect 8" that will be a challenge. You'll end up finding out that a lot of guys can't seem to use a measuring tape to save their lives. Others who do "measure up" may attempt to interfere with the marriage (ie. degrade the husband). Or they have a big ego. I would suggest a lot of dating to get a feel for who the individuals are before bedding them. Not only will a comfort zone be built, but at least if she's faced with the disapointment of a true 6" rather than an 8, you'll know at least that they'll be easy to let go with minimal damage.
  6. It's good to hear that it's not all been bad times. But you're right: odds are there are going to be others. Even at our get-togethers, in comes the occasional asshole and he (I've run into the occasional "she" too) is going to ruin it for others. The one blessing is that we know they won't be invited back. Sounds like a plan! The good news is that a club enforces the rules a bit more sternly. It doesn't eliminate the jerks completely, but there's still more control than a house party. Ok, so I'm a lousy devil's advocate.
  7. Yup, I get that too. But most of the time it's from closet bi-guys who hide their orientation from their wives. I encourage them to include their wives in their fantasies and pursuits, then I drop 'em. I don't want to be a reason a couple splits up. I've gotten caught up with married or engaged ladies before (years ago) and I never want to get put in that position of contributing to the break-up of a marriage. If they fuck it up themselves, that's their responsibility. But I refuse to be put into a position of contributing to the break-up.
  8. No, obviously not everyone turns everyone else on ... that would be over the top also. You may very well be right in that people think that it's a puppy pile from the word "go!". Personally, I've never been to a house party that was otherwise (other than the getting acquainted sessions), so I wouldn't know what a "mild" themed party would look like. Being grabbed the way you describe sounds excessive, even from my standpoint. Thank you for the comments about not needing to verbally ask! (that kinda freaked me out! LOL). And obviously I agree with body cues as well. I don't agree with "sneaking up behind you" neither. You SHOULD know who is touching you. From my view, those are the hosts being panty-waists and not making the rules known and enforcing them. Can't say I blame you for not going back. All-in-all, I'm sorry that you had such a bad experience. House parties can be a very fun and pleasurable experience---with the right mix of people.
  9. Well. I think I'm gonna play devil's advocate on this one. Do any of you do this? yes. Do any of you see this going on? sure. Does this happen to you? of course. Aside from the fact that several of us are regulars at our house parties, even those that aren't play exactly the same game--once they catch on. As a matter of fact, we have a "get acquainted" dip in the pool where we all move around, touching and getting close to each other, getting a feel for who's interesting ... and interested! I honestly can't envision some question like, "Hello. May I touch you?" at our parties. Hell, I wouldn't know how to go about it! LOL However, "no" still does mean "NO!" and that simple rule is inflexible. I can only think of two times that anyone has ever said "no". I would leave them alone and not pursue further. It's called respect. If you're going to a house party that's typically "hardcore" in theme, then you can pretty much expect to be touched. But if you're not interested, you can just as easily say "no thanks" and if the person is respectful, they'll leave you alone. If they continue to make you uncomfortable with unwanted touches, the hosts should be alerted. I think it's a little naive to go to a hardcore house party and expect to be asked to be touched. Body language speaks just as well as words: moving the offending hand away still means "NO!". And "NO!" still should be respected. *cha-CHING!* Two cents.
  10. For the past 10 years I've posted my face pics. I've never really been too concerned about it (ain't like I'm going into politics!). I'm gonna have to update my pics tho; I've recently taken off the beard and left a soul patch.
  11. With me, it's more than just a belief. I've seen it. There was one couple on SDC who used to post in their forums quite a bit. They had created a second (then a third) paid profile, validated those, and used that second profile to email others on the forums to influence their opinions. With a triangle of profiles validating each other, they simply seems like a small group who knew each other well. The original (real) profile had authentic validations, which laid more weight to the faked ones. This went on for months. Eventually this couple got caught, but not before they caused considerable damage to others. Sorry to hijack the thread, Shelly. There are pluses to validations. As FloridaFlirt says, it should be used to weed out fakes and find compatibles. But based on individual perceptions and fakes who do get around the system, I think the negatives to its dependancy outweigh the pluses.
  12. In theory. But say you were fake. Pic collector, let's say. Couldn't you create a new paid profile, complete with text and pictures, and validate your other account?
  13. Interesting topic, Shelly. On SDC, the webmaster (Ronald) wrote the Single Male Validation on my forum topic recommendation. I was one of the first ever to be certified as a "real" single male (this special certification was based on meeting 5 certified couples who've validated you). There were special priviledges involved with this certification, ie. bypassing the single male block because of the confidence attained in not abusing the email system. I amassed quite a collection of validations ... but then what I was discovering was that many could fake validations. Or validate even tho they've never met. Some refused validations because they wished their privacy (not that I can say I blame them). Others used it as a popularity contest. Some saw "lots of validations" as a sign that these prospects were promiscuous. One or two validations and they look like inexperienced newbies. To top it off, couples could query other couples based on meetings they've had with those validated. Some were overstepping the line. I lost faith in the system. On SLS, I simply stopped using the validation system. Only ONE couple did I allow a validation from, and that's only because I've known them for 5 years. Some have wanted to validate me, but I tell them I don't accept validations anymore (which I think might've hurt their feelings some). Regardless, I now wanted my privacy and if I've met a couple, I didn't think the whole world should know. It's none of anyone's fuggin' business who I see. So I continue to meet people and I don't think validations have anything to do with how well I do with meeting prospects. That's my feedback.
  14. My hand and I are a solid 10!!! Whoops. I can't vote here, can I? Exit, Stage Left!
  15. Nope, I'm the same as GT: curves slightly to the left. No one's ever commented which leads me to think they've never noticed. I've seen some extreme curvature on porn flicks, but I've never really seen it in real life. Can't be all that common.
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