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My wife and I are considering entering into the lifestyle (it sounds like you all having so much fun). My main fantasy is watching my wife with another man, is this unusual? I've talked to her about it during love making and she gets really turned on. She has issues to overcome but is willing to check out a local club. Of course I would love to do a full swap but would be content with a threesome or just watching. I wish I knew why I wanted to see her with another guy.

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I am the poster child for this sort of thing, and I always try to reassure guys like you. There are plenty of guys that feel the way that we both do, and I personally think that it's perfectly healthy.

 

Here's how I think of it: my wife is my personal porn star. She turns me on and I love to see her get sexual. One of my biggest frustrations during normal one-on-one sex with her is that it's hard for me to see her getting freaky because I'm up so close to her that I can't see anything. Sometimes I really like to sit back and watch her while somebody else works her over. My absolute favorite porn flicks are the ones with little Asian girls that remind me of my wife, and I get off the hardest when I imagine that the little porno girl is my wife and that I'm watching her put on a show for me with some other guy.

 

So no, you aren't alone. We are especially fortunate in that there is an army of guys that are eager to jump in and satisfy our fantasies for us. If your wife likes sex at all then she will figure out soon enough that she's pretty lucky to have a guy that likes to sit back and watch her have fun.

 

Here's an irony: I love being with new girls as much as any guy, I'm not the impotent guy that is always sitting there and watching. A big problem for me though, is that if we get with a couple, a big part of what I get out of that is watching my wife with the other guy. Screwing the other girl can actually be sort of an irritating distraction for me because I enjoy watching so much. It's one of the reasons why we avoid swapping off and then going at it simultaneously, because then I miss out on watching and get all irritated afterward because I missed it.

 

Oh, and I have grumbled at least once or twice after spectacularly fun MFM threesomes because she and the other guy insisted on keeping the lights so low that I couldn't see them during the sex. Some straight guys just need that for their homophobia or whatever, but I just hate that. I am bisexual but it has nothing to do with wanting to watch him, I just want to be able to see her.

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A woman never looks more beautiful than when in the throes of passion, and if you are the one providing that passion, it does indeed limit your view of the goings on. I have seen my wife while being pleasured by others, and it is a real turn on. Her favorite, though, seems to be having me and another guy pleasure her at the same time, which is a thrill for both of us. I find it almost as exciting as having two women pleasure me at the same time. Face it, there are things that two couples together can do to each other that is beyond the realm of what just two people can do together. To me, that is pretty much my reasoning for being attracted to swinging...it's an opportunity to explore things that go beyond what you can do as a couple. It isn't really about taggin' some strange, it's about sharing special joy and collective fantasies with your partner. Sportync

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For me, what I seek in swinging is three different things in roughly equal parts: getting a charge out of watching my wife act slutty, exploring the fun stuff that a group can do that a couple can't, and tagging unexplored pussy. I'll be honest, tagging unexplored pussy is a factor for me, but I didn't get around much before I got married.

 

But yes, in the realm of watching your wife, it's exciting for at least two different reasons. One is that watching girls fuck is fun, there is a giant porn industry to prove that. When you're swinging though, you're not just watching some random stranger girl get freaky, you're watching somebody that you care about. You lust after her sexuality but you also empathize with the pleasure that she's getting. If you have a good communication level going on with your wife then she knows how much you enjoy watching her fuck and she puts on a show for you as much as she enjoys the situation, which is even more erotic. You're watching a live action porn show that features a girl that you love and empathize with who is acting out specifically to turn you on, and you know full well that you're going to get to fuck her afterward.

 

Jeesh, just thinking about this is making me all flustered. C&K, the answer to your question is a resounding "No, not unusual at all". Enjoy the thrill.

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I was wondering what it would be like to swap wives and thought it might take away from watching my wife have sex. Do couples usually take turns or does everyone go at it at the same time? What happens to you. I would hate to affend the women by watching my wife while having sex.

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Like I said, I have the same problem. I like tagging a new hottie as much as the next guy, but I really hate to miss seeing my wife have sex. There is no universal protocol for what you're 'supposed' to do, and half of the fun is flirting and figuring out what you're going to do. If you can communicate to everybody involved what you're looking for, then you can get it.

