Swinger Husbands

[Spoomonkey]

I had this conversation with Mrs Spoo, and again with a guy we know at our club last night...

I get the feeling that swinger husbands are usually the forgotten part of the equation. Now - don't get me wrong - I am not flinging poo here, just writing an observation.

I know that we are hard on single men on these boards a lot, but I have the feeling that few single men really have what it takes (whatever that is) to be a swinging husband. Swinging husbands risk a lot in the way of vulnerability when it comes to the lifestyle. Granted, swinging for couples is about the couple - and there is nothing that happens in the lifestyle (for us) that isn't about us. What we do enhances who we are and what we have as a couple.

But, as I was telling Mrs Spoomonkey the other day, sometimes I feel like a concert promoter. She is the stage show, our playmates are the audience and I am (generally) backstage. Granted, I play whenever we play and I have a great time... And I always get "mop up" duty when a single guy doesn't live up to his own hype (if you know what I mean).

When we are with couples, the women are always at the center of the scene again. Swinger husbands are (for the most part) very generous and attentive playmates - and women get the benefit of that kind of attention.

I guess what I am fishing for is some declaration of "swinger husband appreciation day." It would be great to not have to do anything but lay back and let our lovely swinger wives show us their "eager appreciations". Hehe... That's a hell of an idea, if I do say so myself...

And I am not talking about my wife showing me appreciation - she does that in everything she does from breakfast to sex and back again... I mean all the swinging wives... One, two or a dozen at a time... (Sorry,nowtypingwithonehand )

Swing husbands, you deserve a pat on the back (and a blowjob while driving and sex in a public place and someone to dress up like Batgirl and punish you for escaping from Arkham...). I am declaring at least one day this week be yours, for all the good you bring to the world through your lack of jealousy and selishness and territoriality. So - with all the respect in the world I say to you, "Get fucked!" You damn well deserve it!

Spoomonkey

[BradAndJanet]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

... So - with all the respect in the world I say to you, "Get fucked!" ...

Why, thank you Mr. Spoo and well said! You get fucked too!

-B

[biglickcpl]

Thanks Mr Spoo.......... this one of the few times that i've been told to get fucked, and someone actually meant it!!!!!

[C&D]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

Swing husbands, you deserve a pat on the back (and a blowjob while driving and sex in a public place and someone to dress up like Batgirl and punish you for escaping from Arkham...). I am declaring at least one day this week be yours, for all the good you bring to the world through your lack of jealousy and selishness and territoriality. So - with all the respect in the world I say to you, "Get fucked!" You damn well deserve it!

Spoomonkey

Here....here.....Mr Spoo for President



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[frenzb4sex]

Damn Spoo!!!! That was classic!

I hope you don't mind, but I even copied and pasted this and sent it to our friends, I am SURE that it will get forwarded on and on and on...you da man!!! Er, monkey...I mean......

(Unless, of course, one bitter wife puts an end to all of it and shames her husband for even considering such rhetoric.....LOL)

Guess I better not show it to my wife then, huh.....head bang





LOL JK...I have already shown it to her and she said..."Well hell yeah! I'll let you pick a day this week! I get 364 days and you get 1, that sounds like a great deal!!!"

(Hey, gotta be happy with 1 day, right? WOO HOO!!!! Let's all get fucked!!!)

Tim

[yawanna]

With all due respect Mr Spoo.. and you KNOW we luv ya both....

get OVER yourself Mr

In a New York minute would any guy latch onto a woman who's into swinging. As many husbands have shared with us regarding their wives: 'Oh My F(*&&((ing GAWD I hit the jackpot'.

Backseat or promoter sure beats hell out of never getting into the arena.

What I WILL give to y'all...swinger husbands...is that you get to live out your porn fantasies..no wait.. I mean.. you get one special woman - your wife - and untold numbers of other women to bang..no wait.. what I REALLY mean is......what I will give to you all is that you have evolved from caveman and sole ownership and control of your chosen woman's libido to: acknowledging and accepting that each sex, male and female, have sexual desires that are enhanced by multiple partners whilst engaging in extra curricular sexual activities that are participated in for the ultimate purpose of furthering your relationship with your chosen partner aka wife aka husband.

