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Rabbyt

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About Rabbyt

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  • Birthday 03/31/1960

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    Australia
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    F1 Racing. Travelling, Reading
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    Self-Employed
  1. Hi Buck, We have been reading fantasies of threesomes and we naturally got round to talking about swinging. Before I could bring it up she told me it was a fantasy of hers. I guess I was a little blown away but wow are we having fun discussing it. We've watched 2 dvd's on swinging, got some books on it and are discovering a lot in preparation for us going to visit a couples club. I also discovered that she was very bicurious and really looking forward to experimenting with another girl. It's been a wonderful discovery together and we have learnt so much about each other and feel more in love and compatible than ever. We are planning our first venture and are both very excited about it. There's been no pushing on either side, so I feel so comfortable taking this step pretty quickly. In fact she wants me to organise it soon. I hope you are able to bring it up yourself soon and get the same surprise/reaction as I have.
  2. Hi, I went in and being the first time, the first thing done was the excess hair was removed with a clipper. Then I had the waxing done in both the anal and genital area. Some areas stung more than others but even the worst stinging areas only lasted a few seconds as it's ripped off pretty quick. Looking at the results, I have to say it's worth the mild discomfort/pain. It's very smooth and takes a lot longer to grow back. I was also told that it's not as bad after the 1st time and gets easier (ie. less painful) as it's repeated. I have shaved a couple of times in the past and this is a much better result.
  3. I'm having mine waxed at a salon tomorrow for the first time. Yes my wife organised it for me. I'll let you know how it goes.
  4. JUST AN UPDATE I just wanted to post an update on how things are going. We have received our books and have been reading and talking in the evening to each other and having absolutely mindblowing sex compared to what we were doing before. We have shared a number of fantasies with each other and one of hers was to have 2 girls giving me oral at once. WOW! I felt braver and asked her if she would like to have another guy's cock in her as she was giving me oral and she responded positively. So as far as fantasies go we are definitely on the same wavelength. We went online shopping together for sex toys the other day and bought a vibrator, cock ring, an anal starter kit, plenty of lube, some sexy underwear etc. We then looked over the DVD's available and in the instructional section I suggested that we each choose one. I chose 'Nina Hartley's guide to couples sexploration. What knocked me out was she chose 'Nina Hartley's guide to Swinging'. They should arrive next week and I can't wait to watch them with her. Finally, I have never felt closer to her and she has expressed the same to me. We are doing lots of little things for each other that can easily be taken for granted, kissing, hugging and groping each other throughout the day and talking so much more to each other. We go to sleep at night after fantastic sex so happy with each other and it still seems to be there in the morning. I really believe our relationship is better at the moment than even the exciting times when we first met. A huge thanks to everyone on here for their advice as if it stopped right here and nothing went any further, we have already achieved so much in developing our relationship.
  5. Thanks for your thoughts Buck and although I wouldn't have thought it a couple of weeks ago, I think you just may be right. Look at the next message for an update on how things are going.
  6. Sorry to hear that, and I really hope that things get a lot better for you.
  7. From your post and some of the others I have gained a greater appreciation of how important this is. When she tends to talk down about herself, her body, her looks etc... in the past I have been somewhat dismissive with comments like "Don't be silly", as she is so sexy and beautiful. I think my response should be to let her know what I'm thinking and what anyone else would and over time get her to believe that she really does look great and can be confident about herself.
  8. I guess it's this line that made me ask the things I did in the thread "The risk of even bringing it up" in the HELP section of the forum.
  9. Hi Buck, yes of that I'm sure as I think I've been the one who's been the one dragging the chain on us spicing things up due to my inability to discuss embarrassing topics and talk openly and freely about sexual topics. That's why I'm going to start by us sharing a couple of books to get us speaking about these. As for swinging, If I thought that there was no way she would go for it, I'd be dropping it now. That's what I need to find out as I think there's at least a 50% chance she could be interested and excited about it. Though I have no doubt she'd have heaps of questions and would have some of society's conditions like worrying about labels like slut etc.. to get over too. You know, the more I read what you and others have written on this thread and then me actually digesting my own responses to you about my situation leads me to think that my wife is slowly reaching the point of admitting she may be interested in swinging under the right circumstances. If that ever happens I don't know but I know that it will take me finally asking her directly about it rather than just strongly hinting, because I don't think we would ever volunteer her interest in it if she has any. I'm glad that the questions and comments I've posed seem to be helping someone else too. I guess that's where I am hung up now, should I straightforward ask her or not? For those that have been following this thread, what do you think I should do? And boy, I feel so inadequately qualified to give you advice at this stage. All I can say is that I know at some stage in the future (I guess it would be in the next 6 months or so) I'm gonna have to let her know that I'm really interested and asking her for her thoughts. I also at that time will ask if she wants to go to a party where we won't have to do anything except watch what we're able to, talk to other people, take in the sexually charged atmosphere and maybe get a little naked in front of others or make love to one another with others able to see us.
  10. Thank you, you know I really do feel welcome here. Second, I think you're on the right track, using your head and taking it one step at a time. I think you have the right attitude about this; taking it slow, letting things happen as they may and listening to the fine advice you've received here. Work it into your bedroom talk, find some porn to watch that shows some multiple partner sex and wait for the opportunity to ask her about her fantasies. She may surprise you. Thanks, it's reassuring to hear experienced people tell me that I could be on the right track. And I do plan to take it slowly. As much as some people might not believe it, I want to do this as much for us, as I do for the potential opportunity to have sex with other women. In the past during some of the times when our relationship has been under stress, one of the things that she has always said is that she wants to be much closer to me. Now, it can be very hard to work out exactly what to do to become much closer, but reading the philosophy behind swinging and how it frees up couples and their inhibitions and allows them to communicate on every level totally openly, I think that I understand much better what that much closer means. BTW, our relationship is quite strong now so please don't take my comments to imply that we are having problems. I'm not concerned if it takes us quite a while to get there as I imagine the journey will have some quite wonderful discoveries and opportunities to explore things together. What I've decided to do to start is I've ordered a copy of "Sweet Life: Erotic fantasies for couples" and will give it to her shortly for her birthday, telling her its for us to read and have fun with together. I am 100% confident she will love this present as we have recently become more vocal during sex and this will be the next stage of actually talking about what we like and our fantasies rather than just using dirty talk to turn each other on during sex. I imagine that the book will have a lot of fantasies that have nothing to do with swinging or other partners, but we'll probably be able to have fun with a lot of the fantasies in there. I like your comment about getting to the point of asking her about her fantasies and "she might surprise you". Some of the things we have done in the past on the spur of the moment make me believe that this could be true. Like having sex on the beach on holidays (there was some other people a few hundred metres away) or her groping me on the spur of the moment while out and not in any opportunity to actually do anything else. If and when she's ready, show her this site. You can count on us to be just a friendly and supportive of her as we are of you. Best wishes to you. Stick around too, we'd love to get to know you better and hear how things are going! -B This is probably the nicest thing that I've read in this thread. I'd love to get to the point where she comes on this site as so many things are explained so much better than I could do it. And to then have the people here willing to be supportive if she came here to help her understand that it's not just an excuse to Fuck around (excuse me for using that profanity but it didn't sound right using any other words for it) but so much more than that. I will be sticking around. In fact the only thing that would make me go away is if I eventually got a catagorical NO, NOT EVER from her as it would seem to be sill y to be hanging round here in that case. Thanks for your thoughts.
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