 

Here is something that works for me, when I'm flirting with a girl, I will tell her about how much I love watching my wife have fun. Girls are normally after my wife anyway, so the topic kind of naturally comes up. I can normally sell them on the idea of sitting back and sending her man after my wife and just enjoying the show together. It helps me to bond a little with the girl, and it's sexy. The really exciting parts for me are in the beginning anyway, the foreplay, the initial penetration, all of the early stuff. After watching a little of that I want to have a little fun myself, and I conveniently am sitting next to an unoccupied girl that I just watched a live action porn show with. It all works out well, and as long as she is in on the game and knows why I'm not attacking her she isn't offended.

 

If it's too much of a complication though, screw it, just do a threesome with a guy friend. It's ridiculously simple to set up a threesome with a guy friend if that's what you want to do as a couple.

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You say your wife gets hot during sex when you mention wanting to see her with another man. Keep in mind that sometimes the dirty talk during sex is a turnon, but the woman may have no intention of actually doing it. You need to sit down and talk to her when you are NOT in the middle of passionate lovemaking.

 

My husband will say outragous things during sex and it really turns me on, but some of it, I wouldn't consider actually doing.

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I'm so glad I found this thread. The emotion you guys are talking about with watching your wives is one of the biggest reasons my wife and I are exploring these possibilities. I am not sure if Mrs Sparky believes me when I tell her that part of the reason I want to start swinging is to see her be pleasured. Yes part is for me wanting to tag a new piece, but MY fantasies are more of her getting tagged.

 

I'm glad to see I'm not the only "sicko" out there. Like Teamsobe said it is my love for my wife and my desire to see her experience pleasure to its fullest extent that draws me in.

 

Mr Sparky

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I just have to throw my 2 cents in here. It is not just guys getting turned on watching their wives.

 

I, personally, LOVE to see R get freaky with another girl. It is a HUGE turn on for me. And I like to watch her reactions to him as well. It just so incredibly erotic.

 

:D

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I met my wife almost twenty-three years ago. My fantasies since that time have always included her. There are often other people involved but she is always the main attraction. I, like TeamSoBe, would like to cuddle with another man's wife while we watch her husband and my wife drive each other up the wall. Most of the time we've played at the same time and a lot has been missed.

 

Mr. Alura

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We've been married 35 years. After the first year of marriage, on our first anny, we swapped with a couple we worked with. While I really liked fucking his wife, especially in front of her husband and my wife, I liked watching them do it more. Often times his wife would get pissed at me because I wanted to wait for our spouses to finish before we got started other than petting.

 

Not long after that he, David, started coming by the house without his wife to have some of mine. I was always there, but not in the same room. One day he came by and Betty was not there, so he said if I did not mind he could come in and have a drink or three while we waited fo her.

 

Long story short, he and I wound up with each other. Betty walked into the bedroom and caught us in a 69. Just as she came in he filled my mouth with his cum and I did not miss a drop. Instead of gettng mad she got naked and we've been doing threesomes with other men since then.

 

There is no quesiton I enjoy watching her with another man or woman than I enjoy fucking itself. I don't kwow why we are the way we are, but it if good clean fun and no body gets hurt.

 

I am oral bi only in the threesome setting.

 

Bill

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Well, I would have to say I like watching my wife with other guys too. Even much more than watching her with girls. We have been swinging for about 5-6 yrs. & our first experiences were with friends of mine. I guess it's cuz I like seeing her pleased sexually. I don't mind sharing with another guy either. We don't swing often, but we enjoy it when we do.... couples or singles. If we hook up with a female that she likes, I can forget about any action cuz my wife keeps her to herself, LOL. There's a story behind that, but you'll have to ask her :-)

 

Steve

(AKA: Mr Julie)

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Were new to the lifestyle, but this is one of the many reason why we chose to pursue it. I know I would love to see my wife getting hammed by another guy. My God, what a turn on!! So, she and have talked in detail about this. She had said for her first time, she would like to be alone with him. Is this a normal thing?