Longer term swinger husbands are eternally grateful for the women who have chosen to be their primary partner and who embrace their sexuality, which granted, could not happen without a supportive partner. Their husbands. it's a common theme in male focussed porn.. oh .. had I mentioned that already?

[SluttyWife]

And backrubs of appreciation, too....awwwww..

I agree spoomonkey,

Even with couples Mrs Naughty is the center of attention.

(of course if we ever ran into a single guy and I was the center of attention that would be very bad!! )

Same with single woman, although that is rare and usualy at a club party, Mrs Naughty is the center of attention. I just settled with the fact that she is hotter than me .And since most of what swinging does for me is watching her get attention it all works out.

She gets most of the attention which gets her wet and me hard and at the end of the night everyone is sasified!!

[pairbond]

Mrs. Pairbond and I would contend that in the swinging lifestyle, women are completely in control. Even if, as in our case, they leave the searching for suitable playmates entirely up to the hubby, the woman has final approval rights, which is as it should be because nobody should EVER have to "take one for the team."

Even at parties we've attended, the men are almost all very hesitant to make a move, because they are so concerned about not being too "pushy." Yet it's perfectly acceptable for a woman at a swing party to make overt advances or even just to tickle or rub or even grope a man's crotch.

Personally, I'm just delighted if a woman takes those kinds of liberties with me, because I'm incredibly dense, according to Mrs. Pairbond, who says I am oblivious to being flirted with unless somebody hits me over the head with a 2x4 - or rubs my crotch!

I think this really gets back to the fact that men tend to be ready to have sex with any pretty thing that's willing, while women tend to be much more selective. And THOSE differences go way back into prehistoric human societies, and are probably strongly genetically programmed into our species. We are probably for the most part hard-wired into those behavioral differences.

Having said all that, don't you hubbies feel like you are greatly honored when a lady wants to have sex with you? I sure do! And I'm thinking that women in general don't feel QUITE so honored to find a man who wants to have sex with them, since they know men would probably fuck a skunk if you put a bag over its head and plugged its scent glands! THAT is why women are the ones who do the selection - they are looking for that "hunk" or that sweet, charming intelligent guy - a SPECIAL guy, not just a run-of-the-mill guy with an erection.

Just my opinion. - - pairbond

.....QUITE so honored to find a man who wants to have sex with them, since they know men would probably fuck a skunk if you put a bag over its head and plugged its scent glands!

That has got to be the funiest fuckin thing I have ever read on this board!!

Thanks for the good laugh!!!!

[NNJBoomers]

I adore swinger husbands.
Turning them on turns me on.
Cocks are my preference.
Bi play is secondary.
If fact bi play is usually a show for the husbands.
How do I know the show is good?
When the husbands pull us ladies apart because they can't wait a minute longer to fuck us.
Yesssssssssssss.


Mrs Boomer

[mrs good times]

It doesn't work this way for us. When Mr.'s dick comes out all the women in the play room are trying to suck on it and the guy I'm with is watching all the women drool over his dick instead of paying attention to me. He does have a nice dick but, come on.

We have discussed this many times as I do feel slighted when he gets more action than me and sometimes I think the guys are afraid to fuck me because they have penis envy and are concerned that they can't hold up to what I'm used too (which sadly has happened).

Don't get me wrong I still have fun and love watching Mr. get the attention that he does but I have found that when we enter the play room all the guys are sitting on the sofa waiting for a blowjob so they can watch all the action going on around them rather than giving the ladies the same.

For me the turn on is in the pursuit, flirting, foreplay, etc. before entering the playroom because it's true that the women are the ones that control the situation until the decision is made to turn each other loose.

Gee Mrs......

I am intrigued........Too bad I haven't met YOU at the club!!

Get over here girl!

[mrs good times]

I would love to cum in Texas, never done that before. I'll have to admit that I got pretty lucky with my man.

[JustAskJulie]

It's funny how many people will try to say that the husbands are the engine behind swinging (that you guys push us -the women- into swinging). But then when you ask around here (at least) the idea you get is that the women run the show and the guys are along for the ride.

You are right, you guys doe deserve a pat on the back, because not every guy could handle having a wife who is open-minded and willing to examine their fantasies. Many guys want that, but then when they get it they run the other way screaming. So for those guys who get what you want and then can actually handle it, here's a CHEERS to you!