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    Happily Married Couple
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    Indiana
  • Interests
    Lots of things non sexual, Most things sexual.
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    Management

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    jcbicouple
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    Klub Layden

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  1. There has been an increase in the number of people just there to watch at our club too. For the most part, we don't mind. We've met some great people to talk and dance with. We enjoy being watched, and usually play in the group room where watching is encouraged. The club has private rooms with doors, if privacy is desired. While we agree that a large number of long term "lookers" could be an issue, everyone has to start somewhere. Very few people wake up one day, say "hey honey, lets be swingers" , run to a club that night, and jump in bed with strangers. Everyone progresses at different speeds. There are several people at the club that watched for a long time, and now regularly use the play rooms. Besides, on the busy nights, there wouldn't be enough beds if everyone decided to play at once.
  2. It is possible, but in our experience, rare. See our earlier post. We do play separately on occasion, and know of others that do as well.
  3. Your other post makes sense. We've seen some of the same....guys looking to backdoor me, not willing to talk to both of us, etc. Fortunately, those have been few for us, and we've managed to weed out most of them in early conversations. We've also seen our share of couples that appeared to not like each other, were looking to "upgrade", if only for a night, and even a few looking to backdoor one of us. Just goes to show that you've got to do your homework, be sure of what you are looking for, and you can't be afraid to say no, even in the middle of a play date. Sorry for the minor thread hijack.
  4. Spoo....what issues have you had with singles? We've met a significantly higher number of singles (male and female) than couples, and the experiences have been as good or better. We've found it easier to find one person that we hit it off with than two. That isn't saying that our experience with couples has been bad in any way....just that the experiences with singles have been good as well. P.S. We certainly aren't newbies!
  5. We have both given the other "permission" to play alone. So far, it's been with singles, but we haven't ruled out couples. We still prefer to play together, but are enjoying the separate play very much. It hasn't been perceived as a threat by either of us, and has actually been quite exciting.
  6. In the last couple of years, we have begun playing separately on occasion. Our experiences have been extremely positive. Mrs. JC has found a fairly regular playmate that she enjoys spending time alone with very much. Mr. JC has had a couple of one time playmates. It can be a little scary at first, but we have developed complete trust in each other. We each know that at the end of the day(or night), we are coming home to/with each other. We still enjoy threesomes and foursomes as much as we always have, but enjoy the alone time just as much. It's not for everyone, but can be a lot of fun for all. We talk in detail about all of our meetings, and have some incredible sex while telling and hearing about the play date.
  7. We certainly don't fit into the poly category, but don't fit the typical idea of a swinging couple either. Over the years, our comfort level and interests have changed. In the past couple of years, we have begun to play separately on occasion, and Mrs. JC has been meeting with a guy on a fairly regular basis over the last few months. While she certainly isn't "in love" with him, and we have no desire or intention to make him a permanent part of our life, or have him move in, Mrs. JC does care about him, and talks with him more than most people she knows. We see this gentleman on occasion when we go out, but have never played with him as a couple. Mr. JC has a female acquaintance that he has become very close to. The relationship is different than his relationship with friends. Although there has been nothing more sexual than a single kiss on one occasion, and the occasional hug, there is a strong sexual attraction, and an emotional bond. There are some business and personal reasons keeping this from being a sexual relationship. If those were not there, the situation would be much the same as Mrs. JC's situation. As with Mrs. JC, he is not "in love", but cares very much for this individual. I guess this puts us in that fringe category.
  8. The club we go to has a wide variety of people. We tell people if they want to know what the people at the club tend to look like: Go to the grocery store, and look around (Sometimes it's fun to imagine they're naked...he he): Those are the types of people you will see. Some are heavy some are thin some are "beautiful people" some are just "plain jane". We wouldn't go to a club that pre-screened for attractiveness. Looks are a matter of opinion. What and who you are attracted to is a personal choice and opinion. We've met several very beautiful people that we didn't play with for one reason or another. How many of those "Beautiful people" at the pre-screened clubs don't play because if they get naked people will see that life has chosen to give them stretch marks on their butt? or someone had a C section and has a scar from it? A mastectomy (spelling?), or some other "life happening" that has left it's mark? Those things aren't things you should be ashamed of. We prefer a club where everyone is comfortable getting naked and running about, imperfections and all!