JS

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Originally posted by JS12

Were new to the lifestyle, but this is one of the many reason why we chose to pursue it. I know I would love to see my wife getting hammed by another guy. My God, what a turn on!! So, she and have talked in detail about this. She had said for her first time, she would like to be alone with him. Is this a normal thing?

JS

Yes this is a normal thing. After all the talking we did about it and as neat as it all sounded, I (Lori) was actually afraid of how I would react and how my husband would react on the first time. Although we were with a couple, I think the emotions are the same. We did end up all together the first time and it was pretty cool. We learned that we enjoyed watching each other, neither of us was jealous and we had a good time.

 

I think what she has is first time jitters, I highly recommend though that you stay together the first time. There are many reasons for this as you will learn how each of you feel about the experience and for safety measures, especially if it isn't someone you know. You can't have that experience if she goes at it alone and since you are new to swinging, knowing how you both feel about it is a very important part of the learning experience that should not be skipped.

 

Lori

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For me, this fantasy has come true in a mmf threesome. The thought of doing it again and remembering the experience still turns my wife on. Since the encounter the other male and us have moved to different towns, due to the distance it would be almost impossible to hook up again. We are currently discussing finding someone else but haven't talked through all of it yet.

 

My recommendation is to take it slow and don't push her into it. Also ask yourself why does this idea arouse you (note: there is absolutely nothing wrong with the fantasy. I believe it is a very common fantasy among men in relationships). There are many reasons but only you can understand what motivates you. Once you do understand then it will make it easier for you to discuss with her your feelings on the subject and hopefully make her comfortable talking about her feelings to you. Communication is the key for a successful encounter.

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I love to watch Mrs. Alura. Our first time was with a couple. They were both fun sex partners. The guy claimed nine inches and Mrs. Alura believed him. His wife and I, taking a break in the living room, were distracted by the screams coming from the bedroom. As we entered the room, a shrieking Mrs. Alura had her toes pointed toward the ceiling and her ass colliding with his groin as his cock churned her pussy. What a sight!

 

Mr. Alura

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What a great subject. I want to get my wife and I into the likestyle. I now only think of giving her total sexual pleasure with a third partner playing with us. The thought of another guy sucking on her tits, getting a hand job or a blow job while im eating her gets me totally turned on. I'v been giving hints such as getting turned on while she dances with another and asking her how she would like having her tits sucked while Im going down on her. I plan on telling her how I whould like to be able to give her the opportunity to totally satisfy her soon. I do hope she will accept.

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Originally posted by b smith

...There are many reasons but only you can understand what motivates you. ...

This statement intrigued me when I read it this morning, and I've been thinking about it since then. I enjoy the fantasy and the reality of seeing J with another man and accept that, but never really stopped to question why.

 

Here's what I have come up with: first, I enjoy seeing her happy, and this makes her happy and energetic. The attention she receives from other men seems to help confirm to her that she is attractive. This does not hurt our sex life in the least ;)

 

As well, J can be sexually shy and it is very erotic and pleasing to me to see her acting with abandon. When she is wanton with me, it is very arousing, and seeing her with someone else takes it even higher. I also know that I will be the beneficiary of her lusty disposition.

 

Finally, some part of this is that I am a little voyeuristic. I enjoy porn, and have found that live sex is very exciting to watch too.

 

Thanks for bring this subject up again!

 

-B

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Originally posted by TeamSoBe

Here's how I think of it: my wife is my personal porn star. She turns me on and I love to see her get sexual. One of my biggest frustrations during normal one-on-one sex with her is that it's hard for me to see her getting freaky because I'm up so close to her that I can't see anything. Sometimes I really like to sit back and watch her while somebody else works her over.

I found myself identifying with this statement.

 

Like many here, I have voyeuristic desires concerning many aspects of sex, and those desires are particularly well fed by the sight of my wife being sexually satisfied by a third party, while I am permitted to watch from the sidelines. To this point, I've been privileged enough to see her in the throes of lust with another woman, but I've yet to see her similarly engaged with another man. I have little doubt that this is a fantasy I'd like to see become reality. Perhaps time - and patience - will see fit to reward me . . . .

