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  1. No such luck. He is one of the few swingers in our social group and is well acquainted with my GF.
  2. Vegaslee and Chicup, I get what you're saying, and fully reaize that the prime attraction for any single girl to play with us, would be my GF and not me.
  3. Sumbuckus, what you have elaborated on, I'm on board with 100%. I would rather not swing than cause her any anxiety of any kind. During our recent brouhaha with her loudmouth "friend", she really stressed out and I take some of the blame for that. In my ignorance and pride, I assumed that somebody was lying to me and patronizing me about her swinging activities, when, in fact, she was being retiscent because of her own issues and not trying to deceive me in any way. I feel guilty about that. If there is anything good that came from this episode, it has increased our communication level and has shown BOTH of us how much EACH of us matter to the other. Since last week, she has told me numerous times how much in love with me she is, and that no man can compare to me. Blush..... I also realize that I am totally smitten by her and want our relationship to develope into one of those "one of a kind", loves that will last forever. I understand why some of the posters call swinging the "icing on the cake'' of a good relationship, because it enhances what is already pretty awesome. I will only ever do what is comfortable to her and will either achieve or not achieve my fantasy, with her wholehearted assent and participation. In truth, It really must be OUR fantasy, for it to ever happen.
  4. Thank you, km34. This is a good point and something I will have to guard against.
  5. Chicup, this begs the question , why are there so few single girls in the LS and so many single guys?
  6. Her friends in the LS are all married. IDK if she has ever spoken to them about playing individually or not. Rest assured that I will NOT try to force her into anything, nor will I be disappointed if she doesn't ever want to try the swinging again. Our relationship is the most important thing in the world to both of us, and we are in complete agreement that whatever we do will not be allowed to jeopardize it.
  7. Digginit, a lot of what you say is true. Her ex husband had some serious issues with my GF when they were married. My gf is a very successful professional person and always made more money, was more respected, and had a much more positive lifestyle, than her husband and he was always trying to compensate for his perceived inferior position. If that makes sense. She tried very hard to be supportive and that is one of the main reasons that they entered the LS. But the majority of her experiences were based on his urge to see her in demeaning/humiliating situations. An example is when , a few years ago , she received on of the most prestigious awards in her field, and at the awards banquet, he got sloppy drunk and spent the evening loudly insulting her and making himself an total asshole. She should have dumped him years ago, but didn't for their child's sake.
  8. Julie, I'm pretty positive about what we want , now, but you are right about us needing to communicate a lot more than we have , in the past. A lot of the trouble is that , until this recent flap about "loudmouth", she was very retiscent to talk about her individual experiences, but simply gave me an over-view of her feelings regarding Swinging. I guess that this has been a real eye-opener for me, and I'm still really curious, but will either get into it at her speed, or not at all.
  9. So, they're pretty scarce, huh? I'm hoping that a few females that she used to play with when she was in the LS will get on board for it. We have thought about hiring a high-class escort, too. But my GF is adamant about other men. She does NOT want to fuck anybody but me. She said that she felt like she was forced by her ex-husband to get involved and her resentment was very strong, and was one of the main reasons for her divorce. Also, her experiences were not too pleasant. She did one guy who had horrible B.O. and the Black guy was into humiliation and he and her husband called her names, (role playing) and she hated it. On the positive side, she has really opened up about her experiences, and now I have a much better picture of what will and will not be possible.
  10. After visiting this site for a few days, I'm beginning to think that maybe swinging, per se , isn't for us, but certain aspects are. My GF who is a former swinger isn't into returning to the LS, and I have to admit that some of the practices are outside of my comfort zone. We talked about it again last night and we agree that what we are BOTH interested in is girl on girl play . GF says that this was the only thing she found attractive during her swinging experiences. She had very little fun fucking other men, but liked having sex with her female playmates. I'm not against her fucking other men, but I'm also more interested in having a FMF threesome. Is this something that the LS could accomodate? Are there single females or married ladies who play alone , who would be interested?
  11. This is interesting, but I will have to think about it for a while. I've heard that swinging will make a relationship stronger but I've also heard the opposite, that it lessens the marriage bonds. I'm wondering if that isn't the disconnect factor? I really am learning more and more each visit, and thank you all for being so patient with the Newby.
  12. OK, I get that maybe the terminology might be mis-leading. I would never want to do anything that would cause any kind of disconnect to occur between my GF and I. Either emotional or sexual. Perhaps I define Swinging differently than most other people? For me, it is a mutually satisfying way in which a married or LTR couple can explore their sexual appetites, within the bounds of a committed relationship. Is that anywhere close?
  13. Ok, I am really new and really curious about this issue. As Julie and some other know, my GF is a former Swinger. I, myself , have not indulged but am interested. This thread is fairly alarming and confusing to me, so could somebody please explain? Is there a danger of a "disconnect', between my GF and I , if we swing? If not, then what is this "reclaiming" business about? If swinging would jeopardize our relationship , them I want no part of it. I'm really disappointed. I've gotten the idea that Swinging is done by mature, commited people. I had no idea that it can cause disintegration of otherwise stable relationships.
  14. Yep, it really hurt. The question I always had was why? She said it was too big, but I've looked it up and I'm not unusually thick or anything,maybe above average in girth, but nothing too big. I'm pretty long, but I never tried to throat-fuck her or force it , either. the only thing I could think of is that she was either not into it, or was TOO into it. If she wasn't into it, then she did it on purpose, if she was too into it, the she lost track of what she was doing. In any case, I've had a number of ther girls who had no problem and were able to keep from biting.
  15. There most definitely is such a thing as bad oral. I dated a girl who would scrape the head of my dick with her teeth, all of the time, sometimes to the extent of bleeding. Her excuse was that I'm too big, which would be valid if I was asking her to deepthroat, but all I wanted was for her to use her lips instead of her teeth. My current GF is the best I've ever had, and gives me a boner just by licking her lips. She licks a lot, then will take it in her mouth as much as she can , then will alternate between sucking my balls and sucking my dick and then lays my dick on her tongue so I can watch my load go in her mouth. It is pure bliss.
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