  9. The first time I met Mr's parents....Mom came downstairs to "wake us up". UGH! Need I say more? Yes, I need.... It was uhhh, from behind but laying down so we're laying there (in that position) while she tells him something. God only knows what she said....I wasn't really listening! I was just trying to look like we weren't having sex!!!
  10. What would be the point of having a discussion board if no one shared their opinions? One of the reasons we've always enjoyed this board is that everyone has been able to be opinionated but still have an intelligent discussion. ( Just an opinion but it seemed like they were. People get very opinionated about the use of condoms, gang bang participation, bisexuality, etc. Most don't leave the board over it. They have a right to feel whatever they feel, and to express their opinions. We're sorry they felt so irate, but if they didn't want any comments other than "Atta girls!" they should have posted in the stories section. If it's in the discussion, to us, you're requesting discussion. Everything seems to have a title. We suppose it is, but we don't have to agree with it when it includes what we percieve to be disrespectful or potentially hurtfull to others. (Just to clarify: We don't think being a "Hot wife" means you're trying to do anything that would be disrespectful or potentially hurtfull.) There are plenty of them on the internet, just as there are for any other title you can possibly think of. Should they have a spot here? Guess that's up to Julie. But.............. If we had to post in specific places where everyone agreed with us or only came there to troll when we wanted to discuss Gang bangs, bisexuality, condoms (or the lack there of), DP, or any of the other highly contraversial activities we enjoy participating in, it certainly wouldn't be as much fun to post or read. The discussion and occasional debate is the reason we come here! We want to hear other peoples view points. We don't have to agree, and sometimes we strongly disagree, but so does everyone else. That's why most of us come back again, and again, and again. ok, I'm getting down now. soapbox he he
  11. We play without condoms, but always respect the decision the other person/couple has made. I (female) have an allergic reaction to most of the condoms so we simply let them know about the allergy and tell them we will provide the condoms to make sure the ones used wont cause a problem. Now, as for the rules part: We think that condoms are the LEAST of your problems. Frankly, If your husband can't stick to the rules in the situation you're describing above, and he told them "Sure, No problem" after agreeing that it would be one of your rules, and we're guessing he knew you'd be upset by this, you shouldn't be swinging at all!
  12. You might not have to face any of the consequences of that participation but I wouldn't want to be in their spouses shoes when they have to face it. (Everyone finds out eventually if their mate is cheating) Then again, you may end up with a very angry husband or wife standing on your doorstep. Probably more likely a husband simply because women tend to give up any information they have once they're busted. oh and just one more little thing to think about: If they're lieing to the person they live with and share all of their life with....Can YOU trust them? Don't be surprised when they try to get one of you to play seperately.
  13. You should try it! It's as much fun as it sounds! As we've said before, we've never had one where the men acted disrespectful, and we always try to have sex with people who can hold a conversation......Otherwise what would you do during "rest for a minute" time? We must add though that it can be somewhat trying (to the point where we just flat gave up for awhile) to find enough guys that we would have sex with and would really show up. It is about 50/50 show/no show. Before you start JNCC: It's the same for setting up ANY meeting (couples or individual singles) not just the gang bangs!
  14. We'd squeeze them both in! Preferably at the same time, but separately would do. facelick facelick
  15. I read a local news article on the club and it really doesn't sound that bad. Plus there's a link at the bottom of the page where people can post their thoughts. 90% of the comments made from non swingers and swingers are written with intelligence and do not say anything bad about the club or the people going to it. Even most of those that disagree with swinging have been fairly positive in their comments. Most say leave them alone, and pay attention to crime and real social issues. Somewhat surprising and enlightening to read. Also, Nice job by Northindycpl in presenting things from a swingers point of view. Very fact filled, articulate, and non-judgemental rebuttal from them. We have a potential playdate this weekend, but maybe we'll head south next weekend after all. Sounds like the witch hunt will be short lived, if it even gets very far off the ground at all.
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