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Well, I have to agree with Brad as to why I would enjoy my wife being pleasured by another guy. Unfortunately, it has not happened and may never will, but I continue to fantasize about it anyway. My wife knows its my fantasy but I have not pushed her to do it because would rather it be her idea at the time if she ever did it, and not because I pushed her into it. I keeping thinking under the right circumstances with the right guy it could happen. I just keep letting her know I would be open to it and would enjoy it. Now if Rocco Siffredi ever walked in our door, my waiting would be all over1

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about 15 or more years ago, while at former girlfriend's house i noticed a friend of her dad's checking her out...i mean REALLY checking out my girlfriend's ass as she walked up some stairs. After that i started fantasizing about her having sex with him...or him and I taking turns having sex with her, or double penetration fantasies, etc. *LOL*...some of the fantasies just involved her and him having sex though, and i remember thinking it was strange that i was having sex fantasies where I wasnt involved in the sex at all. it was just so erotic to imagine someone i was so close to giving herself to another guy, and just surrendering to complete lust

 

Now Im married to a very wonderful woman...we've been together for more than 8 years. Naturallly I've been having the same kind of fantasies about my wife everytime i see that some guy is attracted to her. My wife had always seemed a little bit conservative sexually...and maybe i seemed that way to her too...but a few months ago, in the heat of passion she told me she was thinking about a threesome with another guy (just the idea of doing it...not with anyone in particular). That was the sexiest thing anyone had ever said to me in my life... I couldnt get it out of my head after that!...for the next 2 weeks straight I think i was perpetually hard. *LOL* She was as turned on as I was...i dont think i've ever seen her so worked up before.

 

Well, since then we've talked about 3somes and 4somes with other couples nearly every time we've had sex. We've also had some conversations about whether or not we might want to make it a reality. Neither of us have decided whether we want to actually make it happen, but our sex life is about 100x hotter than it was before.

 

Well anyhow...what i really wanted to say here is that my entire interest in swinging has been about me getting turned on by my wife's sexuality. Its the idea of seeing her completly giving in to her lusts for another guy, and the guy being so turned on by my wife...of course, when i stop to think about it, the idea of me experiencing sex with another woman with my wife there can also be a pretty exciting idea.

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Originally posted by b smith

Also ask yourself why does this idea arouse you (note: there is absolutely nothing wrong with the fantasy. I believe it is a very common fantasy among men in relationships). There are many reasons but only you can understand what motivates you. Once you do understand then it will make it easier for you to discuss with her your feelings on the subject and hopefully make her comfortable talking about her feelings to you.

Like Brad, I've come to realise the value of B Smith's deceptively simple suggestion.

 

However, in my case, being able to articulate to my wife the reasons why I desire to see her pleasuring another man has always been something of a stumbling block, because it's difficult enough articulating them to myself. For me, this desire has always been a particularly visceral one, something more readily connected with feelings than with words.

 

Coupled to that is my wife's innate suspicion: "You think you'd enjoy it, you enjoy the fantasy, but would you really enjoy seeing it happen? I don't think so."

 

But I can certainly identify with the reasons that have been put forward by Brad, Seymore and Buck and the others in this thread. Perhaps if my wife reads it herself, she'll have a better idea of where I'm coming from, and that my desire is neither imagined nor unusual.

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I also love to watch my hunny share pleasures. I think I've mentioned that I'm an inveterate voyeur. She also loves watching me with another girl. But I can honestly say that in the last 6 years we've been swinging, only on one occassion did we have separate partners in separate beds. We usually share the female partners or the males share her, or the group gropes. I love to watch her being serviced, even more I love to hear her getting off. Maybe it has something to do with the fact that when WE are doing it, I don't get to enjoy her enjoying the act, if you follow.

J

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I'm also an incorrigible voyeur, so the appeal of being able to watch my SO in the throes of pleasure is immense. I love seeing and listening to her being sexually fulfilled, and that experience is definitely hindered by being the person who's doing the fulfilling.

