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About lovelakelife

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  • Birthday 02/04/1969

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    very deep in love couple- over 21 years of blissful marriage!
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  1. I know your original question is @ dr and ED meds, but your "problem" was SOOOOO much in line with what happened to me, that I felt I should share the link, just so you could see a detailed account of "exactly" what your saying, and what happened to me.... Party fouls and forced breaking of rules in the Lifestyle A lot of my post will/ does not apply to you, but half way thru , you will see an almost exact response- thus indicating it's A LOT more common than you would think...only time and "experience" will alleviate what I believe are your "nerves" causing the undesired little-man response.....it's all about getting into a comfort zone- Ladies and cocks are both very complicated! LOL! Good luck, and like an earlier post...Cialis works great for me also- on ly to extend out the evening.......not to "be able to perform" ( NO issues there- I follow my stunningly hot wife ( what can I say- I love her and STILL think she's THAT hot- even 22+ years later!!! LOL!) around all day with a non-stop hard on) it's all about performance anxiety and comfort zones....... To be honest- I'm still not 100% there, but getting better all the time. What has worked for us- better then ED meds, is building a "comfort zone" relationship- BEFORE PLAYING! Pretty much sucks that guys can respond to almost any required situation, except when pants are off! LOL! Good luck. Try a few different meds, but in the end, after you find your comfort zone, you will see you probably will NOT need any ED meds!
  2. One thing i found out, was ed meds MAY not even help in some cases..... especially if nerves are very high! Sometimes absolutely nothing will help.... it happens to everyone at some point.
  3. Thanx, Julie. That's exactly how we have handled this. There will never be room for mis-interpureting (sp?) again. It's not something that has deturred us or made us think bad of everyone, just more guarded and carefull in WHO we pick, and MUCH more firm on crossing OUR and whoever else's ground rules. As far as WE go, no issues, never will be- we communicate far too well between eachh other- if only we could have conveyed our level of communication better to the other Mr! LOL. Thanx again to everyone. We are looking forward to our next adventure!
  4. Wow. good info in here @ the Kamagra (sp?). I've always just taken Horny Goat Weed as a supplement with my daily stuff and (not needing anything stronger) has worked well for me and libido anyway.
  5. Wish our "jump" from soft to full had gone as "respectful" and with permission as yours did! In our situation, the other mr. repeatedly pressed" until the mrs. gave in and "allowed" it....3 times we stated we were soft and not ready for that yet....it happend anyhow, but the beauty of what's between two couples that love, trust and support each other- no matter what- is that you can pull back any time you want to, like we have, to allow things to slow back down and wait till everyone feels more comfortable. Your permission being the GIANT defining difference, that will allow her to NOT beat herself up over it. We can only hope our next "jump" goes just like yours did! Thanx for sharring- your post actually helps us as well- thats what we love about this board- the sharring of experiences and information.
  6. Well, duh! LOL! didn't think about that... New to the board..what can I say
  7. HA HA HA! no way! As we wouldn't want our trust violated, we will NOT violate anothers trust. As I told them before the camera turned on, it was for our private pleasure only, and would not ever be shared. But did get the humor in the post! Thanx! LOL
  8. We also decided to go with the saline at the dr's urging. He felt for the look/ feel of a "mature" womans breast it was the closest match to natural.... like we said...they came out perfect. If it wasn't for the small scar above her nipples no one could ever tell, even when touching them.
  9. The one thing that should be said is when the implant goes below the muscle, when ever she mover her chest muscles there will be some "jumpy" boobs...can't be avoided, but with our 1/2 under 1/2 out they dont seem to "jump" as much. Our $.02. Do ALOT of research on dr reviews...we spent 6 months looking, and couldnt be happier! Good luck with yours. D & K
  10. Our procedure was to place the small implant halfway under the muscle and half out at thebottom to give a natural look and feel. Mrs still had alot of breast tissue so there was plenty to hide any part of the bottom of the implant...if I knew how to post pix on here I would post...they really did come out AMAZING! 34DDD/ 36DD and on her small frame they really get noticed!
  11. Than k you VERY much for all the feedback! Both pos. and neg. Thank you! Seems as though you guys share our exact sentiments.... 1) we need to be more clear and stern on our rules- no matter what the outcomes will end up being ( ie end the night) 2) absolutely learn to read pushy people better BEFORE it gets to that point 3) No mater what, where, when, how, why etc... NO BARE BACK! We are not newbies ( @ 15 years exp, but ALL of that exp has been with couples/ singles we had formed a friendship wiuth first, so the only "new" thing to us was the pushyness and forcefullness of meeting at a party atmosphere. We never once had "issues" between us...never had, our love and relationship is FAR stronger than the LS! If we had problems, be it communicating, or trusting we would be SO out of the LS, but that is not the case. This was just basicaly us being new to the club scene/ and not REALLY knowing others before we play...more kinda looking for other experiences and things to watch out for. Will we go back? HELL YEAH! Will we run into this situation again? HELL YEAH...BUT we will be much clearer up front, during and at any other time needed! Will I have an "anxiety issue again? I'm very sure of that...but hopefully the people we have chosen to be with will be as understanding as you guys seem to be....which I will assume is more the majority than minority in the LS. Thanx a million ya'll! D & K
  12. Being a bit new to LS clubs, the first thing we noticed was the large number of what some would call, BBW's in the clubs. In fact we would estimate at least 90% of the ladies qualify.Mrs. lovelakelife is actually a small size 5 lady with a very large bust, and felt a bit out of place there. It seems to us that the smaller ladies are the minority, so feel comfortable no matter what size you are!