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So many of the responses on this thread seem to be from guys who like me, enjoy the fantasy of watching his wife in action with another guy, but unlike me, they have actually experienced it. I have taken the advice of many on this board and not pushed my wife into doing something she doesn't want to do, and will not do that, although I take the opportunity to hint about it sometimes. My question is, how did it come to happen the FIRST TIME you experienced swinging either from the guys point of view or the ladies point of view? It seems from reading these boards that swinging is usually the guy's idea and then at some point in time, his partner goes along with it and then usually enjoys it as much as he does. I'm especially interested in responses concerning the "watching wife" theme and from both the guys and the gals. Thanks in advance for your responses.

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It seems from reading these boards that swinging is usually the guy's idea and then at some point in time, his partner goes along with it and then usually enjoys it as much as he does.

 

I don't really know about the watching thing, we always play together. And I don't know if hubby could stand watching for very long without joining in.

 

But we kind of came to the realization together about swinging. It first started by my opening up about my bi-sexuality, and wanting to bring another female into the bedroom. From there it just slowly started becoming more. We then went to soft swing, and eventually full swap.

 

I always moved at his pace because I felt that he had a little more anxiety about it than I did. I do tend to let him decide when we want to take things a step further. It's not that he is jealous or anything. I think that I am just more open about my sexuality than he is.

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I just love watching my girlfriend. There's something very erotic about it all. Of course, I realize that this is not for everyone. But it does work for us.

 

:8-0::

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Originally posted by Buck

My question is, how did it come to happen the FIRST TIME you experienced swinging either from the guys point of view or the ladies point of view? It seems from reading these boards that swinging is usually the guy's idea and then at some point in time, his partner goes along with it and then usually enjoys it as much as he does. I'm especially interested in responses concerning the "watching wife" theme and from both the guys and the gals. Thanks in advance for your responses.

 

We were invited to hottub with a couple we were friends with. They had a rule about being nekkid because the chemicals ruined clothes. (yeah, right). but we ended up in a pile in the family room in front of the fire. Then we were invited back with them and another couple. After that we just looked around and found people who we felt would be fun to share pleasures with. Single M, single F, couples, whatevers. Even one lesbian couple. that was interesting.

If you don't know anyone who could plausibly invite you to a vanilla hottub evening, then try subscribing to penthouse letters and leave it around for her to read. Actually, one of our favorite things to do is pick a letter from penthouse or from literotica.com and read it while performing the activity described in the story.

But seriously, if you have a loving, trustful relationship, you should be able to bring up any subject for discussion. Just outright ask her if she ever has any fantasies about having two men at once. I'd hate to be in a relationship where I was afraid to be open and honest with the other.

J

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I just HAD to post on this thread!

I totally understand that men like to watch their wives being pleasured by another man, and most even like to join in. My hubby finds it a GIANT turn on! But guys, like someone said earlier, if you are with a couple, talk to the other female partner ahead of time, and let her know how you like to watch.

One of our first experiences was terrible. We met with a couple and were in the same room. Apparently this guy had never seen his wife with another man, and was so turned on that he totally stopped what he was doing with me and FORGOT I was alive! Now knowing what I do now, I know that it was just because he was in Shock and wonderland! But at that time I was totally humilated and hurt. I felt abandoned and invisable. It took a long time for me to get over it and the self-esteem that I lost. Luckily, I was able to get past that experience and now enjoy the lifestyle very much. We never met with that couple again, and I look back at it as the worst DAY of my life! All because he handled the situation badly, and we were new and I didn't understand what the poor guy must have been going through.

Most men love watching their wives, and it seems many of the women here love to watch their hubbies with other women too. This is not the case with me. (maybe a result from that experience) I love hearing the details from hubby later, and knowing he was pleased and enjoyed himself. But I just can't watch for some reason. I always let the other couple know ahead of time what my boundaries are and what I do and do not enjoy. That way they can make a decision for themselves if they even want to bother being with us. I do not want to take anything away from what others enjoy, so I make sure they know all these things beforehand.

GOSH, so the point is, communicate! Have fun everyone!:)

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I'm going to have to remember that Line... "My wife is my personal porn star!" Just last night, Hanne and I had sex in the family room, and I moved her over in front of the full length mirror, so that we could see the same view you get in a porn flick.