  13. We actually went down this same road, only my wife had twins, so the resulting end result was a bit saggier than she liked, I LOVED her and them any way they came, but then I'm biased...lol. Long story short she did the lift and small implant and DAMN!!!! she lost almost enough weight to put her back to her early 20's size and my God is she smokin hot! She must get hit on 50 times a day,good for her ego as well, and is so much more comfortable with her looks now, thus resulting in her being even more un inhibited, which actually works well in the LS! Our opinion anyhow. Works for u, but to each his/ her own!
  14. OK, just wanted to get a bit of feedback on a recent "experience"...... We attended a NYE hotel party and had a blast! Met a couple AND a S BiF, so all 5 of us headed back to our room. I asked each if they were opposed to me recording our adventure, to which all were more than happy to oblige ( love to enjoy looking back on it after, and between adventures). Anyhow, moving forward.... Before anything more than some clothes began to come off between the 3 ladies, both myself ( mr ) and the wife stated we were a soft swap couple ( we do enjoy full- but ONLY after we have all become comfortable and at least a bit of a friendship developed...sometimes we do move a bit slow, but to each his or her own) and the statement was acknowledged. So things are progressing nicely with the ladies, and a nice added surprise of the S Bi F is a squireter- to which neither my wife or myself have up to this point had the priveledge to enjoy, so needless to say we were quite excited and having a great time! The other husband then moves behind my wife for insertion, and as she feels him entering, she turns slightly and pulls away and says, again, "I'm not ready for that, were not that far along" and he says no problem, and the other two ladies acknowledge by saying " it's not a problem, every one has to feel comfortable, and don't worry about it" as one would expect. My wife also added that we also use safe sex when we feel comfortable enough. OK...moving on.... I am now face burried and my wife is pulled up from the other female to give the husband oral, to which she complies. after a while he gently pushes her down on her back at the foot of the bed ( I was at the top, on my knees on the floor giving a solid class in oral pleasures to his wife and the S Bi F - I am not aware of this because of what I was doing) and gets on his knees between her legs and pulls her legs up and again, tries to insert, she says " i'm not ready for that yet" and he then goes down on her for a few minutes. The S Bi F then begins to squirt and every one is excited again, and laughing, enjoying this new experience. The husband again pulls her legs way up to her shoulders and inserts, and begins screwing her- she told me afterward she was caught in the moment, and not even really thinking when it happened, and after he was in, just kinda started riding the waves of pleasure in the moment. About then is when I was just finishing the other wifes oral O and then felt the bed violently shaking- picked up my head and saw what was happening. I made a comment " I guess soft swinging is out the door" and laughed, but became so out of my comfort zone that I completely lost my erection. I tried to not make any "scene" and just went back to doing oral ( what else cann you do when you have taffy between your legs!) They went for a while and she finally said ok, thats enough, and got off the bed and grabbed me. I had made a comment or two about being "over stimulated" and not getting hard as I wished. My wife performed oral on me and got me part way hard - enough for insertion into her. We screwed on the bed and I believe I did pop in her, but to be totally honest, at this point my head was spinning a bit over the forced broken rule- actually two rules! also did not use protection on my wife ( which she later became VERY upset at herself for! and vowed off ever getting caught up in the heat of the passion again....that's been dealt with and we are totally fine, but thats a side story for another time). So after I climb off my wife, both other ladies try oral on me and everything they can think of to get me to rise to the occasion, mean while Mr. mannors is doing my wife again on the other bed, she told me she thought since it had happened already it wasn't that much of a deal, and she was actually also STILL in the freak heat of passion like she gets when she's REALLY turned on ( ie: squirter heated us all up!). However, I was just plain done...nothing downstairs at all. My wife came back over to me and got me semi hard at best, but not enough to do anything with, so we called it a night. I need to mention, I DID NOT have any animosities (sp?) or issues, or even feeling one way or another at this point, more just REALLY embarrassed I couldnt perform- was all that was in my head at the time. After we ( all 5 of us ) ate at the next door breakfast restaurant, we parted ways. My wife and I screwed for 3 more hours- never going soft and no issues with not getting hard at all! The next day my mind began to process what had happened, and we talked ( my wife and I ). She felt REALLY, REALLY bad over what had happened, both the deed and the fact it contributed to me not performing, and also stated that she had perceived a "look" I gave her at one point, just before he actually entered her- to mean I was OK with what ever was happening. After we had watched the video ( what we actually did manage to get on video- poor quality and dark...but better than nothing), she then realized the husband did NOT use protection, and actually got a bit scarred and worried! The group wanted to play again the next night, but my wife and I agreed beforehand, IF we did it was ONLY to be SOFT SWAP!!! PERIOD! At the before party he was getting quite intoxicated AND almost "pushy" and when my wife denied his advances, he almost began to pout! His wife was fine, and is a great person. The evening ended and my wife and I decided that given his state he would more than likely be even MORE forcefull and demanding, and cause us to go back to breaking rules again, to which we BOTH agreed we needed to back up a step to our base rules- since we determined my performance anxiety was directly related to my wife and the husband having full swap, when I was in no way shape or form preparred for, and let my internal stressors run wild and shut me down. Thats why we have ALWAYS had "friends first", soft swap till all are comfortable and ready ( the group only progresses as fast as the slowest person- is our thoughts), and IF full becomes everyones desire, SAFE SEX is a MUST for us. So is this type of couple ( husband primarily ) a common issue with hotel club parties? I should also mention this was only our second hotel party and our FIRST connection at such an event. Feedback welcome, even if you feel we/ I were wrong or handled it inapproprietly (sp?), or if you have had a similar exp, or feel we actually did something right, out of a potentially bad exp, for our first swap outside of friendship - at a club party. Thanx in advance to all of you wonderful folks!
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