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:bj: I love to watch my wife getting nailed by another guy. But my favorite is watching some guy hammer her while she sucks me and then after he gets off we switch places. I can't get over how hot it is to see her suck another man while I hammer away. Also, I thank whatever genius came up with the idea of digital cameras. It has enabled me to catch some things that normally you wouldn't notice. And you don't have to worry that the clerk at K-mart is beating himself off in the back looking at your pics. :rofl: Anyways, one of my favs is a pic I got of my wife riding another guy we met. She looked at me right as I took a pic, and I caught one of the most carnal looks you have ever seen on her face. Normally I wouldn't have really had time to of seen the face and been able to distinguish it much. But that picture showed just how much she was into it and just how much she liked it. :fun: Another thing that is fun is getting behind her while she is riding and snapping a few pics of the action. :lol:

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I could not agree more! There is nothing better than watching my wife get crazy with another couple or singles.

She is a very hot lady and loves sex (more than I can give her)

So why not watch and enjoy!

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This is my spot. I think. I guess we are not really swingers I don't know. My wife can't stand the thought of me and another woman. But we love to do other men. after being togather 19 years, i can tell you some stories. But i guess mainly what I love most (several things lol)is as I watch is the thought of all the pleasure her and he is feeling. Love to share my wonderful womans mouth and pussy with him. I am also very much into the mans cum. What I mean is I want a man to shoot buckets full in my wife. Super thick creamy load. Right in front of me watching her take it deep. There is nothing i can compair the feeling of slipping into my wife and feeling another mans cum all over me. WOW i last just about long enough to get all the way in her. I especially love to see her suck another mans cock off. Oh boy squart after squart of cum into her mouth all thick and creamy around her toungue. Then to watch her swallow it. She loves the way it feels going down. Hey maybe I am missing out myself but honestly given a chooise watch wife do man or me do hot babe. I can honestly say I would pick watch wife. :)

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I am the biggest promoter of MMF's you will ever find.

 

Be careful though. I based my life on it and found out it wasnt all it was cracked up to be. IT can work well for one but not for all. If the gal likes to get fucked and despises that you do then its not good.

 

Fuel......how do you spell fool for the fire?

 

John..who got burnt.

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Originally posted by Flori_DAMAN

I am the biggest promoter of MMF's you will ever find.

 

Be careful though. I based my life on it and found out it wasnt all it was cracked up to be. IT can work well for one but not for all. If the gal likes to get fucked and despises that you do then its not good.

 

Fuel......how do you spell fool for the fire?

 

John..who got burnt.

 

Sorry to hear that John. :( It has not always been peaches and cream for us eather. Early on we had our ups and downs. After 19 years we got most the bumps worked out. :) Just had a wonderful time with my wife last night after she did a friend of ours. We debated on it for about a month and then said hell with it. lol I don't think I have ever enjoyed her sweet pussy with more cum in it than last night. Oddly enough, he was too shy to let me watch so I had to wait my turn. :(

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Originally posted by lostinnvcpl

Sorry to hear that John. :( It has not always been peaches and cream for us eather. Early on we had our ups and downs. After 19 years we got most the bumps worked out. :) Just had a wonderful time with my wife last night after she did a friend of ours. We debated on it for about a month and then said hell with it. lol I don't think I have ever enjoyed her sweet pussy with more cum in it than last night. Oddly enough, he was too shy to let me watch so I had to wait my turn. :(

 

I should back that up with the fact that my wife and I had a terrific time with it, for 13 years. After she died then I just chose the wrong person to continue it with. I have been feeling down lately and shouldnt express it on the board because it wasn't really the MMF thing that got us it was all the other things....sry for that post.

 

John

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My wife and I have not met anybody yet to play with. But since we have been looking I have found myself thinking more about her being with a another man. That surprised her and I because we both thought I would get a bigger thrill out of being with the other woman. We are just learning so much about each other. Its good to know I am not the only one that feels this way. It kind of makes me feel normal.

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Originally posted by lersur

Its good to know I am not the only one that feels this way. It kind of makes me feel normal.

You are normal. Never forget that. If you want a label for yourself, just think of yourself as someone who's prepared to expand his boundaries and explore.

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I don't mind watching for a while. But before long I am going to have to be jumping into it somewhere.

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Originally posted by TeamSoBe

It's ridiculously simple to set up a threesome with a guy friend if that's what you want to do as a couple.

 

If it's so goddamned simple, how come all we've ever had is ffm? Grrrr. So frustrated. Like I say, he and I can't leave the house without falling over single women, but find a single guy - hell no!

 

Oh well, I guess it's not really the destination, but the journey.

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Originally posted by ArcaneReference

If it's so goddamned simple, how come all we've ever had is ffm? Grrrr. So frustrated. Like I say, he and I can't leave the house without falling over single women, but find a single guy - hell no!

 

Maybe I need to move to Vancouver!

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Originally posted by ArcaneReference

If it's so goddamned simple, how come all we've ever had is ffm? Grrrr. So frustrated. Like I say, he and I can't leave the house without falling over single women, but find a single guy - hell no!

 

Oh well, I guess it's not really the destination, but the journey.

 

It amazes me to no end. Julie was nice enough to invite me to moderate the single male section. She also allowed me to expand it into a single persons as opposed to males only section.

 

The amazing thing is that for once something I did worked. If you can read between the lines you can now see the difference between single assholes and true single swingers.

 

Knowledge is power. Geography has nothing to do with it. There are indeed single men that just want to have fun.

 

There is no way you can hide yourself behind words on this board.

 

Most single men (and some supposedly single women), expose themselves rather quickly.

 

I am truly amazed at how single guys try to impress people with intimidation but equally impressed with the genuine fellowship I have garnered with other single gents that have a mind like mine.

 

Some of us are just like the male half of a couple, but ya know....they dont have a S/O.

 

As I have said so many times. I CHOOSE not to impose myself on couples. If the opportunity comes around ya I'll be there, but I don't consider it a RIGHT...I consider it a privaledge. How the fuck do you spell priveladge...priveledge....oh da hell with it.....

 

No one owes me nuttin. But if it comes round I will be there untill I am committed again, if thats in the cards. I will not impose myself and I only hope to entertain in the meantime.

 

John.

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Although we haven't yet had a swinging experience, what started our whole investigation of the lifestyle was my confession to her that I am very much turned on by the image of her doing another guy. In the months since then we have had plenty of discussion about fantasies and scenarios, threesomes and foursomes, and bi-curiosity. But in agreement with some of the posts on this thread, I find the idea of seeing and hearing Mrs. CC giving and getting the pleasure she enjoys to be highly, highly erotic!

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My husband has always wanted me to have sex with our. Best friend who happens to be a male. I have had some reservers but we have already had some encounters. Everything but actual intercourse. But we feel we are both ready for this. We are ready for spice and have thought it through and talked about it. Communication is very important. Looking for other interested couples. Have not been to the club yet. Where is the nearest club in Memphis, Tn?

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Wow! It's awesome reading all of this.. hearing about how you love to see your woman pleasured by another man. It gives me HOPE (lol) that one of these days we might experience something like that :)

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My wife and I have discussed this a great length...she is very willing but is nervous...I was hoping that maybe some of the women on this thread could share how it makes them feel and any suggestions of finding the right guy

 

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Wow, thanks for all those GREAT stories, helps us feel more "normal" ... LOL ... whatever "normal" is? We are long time swingers, began at Plato's in NYC years ago. During our encounters we found sometimes the female of the other Cpl wasn't interested in play. That is when I discovered how much I truly enjoyed watching my wife with another guy or 2. This is no doubt our #1 type of fun, although we still go to swing clubs sometimes deep inside I can't wait till after when I can have her (my wife) after several other men have had her.

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Panhead,

I think I'm in the same boat as you. My wife and I agreed to go to a clothing optional resort for our anniversary. The reason I suggested this type of vacation was that she had stated that she had lost the desire to have sex. I did some research on the web and it appeared that she may have a sexual dysfunction.

I presented her with the research and within days she agreed to go to the resort and seemed to look forward to going. I told her that she wouldn't have to engage in any activity that she felt uncomfortable with and that I thought it was important for her to be immersed in a sexually charged enviorment. To my surprise she agreed and I booked the tickets a month ago

Just tonight we were talking about the resort and I reassured her that all shapes and sizes will be there and that in my eyes she will be the sexiest gal there. Then out of the blue she says "I don't think I want to do that swing stuff", but if you want to do it it's OK". My reply was that the whole reason I got into this was to have HER sex life get out of the dumps and to experience the enjoyment and pleasure of sex.

We are still going but have any of you guys, who only want the Mrs to be sexually satisfied and don't mind another guy helping you out, ever ran into this last minute change of heart or is it just a case of jitters on her part.

Any advice would be appreciated.

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I first became intrigued when my wife(then Fiance) was telling me about an incident that happened when she moved in with me and my parents and my 5 brothers. One had been sneaking in to our bedroom closet and was watching her undress, and then he would climb into bed with her, whispering to her to be quite. My parents were in the bedroom next door. I worked the grave yard shift. Seems that my oldest brother wanted some of my future wife before we were to be married.She never did give in,but he did pull her panties off and got her off orally, several times.This went on for several weeks, until one day he tried to penetrate her, she ran. No one was home.

She told me about it when I got home, she told me that he had tried to rough her up and that he was drunk.I was furious, After getting the whole story out of her it was arousing me that she had been doing this for a while, so she must have liked it.So later on during our lovemaking, I would have her tell me in detailed what they use to do. I would get off to it. We have been married now for 26 years. Two years ago, he started flirting with her, and she would tell me about it. I told her to play along. He was all over her, grabbing her nice round butt, and squeezing her tits. He offered her $500 if she let him lay her. She told him that she would think about it. I told her that I would love to finally see her have sex with him after all these years, but it would be impossible, he didnt know that i knew. So I had a double sided full length mirror on our bedroom door. It worked. It was the best climax I have ever had, watching my brother hammer my wife, he was like a caveman, slamming her hard, and the harder and faster he put it to her, she would moan. I came three times in the closet. He did every thing to her. Wow...that was the first and best time. After he left, I came out of the closet and gave her a high five, before we screwed for two hours.

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Panhead,

I think I'm in the same boat as you. My wife and I agreed to go to a clothing optional resort for our anniversary. The reason I suggested this type of vacation was that she had stated that she had lost the desire to have sex. I did some research on the web and it appeared that she may have a sexual dysfunction.

I presented her with the research and within days she agreed to go to the resort and seemed to look forward to going. I told her that she wouldn't have to engage in any activity that she felt uncomfortable with and that I thought it was important for her to be immersed in a sexually charged enviorment. To my surprise she agreed and I booked the tickets a month ago

Just tonight we were talking about the resort and I reassured her that all shapes and sizes will be there and that in my eyes she will be the sexiest gal there. Then out of the blue she says "I don't think I want to do that swing stuff", but if you want to do it it's OK". My reply was that the whole reason I got into this was to have HER sex life get out of the dumps and to experience the enjoyment and pleasure of sex.

We are still going but have any of you guys, who only want the Mrs to be sexually satisfied and don't mind another guy helping you out, ever ran into this last minute change of heart or is it just a case of jitters on her part.

Any advice would be appreciated.

 

Oh yes. My wife say "no way its disgusting!"

 

But after a couple of MFM 3somes she now want to try two or more extra males at the same time..........

 

But you have to know your wife well. Mine loved porn and kinky talk and is turned on by being filmed and having sex where we can be discovered. I knew she would like it as I know her well. And we had an active sex life

 

for you.....

 

Prob best you lay off the swinging ideas and build up communication with your wife what makes her sexy. I think your approach souds very "male and ego centric". You say "I did some research on the web and it appeared that she may have a sexual dysfunction" sounds like you are being home doctor!!!!

 

Do think of seeking help but do realise its never just one persons fault. You may have already upset your wife deeply without realing it by blaming her for a lack of sex. So she basically say "you go and fuck others"

 

I hear a divorce coming if you do. Work on the relationship

 

You may notice things like

 

- kids

- work

- getting old

- getting fat

- humdrum life

 

all make us "unsexy". How romantic are you? treat her to facials? hairdresser? a make over? do you talk to her as 'mother and cook' or as your wife?

 

think about it

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